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Top 5 Characteristics
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  1. Someone who can intellectually keep up with me is a muse
  2. An off beat but good sense of humor. Personally I like someone whose as weird as I am in the joke department
  3. Someone who is steadfast in their principles even when they disagree with me, but who won't force their views on me.
  4. Personally....I love geeky nerd boys. I mean not the obsessive obnoxious kind who have NOTHING else on their minds but their hobbies/loves.
  5. MEn who are intimidated by self-assured women.
Top 5 Physical Features

  1. Well I like shaggy haired brunettes
  2. I like guys who know how to dress for the occasion and don't fit into a box when it comes to style
  3. I prefer them to be close to my height(6"2).
  4. Blue eyes...
  5. Glasses...glasses...did I say glasses

Top 5 Dislikes


  1. obnoxious gum chewers/eaters
  2. Loud men who don't know how to shut up
  3. Arrogant jerks who think they can get away with anything
  4. Men who refuse to take responsibility
  5. Men who are WAY too emotional.
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Top 5 Desires
1. He has to be willing to correct me
2. He's for adopting a child or animals
3. He has to be practical
4. He has to understand me
5. He should be creative
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
intelligent
willing to teach/willing to learn
playfulness
sense of humor (not a comedian)
humble

Top 5 Physical Features
kind eyes
warm smile
strong, gentle hands that can be rough at the right time
stamina
taller than I (not difficult since I'm 5'3")

Top 5 Dislikes
arrogance
inattentiveness
unwilling to tell me when I've done something to upset he
no sense of adventure
patronizing attitude

Top 5 Desires
do new things
challenge my views
accept me as I am
creativity
assertive
 

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I'll bite, I would like to show my appreciation first of all to you CaesAug for mentioning Men/Women instead of automatically assuming that everyone is hetero.

Top 5 Characteristics
1. Sensitive/Emotional venerability
2. Intelligent
3. Has own sense of self
4. Probing curiosity
5. Good person all around (considerate, thoughtful, etc)

Top 5 Physical Features
1. All their parts are there, together and in the right places
2. Healthy
3. Not fat
4. No mental health issues, no crazies
5. Good hygiene
* Other than those particular aspects I size people up wholly and go from there, I don't really have preferences in the physical department, it's simple, the person just has to be attractive to me and that comes in many varieties.

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Religious
2. Wants marriage
3. Wants kids/owns a pet/animals
4. Votes
5. Lacks an intellectual brain, lacks different perspectives, is myopic and lives in boxes

Top 5 Desires
1. Able to give me freedom, personal space and my independence, let's me soar, with little to no strings attached, doesn't feel the need to "tame" or "control" me.
2. Desire to explore sexuality/polyamory/create a triad
3. Accepts me and gets me, mental stimulation
4. Desire to explore/travel the world with me, my mind and their mind together
5. Desire to live on a few acres, build an eco-type house, pay little to no mortgage and live a different life that most people aren't accustomed to and is of the same philosophy as I.
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
1. Reasonable/Rational
2. Considerate and caring
3. Intelligent/Intellectual
4. Confident/High self esteem (!!!)
5. Adventurous and willing to try new things

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Significantly taller than me. I'm also 5'3", so it starts at 5'10", the average of American men. I've dated short and scrawny men. Let's just say the cuddling wasn't comfortable.
2. Can't be scrawny. I'll take stocky over scrawny. Preferably athletic and lean.
3. Average to above average face. He doesn't have to be hot, but I don't like, I'm sorry, ugly men.
4. Warm and bright smile.
5. Short, straight hair

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Too sexual and flirtatious, expecting PDA
2. Meek and unsure of himself
3. Conservative, close minded and old fashioned
4. Empty-headed and dense
5. Needs to much verbal affirmation of affection/clingy, doesn't know when to leave me alone

Top 5 Desires
1. Artistic, literary and musical
2. Financially stable/upwardly mobile
3. Treats me like a "person", not a lady. If I'm being silly and immature, for god's sake tell me off.
4. Polite and has good manners
5. Honest, sincere and morally upright
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
1. Mentally/Emotionally Stable
2. Intellectual
3. Compassionate
4. Rational/Logical
5. Humble

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Intense eyes
2. Expressive hands
3. Taller than me, I'm between 5'2 and 5'3 so it's not difficult.
4. I don't have a hair colour preference... but I do go all gooey for men with dreadlocks.
5. High cheek bones and chiseled face are also very nice.

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Misogyny
2. People who need to drink alcohol at every social event
3. Conservative, close minded and old fashioned
4. Over the top displays of moosh. Yuk. I'm a woman not a little girl.
5. Jealousy

Top 5 Desires
1. Goal orientated
2. Vegetarian / Vegan/ or at least healthy eating habits
3. Computer/technology literate.
4. Open to the idea of having a family
5. Environmentally aware
 

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Top Five Characteristics

1. Intelligent, preferably more than I am.
2. Handsome - I won't deny that it has great significance.
3. Great sense of humor.
4. Able to be spontaneous and romantic.
5. Basically, a playful naughty boy ;)

Top Five Physical Features

1. Beautiful eyes - they are almost everything.
2. Not too tall - I'm so short it might be a problem ;)
3. Slim, or thin. The first boy I 'liked' was thin and I guess it just lingers somewhere in my mind o_O
4. Dark, messy hair. And that he messes them with his hand every now and then (soooo sexy!).
5. Nice hands. I don't actually know why, but it has been proven somewhere that women pay attention to those.

