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Anyone else suffer from having quite many interests, possibly too many?
How come 'too many'? If it's making your life or future plans a bit complicated, then we are talking about too many interests.

I am a 17-year-old INTP, currently going to high school. I want to (practice to) draw, code/program, roleplay, study biology, psychology and maths, read books, play video games, make friends, just think and sleep.
Well, while I don't really have a long list of these I can still tell that I don't actually have time for doing all of these 8-9 things as regularly as I'd like to. It's mostly because of school. Our high school system doesn't really let you read nothing but school books on your spare time. If you want to get good grades of course. But I am already going a longer high school study program so it eases things, a bit. (originally it's 3 years of high school but I get an extra half a year.)
I think the more problematic part is actually about what I want to study in the near future. I can't decide whether to focus more on art, coding/programming, biology, psychology or what. I am being reminded every other day that soon you'll have to decide what you want to do almost the rest of your life. Though, nowadays changing your career and school, even multiple times, is more common. It still gets me a bit troubled.
Of course I won't abandon the other interests that I won't invest in that much than the couple others, until I finally get fed up by doing them.


Have you experienced or are you possibly currently experiencing the same? How you deal/dealt with it?


+ I am not really complaining about having many interests. On the contrary, I somehow have to have many of them. I can't really imagine myself just focusing on one or two things (at a time.) and probably mastering it/them. I'll get bored. Though, if that one thing is an interesting area that includes many possibilities, then it's fine.

But I'd like to learn to focus on one or couple things at a time, just in general. I get bored too easily.
 

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I am a 17-year-old INTP, currently going to high school. I want to (practice to) draw, code/program, roleplay, study biology, psychology and maths, read books, play video games, make friends, just think and sleep.
Write down your list of interests and prioritize them. It would be useful if you can prioritize skills that you can use in the future. For example, when I was your age, I gave up friends to pursue my interests. You can try going down that path, as well.
 
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Personally, I would not give up friends to pursue your interests. If you're an INTP, most of your interests are pointless anyway :tongue:. And besides, you'll probably want a few of them around when you're older and you begin to realize it gets harder to actually make friends.

I realized that when I was younger, a lot of my interests weren't true interests. I liked the idea of doing certain things, but I didn't like actually doing them. I thought I liked drawing. I first got interested in it when I took it as a free elective in college, and I'm pretty sure it was the first time I ever really used Se. I was amazed by the fact there was a whole aspect to life I never really payed attention to. I forced myself to keep drawing after the class was over but stopped after a couple months. Frankly, drawing was in all reality pretty boring. Is it possible that some of your interests are really just curiosities, or that you like the idea of doing them rather than actually doing them? if so, I would jettison them.

I can definitely relate to wanting to focus more on a smaller number of interests, but also getting bored quickly. Getting bored doesn't happen to me much anymore and I'm not sure if it's because I've simply gotten older and more mature, or because I've realized that there is almost a kind of high that you get when you start learning something new, and that I became less interested in getting that fix and more interested in actually mastering subjects. I started focusing more on a smaller number of subjects as a natural result of wanting to apply the knowledge in ways that were meaningful to me.
 

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That's a problem I actually have too, I tried to choose to continue studying what, in a certain sense, did cover most of them ( music, programming, gaminng, editing images and so ), so I did choose to go to try to get an Information Engineering degree.
I still pursue, mostly, my interest of programming and want to try to learn game programming, yet I am i the part of the "route to programmer" where I'm mostly (totally) discomforted about my actual programming skills -plus I... can't accept ruby that easily. I didn't understand the logic behind most of the decision I deem dumb, but I have to program using it-; the other interest I ended up pursuing most is music. I pretty much love singing ( it's funny, etc. ) and using my voice in general ( for dubbing, who I consider an exercise to acquire a better diction and articulation ) and cartoon/comics (especially Japanese ones).
I found most of the people I interact with via my interests, so I generally don't search for social interactions directly.
 

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Write down your list of interests and prioritize them. It would be useful if you can prioritize skills that you can use in the future. For example, when I was your age, I gave up friends to pursue my interests. You can try going down that path, as well.
I should do that properly. Maybe some of them will be forgotten, hopefully.

Personally, I would not give up friends to pursue your interests. If you're an INTP, most of your interests are pointless anyway :tongue:. And besides, you'll probably want a few of them around when you're older and you begin to realize it gets harder to actually make friends.

