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I find that on many occasions I will meet knew people, see that they are either younger than myself or just in need of guidance so I end up being extremely overly kind to make them feel comfortable. Also, in many of my classes I tend to smile and just be very friendly in general to ease any tension in the room, as well as making a lot of puns. (but I don't think that correlates with extroversion...)

However, I find that after a while of social interaction it really drags me down, and I grow increasingly aware that my "sunny disposition" is mostly to please others.

Also, I realized that even though I am friendly, I have a lot of trouble getting close to people. Physical contact makes me uncomfortable if I haven't had a history of physical contact with that person, and lots of excitement all at once tires me.

Am I extroverted? Because while I do enjoy being around people, social interaction exhausts me after a short amount of time.

(I hope this makes sense omg)
 
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Being introverted doesn't mean you don't enjoy social contact (I think there are very few people who don't enjoy it at all, ever), it just means that you get your energy from being alone. I can be the life of the party in the right situations, and I know several other introverts who are like that. But I am still considered an introvert, because I don't get my energy from being around people, I get it from being alone.
 

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Nah, as much as someone else can make guesses about what personality type you are, you seem like you're an introvert. I often feel much in the same way. Even though I'm not really a "people person" in the same way that you might describe someone who's really easy-going, and can initiate small talk like it isn't the hardest thing in the world, I'm definitely way more in tune with people's feelings and how they're doing. In many ways, I always feel like I'm responsible for the happiness and comfort of everyone around me. I definitely censor myself because I know it might offend other people, and I'm way better at hiding my own feelings than people around me, so I end up making sure that they're okay first.

The thing that really makes you stand out to me as an introvert is the fact that the social interaction tires you out. If you were an extrovert, broadly speaking, you'd enjoy being with people a lot more and derive energy from it. Or, at the very least, it wouldn't so noticeably tire you out so much after a short amount of time.
 

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I find that on many occasions I will meet knew people, see that they are either younger than myself or just in need of guidance so I end up being extremely overly kind to make them feel comfortable. Also, in many of my classes I tend to smile and just be very friendly in general to ease any tension in the room, as well as making a lot of puns. (but I don't think that correlates with extroversion...)

However, I find that after a while of social interaction it really drags me down, and I grow increasingly aware that my "sunny disposition" is mostly to please others.

Also, I realized that even though I am friendly, I have a lot of trouble getting close to people. Physical contact makes me uncomfortable if I haven't had a history of physical contact with that person, and lots of excitement all at once tires me.

Am I extroverted? Because while I do enjoy being around people, social interaction exhausts me after a short amount of time.

(I hope this makes sense omg)
Woah there o_O Introvert doesn't mean 'hate's people' at all! On the contrary, introverts need a healthy amount of socialising to avoid becoming mired in their own increasingly depressive thoughts.

However, there is every possibility you might in fact be an ENFP. The thing is, the amount of socialising you like to do is the wrong way to consider if you are mistyped. Instead, look up the cognitive functions. Particularly, Te and Si. ENFPs and INFPs can come across very similar in a lot of respects, but that different grasp of Te is a crucial one that distinguishes between.

In short, your type is to do with how your brain works, not whether you like people or not! :)
 

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Have you looked into enneagrams yet? INFPs usually fall into type 4s or type 9s. Type 9 infps are generally very nice to others and don't cause too much of a stir. I'm a type 4 and people think I'm an asshole sometimes. But that's okay.
 

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I completely agree with everything you said, in fact it sounded like you were describing me. I realized after about 10 years of being miserable and negative that if I want to be happy I have to think and act happy and positive and I had to treat people the way I want to be treated, so for me that means greet people with a genuine smile and a hello. It sounds corny and I didn't believe until I lived it but if your kind and thoughtful and try to see the beauty in all people and situations the world will open up to you and you start to get back what you put out.
 

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Thank you all for your input! I feel like I've sort of concretely decided on the fact that I'm introverted rather than extroverted, and thus an INFP from what everyone has said, thank you!

Have you looked into enneagrams yet? INFPs usually fall into type 4s or type 9s. Type 9 infps are generally very nice to others and don't cause too much of a stir. I'm a type 4 and people think I'm an asshole sometimes. But that's okay.
I've been looking into enneagrams, yes, though I seem to be split right in the middle of type 4 and type 9. I'm probably going to look more into this, so thank you!

I completely agree with everything you said, in fact it sounded like you were describing me. I realized after about 10 years of being miserable and negative that if I want to be happy I have to think and act happy and positive and I had to treat people the way I want to be treated, so for me that means greet people with a genuine smile and a hello. It sounds corny and I didn't believe until I lived it but if your kind and thoughtful and try to see the beauty in all people and situations the world will open up to you and you start to get back what you put out.
Yes, exactly! I'm sick of brooding and moping all the time, and the key to moving past that is to just greet every day with a smile. (Even though some days may be more difficult than others). Plus I always remembered the people that made my day just by smiling and being kind to everyone, and I think that really makes an impact.
 
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