Top Five Dislikes

1. Stupidity. No doubt about it.
2. Narrow mind.
3. Disorganized - I would really hate to cooperate with someone like that.
4. Too much extroversion or too much of a Feeler - You know what I mean.
5. If he was boring an just waiting for me to do things - a man should initiate much of our contact.

Top Five Desires

1. That I'd be the most important person to him in the whole world :tongue: I'm not gonna explain that, it's just a standard that needs to be met.
2. That he'd bring me flowers now and then and treat me like a lady.
3. That he'd appreciate my brainpower and skills.
4. Good and inventive bed - also a must :wink:
5. That apart form physical desire we'd share great interest in each other's minds.

Thank You for Your attention. :)
 

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What I look for in women:

Top 5 Characteristics
- Intelligent
- Nerdy
- Laid Back
- Health-conscious
- Self-confident

Top 5 Physical Features
- Bright eyes
- Bright smile
- Well-maintained
- Pixie haircut *grin*
- Elf-like features

Top 5 Dislikes
- Stupid
- Loud
- Rude
- Extreme Emotions
- Manipulation - especially emotional

Top 5 Desires
- Enjoys solitude
- Prefers routine
- Likes organization
- Appreciates efficiency
- Accepting of change where needed in routine to be efficient :wink:
 

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Listed in no particular order...
Top 5 Characteristics
  • Intelligent intellectually and emotionally.
  • Shared values.
  • Sense of humor.
  • More extroverted than I, and socially savvy.
  • Appreciative of theories, deep discussions, debates, etc.
Top 5 Physical Features
  • Bigger than I. (I'm somewhat small, so this isn't hard).
  • Fit (not a fitness junkie, but attractively muscled)
  • Hygenic appearance (i.e. dressed appropriately, has clearly bathed recently, hair's kept)
  • Attractive (in my eyes :wink: )
  • A beautiful smile and/or striking eyes
Top 5 Dislikes
  • Excessively loud in movement or actions. Unnecessary noise = sensory overload.
  • Arrogance and/or self-centeredness.
  • Shallowness, insensitive.
  • Lack of loyalty and/or trustworthiness.
  • Stupidity (i.e. someone who lives as if "ignorance is bliss")
Top 5 Desires
  • Is not only supportive of my career, but willing to take active interest in it.
  • Will not just 'tolerate' but enjoy my various pets.
  • Is not adverse to adopting, fostering, or mentoring children.
  • Similar taste in entertainment.
  • Financially savvy and secure.
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
Integrity
Intelligence
Humour - I like the more random loopy kind, to bring out my silly side
Similar values
At least some overlap of interests and approach, much as I like learning strange different things from different strange people

Top 5 Physical Features
Not so tall or short compared to me as to make things awkward. It's nice when they're the right height to have their arm around you and you fit in the crook of their shoulder without awkward adjustements. I have a bad back. :tongue:
Relatively fit
Reasonably well-groomed, but not crazy-like, because I have slobby moments too - just not gross
Healthy would be nice, but not annoyingly so because I get sick and I hate gloaters
I tend to like dark hair

Top 5 Dislikes
Getting paranoid at everything
Getting offended at everything
Doesn't read
Lack of mental flexibility - bigotry of any kind, especially
Cares what other people think of him

Top 5 Desires
Someone I can talk with for hours about the most random silly imaginary shit
Someone I can trust without it ever being an effort - someone who trusts me too, just as automatically
Someone who slots into my life so neatly that I never have a meltdown over boundary violations and too much human overload
Someone who can have some understanding of the toll emotional abuse and chronic illness have taken on my life without deciding to diagnose me or pathologise my reactions to things when they do not warrant it (if they do, totally call me on it - I'll deal)
Someone with enough security to know that most things really aren't fights and that we really are ok, we don't have to be scared
 

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In no particular order of importance :

Top 5 Characteristics


1 - Intelligence and a sense of logic
2 - Able to sustain an argument without becoming emotional or aggressive
3 - Generosity, both material and spiritual - can't stand cheap/egocentric people
4 - Self-confidence but no (or few, can deal with it) arrogance, especially if unjustified
5 - Strong ethics and the balls to stand up for them and him/herself


Top 5 Physical Features
(primarily I'm not physically attracted to guys so girls only : )

1 - Long dark hair, preferably curly - redheads got a free pass on length and curliness 'cause they're too awesome to be picky
2 - Either black or very light brown eyes
3 - Pulpy lips
4 - Not too tall (or must agree to let me be the only one wearing high heels when together :tongue:)
5 - I don't have favourite sizes for boobs/booty/legs/whatever, but general harmonious proportions and not fat
* - Bonus if she's black