I thought I liked drawing. I first got interested in it when I took it as a free elective in college, and I'm pretty sure it was the first time I ever really used Se. I was amazed by the fact there was a whole aspect to life I never really payed attention to. I forced myself to keep drawing after the class was over but stopped after a couple months. Frankly, drawing was in all reality pretty boring. Is it possible that some of your interests are really just curiosities, or that you like the idea of doing them rather than actually doing them? if so, I would jettison them.
I've drawn since I was 4 and I think I am visually somewhat talented. I've noticed, though, that I can't concentrate on drawing one thing for a long time so my drawing habits include mostly just sketches, doodles and unifinished stuff. But I have this great passion to learn to draw and concentrate better. It might be just a pleasing idea or because I've been told for my whole life that ''Oh, you draw so well. You are definitely going to be an artist!'' It may have affected my thinking. I don't know.
Becoming sort of an artist is quite pleasing idea but I don't know if I am able to do it. I still have way to go with practicing. Though, I am still quite young but it seems that many artists of my age are way more talented and experienced than me so I sort of back off sometimes. I've been stressed because I've though I am not good enough but I still just keep going more or less actively. I almost fear of giving up drawing which makes me think if this is healthy or not. I think I enjoy doing it, though.

I generally don't search for social interactions directly.
Me neither. Friendships used to come to me before but in high school I've had to be the one making the initiative which means no friends for me, basically. Though, apparently my mental state needs a friend or two. I basically got no social life.
 

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Anyone else suffer from having quite many interests, possibly too many?
How come 'too many'? If it's making your life or future plans a bit complicated, then we are talking about too many interests.

I am a 17-year-old INTP, currently going to high school. I want to (practice to) draw, code/program, roleplay, study biology, psychology and maths, read books, play video games, make friends, just think and sleep.
Well, while I don't really have a long list of these I can still tell that I don't actually have time for doing all of these 8-9 things as regularly as I'd like to. It's mostly because of school. Our high school system doesn't really let you read nothing but school books on your spare time. If you want to get good grades of course. But I am already going a longer high school study program so it eases things, a bit. (originally it's 3 years of high school but I get an extra half a year.)
I think the more problematic part is actually about what I want to study in the near future. I can't decide whether to focus more on art, coding/programming, biology, psychology or what. I am being reminded every other day that soon you'll have to decide what you want to do almost the rest of your life. Though, nowadays changing your career and school, even multiple times, is more common. It still gets me a bit troubled.
Of course I won't abandon the other interests that I won't invest in that much than the couple others, until I finally get fed up by doing them.


Have you experienced or are you possibly currently experiencing the same? How you deal/dealt with it?


+ I am not really complaining about having many interests. On the contrary, I somehow have to have many of them. I can't really imagine myself just focusing on one or two things (at a time.) and probably mastering it/them. I'll get bored. Though, if that one thing is an interesting area that includes many possibilities, then it's fine.

But I'd like to learn to focus on one or couple things at a time, just in general. I get bored too easily.
Yep, I had the same experience as you when I was 17, too many interests and not enough focus on one. My parents told me to choose the interest that will pay well and that I would enjoy. So I'm in university now studying Geology & Physics, I don't know if it's the best choice cause I have more interest in Music but it won't pay as well. I only get 4 - 5 hours of rest daily because I spend the other 19-20 hours doing assignments, reading about psychology, fundraising for charity so I can go to Nepal next year, listening to new music, learning new songs on the piano, texting friends, watching youtube videos, playing sports & travelling. I can't spend the majority of the time working on my coursework because it's a toil and I get bored when I have to do hard work. So what normally happens is, I work an insane amount of hours when it comes to exam time and just before assignment deadlines. The pressure motivates me. I tried making a schedule but it never works, I get bored with doing the same consistent thing day-to-day. I normally take a few mins in the morning to decide what I want to do each day and then try my best to fulfil those tasks. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But the key is, I have to WANT to do those tasks or else my motivation is in the grave.

I'd like to say, choose what you're most passionate about but then another problem is money.
 

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Me neither. Friendships used to come to me before but in high school I've had to be the one making the initiative which means no friends for me, basically. Though, apparently my mental state needs a friend or two. I basically got no social life.
In my case, "friends" or I don't know how I can call them, found me, mostly
 

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Consider yourself lucky, having no interests is much worse.
 

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A lot of interests you can develop outside of college, or even go back for once you get your money-making degree. College is so ridiculously expensive now, it's a gamble to major in subjects that aren't very marketable.
 

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I personally juggle many interests and hobbies around at once, but my advice on college and picking what to have as a career is to not start college until you are sure of what you want to major in because it's expensive as f. Don't go to college right after high school graduation, either, so you can take some time off from school for some soul searching before college. I wish I had done that... it would have made college be less of a hell hole. It's better to figure out who you are as a person before jumping into a time/financial investment like college and most fresh high school grads really don't know who they are yet.
 

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I'm not an INTP obvs. But I do have many interests. Reality is you can't have it all. Therefore you have to prioritize and organize your day to day life, otherwise you're never going to get anything done at all. But as a general rule :

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To me it is to draw and write. So I spend most of my time drawing and writing. But i'm interested in everything, it's just that I know that I can't do it all, because I am not immortal and I need to sleep.
 

