To males: are INFP females appealing to you?
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So, I'll go first: not really. I mean, it's nice to hang out and all, to have fun together and stuff. But when it comes to a serious relationship, I need a person that is not so much like me. I think I would not stand all the emotions and all the things that come with an INFP.
She needs to fit. I guess I need a girl to complete me.
I don't know if I made it clear. I think she must not have the same flaws I have, for example. We need to fill each other's empty spaces.
Because of that, I tend to fall in love with girls that are more like ISTPs.
She needs to fit. I guess I need a girl to complete me.
I don't know if I made it clear. I think she must not have the same flaws I have, for example. We need to fill each other's empty spaces.
Because of that, I tend to fall in love with girls that are more like ISTPs.
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Yes yes the are, VERY appealing to me, they're the best for me, i like to be understood, and i like their way-ward ness. also i've yet to see onewo wasn't good looking either.
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Yes, for obvious reasons =)
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As long as she doesn't hate herself for whatever silly reasons. I can't stand that kind of attitude.
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Yep. I've always been immediately attracted by that kind of quiet, deep, inward intelligence, so yes, definitely attracted to INFP girls.
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I'm pretty sure I just stumbled upon a friend that's an INFP the other day, and..yes!
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i think he problem can be that most of you are all type 4s and two type 4s isn't the best pairing unless both are healthy. me i like being the one doing the help, and so far type 6 and type 4 seems like a great pairing, Nasmoe makes me feel so useful and appreciated!
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This needs a poll, like the other thread. I think it also needs to include a question like, In person has any possibly INFP female appealed much to you?
I find the personality generally appealing, but the real-world presentation not so enticing (friendly) and sexy. Lest I anger 50% of the readers, I think that could be applied to either sex.
I find the personality generally appealing, but the real-world presentation not so enticing (friendly) and sexy. Lest I anger 50% of the readers, I think that could be applied to either sex.
Yes and no.
I would jump at a chance to date a number of the ladies on here and I truly think it would be an incredible journey. Those countless hours of talk, the smiles, the tears, and just sharing experiences together as if we're the only two people in the world.
However, I consider myself a romantic and a soul searcher. I honestly need someone that can give me everything within themselves, and I will of course give myself as well. I think a lot of people on here, of both genders, have so many inhibitors that will always be an obstacle. I can be patient and I can be understanding, but I need, what I call, a "true romantic" that values that above all else. If you are truly passionate about loving then it will allow you to overcome obstacles, fears, and allow you to push yourself to limits you could not have imagined.
I "feel", that a lot of people here may forever be a slave to fear and I hope I'm wrong, but that's an honest answer that immediately shoots the redflags up in the air for me. We all start somewhere, and I realize it takes time to get to where we''re going, but we can -all- be stubborn and cling onto things that will inevitably hold us back. I don't want anything to hold back the ability to love one another though (long term).
I'll end on a quote. I can't say I've applied it to my entire life, but I can promise you I've always done it with regards to love...
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. - Mark Twain
I would jump at a chance to date a number of the ladies on here and I truly think it would be an incredible journey. Those countless hours of talk, the smiles, the tears, and just sharing experiences together as if we're the only two people in the world.
However, I consider myself a romantic and a soul searcher. I honestly need someone that can give me everything within themselves, and I will of course give myself as well. I think a lot of people on here, of both genders, have so many inhibitors that will always be an obstacle. I can be patient and I can be understanding, but I need, what I call, a "true romantic" that values that above all else. If you are truly passionate about loving then it will allow you to overcome obstacles, fears, and allow you to push yourself to limits you could not have imagined.
I "feel", that a lot of people here may forever be a slave to fear and I hope I'm wrong, but that's an honest answer that immediately shoots the redflags up in the air for me. We all start somewhere, and I realize it takes time to get to where we''re going, but we can -all- be stubborn and cling onto things that will inevitably hold us back. I don't want anything to hold back the ability to love one another though (long term).