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I think the more problematic part is actually about what I want to study in the near future. I can't decide whether to focus more on art, coding/programming, biology, psychology or what. I am being reminded every other day that soon you'll have to decide what you want to do almost the rest of your life.
I know, pain in the ass.
Be pragmatic (at least try to).
Write everything down and think - what suits you most, what kind of specialists employers seek for, which subject is too popular and which is forgotten (and maybe worth a look)?
Psychology is garbage in my opinion. I don't know how does it look in your country, in my it's target of morons who think it would be easy and funny, and as a matter of fact they just want to be young and go to party for a few years more. Maybe psychiatry?
If I were you, I would think about programming.
I like art too, but I have to be in mood to draw. I can't imagine doing that ''because deadline''. Can you? Maybe develop it as a hobby.


Have you experienced or are you possibly currently experiencing the same? How you deal/dealt with it?
When I was about to choose what would I do in the future, I made a list of careers which could interest me and/or would be the best comparing to my predispositions.
I took into consideration even job as trucker, dubbing actor (yeah, I know), undertaker or archaeologist (last two are awesome, but I doubt if archeology is profitable).
I really wanted to become a sailor since I was 14, but I was sure I couldn't handle it. Few years later I recalled that and finally decided to go this way (and obviously couldn't make up my mind whether I want to be a navigator or mechanic, huh), because why the hell not? Good job, good money, good everything.
 
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A lot of interests you can develop outside of college, or even go back for once you get your money-making degree. College is so ridiculously expensive now, it's a gamble to major in subjects that aren't very marketable.
but my advice on college and picking what to have as a career is to not start college until you are sure of what you want to major in because it's expensive as f. Don't go to college right after high school graduation, either, so you can take some time off from school for some soul searching before college. I wish I had done that... it would have made college be less of a hell hole. It's better to figure out who you are as a person before jumping into a time/financial investment like college and most fresh high school grads really don't know who they are yet.
Unless you don't have to pay the tuition in college/uni, so it is almost free and that's the case in my country. Though, who knows how long anymore.
But yeah, I understand what you mean by that ''soul-searching''. I already go to high school a half a year longer than most people. So I got some extra time to think. Also, I'll be graduating in winter, so I have another half a year to wait because not too many schools take students in the winter time. I'll get a small job or try to figure some things out then.
There's possibilities.
 

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I think the more problematic part is actually about what I want to study in the near future. I can't decide whether to focus more on art, coding/programming, biology, psychology or what. I am being reminded every other day that soon you'll have to decide what you want to do almost the rest of your life. Though, nowadays changing your career and school, even multiple times, is more common. It still gets me a bit troubled.
If you're really passionate about art, I think you'd know. I wanted to be a fiction writer when I was a kid and I used to write something every day. These days, even though I still like the idea of becoming a writer, it's not a major priority and I know it. I know it because I don't feel compelled to write on a regular basis. I don't miss it. That doesn't mean I abandoned writing forever but it does mean that I want to focus on other things.

Coding skills are becoming increasingly important these days. Honestly, it doesn't even matter if you go into a tech-related major or not. More and more businesses and even government agencies are demanding programming skills.

If you're interested in Biology or Psychology, you can just read science news while you're on the toilet or stuck on a bus or something. That'll help you gauge your level of interest and see which sub-fields and specific jobs you might like. Maybe join a club at school or enter a competition. But I don't think you need to stress about it as a high school student.


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Yeah. It's hard. I just go with the flow and try to do what feels most important.
 

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I personally juggle many interests and hobbies around at once, but my advice on college and picking what to have as a career is to not start college until you are sure of what you want to major in because it's expensive as f. Don't go to college right after high school graduation, either, so you can take some time off from school for some soul searching before college. I wish I had done that... it would have made college be less of a hell hole. It's better to figure out who you are as a person before jumping into a time/financial investment like college and most fresh high school grads really don't know who they are yet.
Yea I wish I hadn't gone to college directly after high school either. I didn't know enough about myself or what I wanted and my focus didn't usually land in the right places. Instead of coming out with a degree, I dropped out with some social skills, a little built up confidence, and some fun memories. Things I definitely needed to experience, but technically could've gotten outside of school too if I waited.

TBH I think there should be a 1-year grace period for everyone or 1-2 years of college that don't count or limit the number of responsibilities. There's just too much shit happening at that age to be able to handle that much discovery and life planning in such a short time. Hell most people's hormones are still going so crazy they can barely focus their short-term priorities. At least 90% of the people I know and meet wasted at least a year and a half of school to self-discovery, partying etc. But by their junior and senior years they were ready to settle things down and get serious more or less. I'm talking about stories like; idiots who smash their own dorm-room windows becoming managers of legitimate businesses 2 years later. There's just too much growth in those years for anyone to know wtf they're doing, let alone finding a career.
 
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