I'll end on a quote. I can't say I've applied it to my entire life, but I can promise you I've always done it with regards to love...
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. - Mark Twain
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Very true.
I have several infp friends, and they are all completely different. Enneagram and subvariants, and all types of other factors (experience, intelligence\s, values) play a huge role in how an infp 'turns out'. Everybody seems to think all infps' have the same flaws or strengths, for example, and it's not the case. I have no problem doing domestic duties and I never really become overtly negative. I have two infp friends who have endless motivation.
Our other friend is head of a club at university and is super organised (I tend to be as well, when I'm focussed).
We're not all the same by any means at all. Having spent years around several, the differences are immense.
Taking the "we are not all the same" in consideration, I assume an INFP girl can manage to fulfill the requirements I mentioned in my previous post, actually. But this is a slight possibility.
Also, I must say I think I'm destined to suffer a lot because of love, because I always seek girls that are kind of insensitive and different from me. Oh well.
Also, I must say I think I'm destined to suffer a lot because of love, because I always seek girls that are kind of insensitive and different from me. Oh well.
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Not all INFP females are the same. Same with the male INFPs... and all the other personality types. I think it's the enneagrams that you have to look into as well, especially with the wings. I'm a Type 4 with a 5 wing, and I'm much more of a serious girl than an INFP female with an enneagram of a type 4 with a 3 wing, who is more outgoing and social than I am. (Bold words: Disregard this, I'm a dumbass.)
I wonder what enneagram type(s) go well with type 4's... :blushed:
I wonder what enneagram type(s) go well with type 4's... :blushed:
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This is hard to admit, but I've always fantasized about a girl dominating me, not in any weird way. But just kind of knowing what she wants and ridiculing me when I am over the top and too insecure. I'd like a girl who is enough self-assure that she doesn't doubt herself anymore than I do, and can tell me to stop being shy and man up! That's the kind of girl that I would most want to be a romantic warrior for. For some reason I am just not that attracted to saving the wide eyed princess, I would rather have a cynical woman who is angry and slightly annoyed with me but still can't resist. I think I lost a little respect for girls who go all gaga on me because I never feel the same way about myself. I want someone who expects more of me. Now to answer the question, heck yeah I am deadly attracted to infp girls, especially the shy quiet ones who are reserved about their intelligence and depth. I have been looking for a real challenge, someone who won't be sastified with good looks, and doesn't give me the benefit of the doubt. I want to work to win her over. E ai Dary, se brasileira? VC ta muito linda na foto.
I do find INFP girls attractive, though I haven't come to know very many in person. When I am in public places, INFPs and INFJs tend to pop out of the woodwork to me...they catch my eye, not necessarily because of physical beauty or lack thereof, but because I recognize something about them that shows through...something I relate to, something I appreciate, something I want to understand more. Usually it's in the eyes. Though often quiet and unassuming in public places, the INFPs have eyes to me that speak loudly in a beautiful language I want to comprehend. This psychic undercurrent is what usually makes it possible for me to make a fluid connection with an INFP female...I just don't socialize enough to meet very many.
Like others mentioned, I think the Enneagram types and wings for INFPs definitely make a real difference in the variations of characteristics, but I haven't looked into it much yet. I'm a 4w5. From my experience, I naturally "click" with other 4w5's the most rapidly, but I haven't had enough experience to know well enough to make any stronger assertions, nor do I want to analyze it too strongly, otherwise I might start turning my connections with people into a formula, which I do not wish to do!
Like others mentioned, I think the Enneagram types and wings for INFPs definitely make a real difference in the variations of characteristics, but I haven't looked into it much yet. I'm a 4w5. From my experience, I naturally "click" with other 4w5's the most rapidly, but I haven't had enough experience to know well enough to make any stronger assertions, nor do I want to analyze it too strongly, otherwise I might start turning my connections with people into a formula, which I do not wish to do!
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