~~And although when I happen to be into a guy it's because I fell for his mind, nice hands, muscled arms/shoulders and a bit of hair here and there are always nice :mellow:


Top 5 Dislikes


1 - Whiny, bitchy, hypocrit, gossipy, passive-aggressive, smile-in-front-of-you-stab-you-in-the-back... in short, typical girl BS
1 bis - For guys : overprotective, patronizing, belittling, white-knight-in-shiny-armour attitude... in short, typical macho BS
2 - Closed-mindness : it covers prejudices and any kind of unquestioned preform-thoughts, hostility toward changes and new ideas, being stubborn even if wrong etc.
3 - No sense of being a world citizen/apathy : no interest or "it's just the way it is" attitude toward environment, politics, societal rules... only cares about his/hers little bubble of comfort
4 - No passions. Doesn't matter if we don"t have any interest in each other's, s/he just has to be passionnate about something.
5 - Superficiality and/or silly behavior - it's nice once in a while to release some steam and all, not if it's regular or -worse!- constant


Top 5 Desires


1 - Understand and respect my need for privacy and space
2 - Can commit to the relationship without taking me for granted or theorizing a future together. I love having my plans, I'll love you even more if you have your plans, but there is no our plans.
3 - A willingness to work together and do our best through issues and hard times if the relationship is serious, and to not bother each other and drag along things more than needed if it's not
4 - A relationship where we work and grow together into becoming better persons without trying to change each other
5 - Wild sex!
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
1. Able to keep up with me and my ideas.
2. Will support me in everything I do, including my weirdness.
3. Sense of humor. He has to be able to make me laugh or at least smile.
4. Intelligent
5. Emotionally stable.

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Physically fit, must be strong.
2. Beautiful eyes, I like the droopy-looking ones like Julian Casablancas'
3. Not too buff, not too slim.
4. Black - brown hair.
5. Must be taller than me.
(Tall, dark and handsome I guess?)

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Unorganized and messy.
2. Too talkative aka someone who can't keep his mouth shut.
3. Someone who tells me that I'm wrong even if he's the one who is wrong.
4. Irrational/biased.
5. Stupidity.

Top 5 Desires
1. Financially secure.
2. Smarter than me, and is willing to support me every step of the way.
3. Will do anything for me, as long as it's rational.
4. Must be efficient in everything that he does, and is a perfectionist.
5. He must always appreciate me and everything I do. I love praise.

I want someone who is exactly like me. It would be cool. I hope I find one.
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
1. Intellectual
2. Great sense of humor
3. Opened to new ideas or things
4. Healthy Self-Esteem
5. Compassionate/Great Listener

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Light eyes
2. Dark curly or shaggy hair
3. Strong arms
4. Taller than me (I'm only 5'3 1/2)
5. Full Lips

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Easily Jealous/Controlling
2. Incosistency in behavior
3. Infidelity
4. Misogynistic
5. Needy

Top 5 Desires
1. Chivalrous
2. Ambitious/Determinded/Challenges me
3. Utmost honesty and trust
4. Is loyal to me
5. Will love me for all that I am: good and bad
 

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Characteristics:
Loyalty
Intelligence
Integrity
Industry
Irony

Physical Features:
Good eye contact
Nice smile
Reasonably but not overly fit
Not too clumsy
Strong enough to carry his own books

Dislikes
Getting all tetchy about being smart
Whining
Being afraid to talk to my friends
Talks to his mother more than twice a day
Playing the radio, stereo, and television on high volume at the same time

Desires
Playful
Able to manage a garbage disposal or DVD player without help
Attentive
Doesn't make me kill wasps
Not afraid of squirrels
 

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Top 5 Characteristics
intelligent
willing to teach/willing to learn
playfulness
sense of humor (not a comedian)
humble

Top 5 Physical Features
kind eyes
warm smile
strong, gentle hands that can be rough at the right time
stamina
taller than I (not difficult since I'm 5'3")

Top 5 Dislikes
arrogance
inattentiveness
unwilling to tell me when I've done something to upset he
no sense of adventure
patronizing attitude

Top 5 Desires
do new things
challenge my views
accept me as I am
creativity
assertive
Top 5 Characteristics
1. Reasonable/Rational
2. Considerate and caring
3. Intelligent/Intellectual
4. Confident/High self esteem (!!!)
5. Adventurous and willing to try new things

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Significantly taller than me. I'm also 5'3", so it starts at 5'10", the average of American men. I've dated short and scrawny men. Let's just say the cuddling wasn't comfortable.
2. Can't be scrawny. I'll take stocky over scrawny. Preferably athletic and lean.
3. Average to above average face. He doesn't have to be hot, but I don't like, I'm sorry, ugly men.
4. Warm and bright smile.
5. Short, straight hair

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Too sexual and flirtatious, expecting PDA
2. Meek and unsure of himself
3. Conservative, close minded and old fashioned
4. Empty-headed and dense
5. Needs to much verbal affirmation of affection/clingy, doesn't know when to leave me alone

Top 5 Desires
1. Artistic, literary and musical
2. Financially stable/upwardly mobile
3. Treats me like a "person", not a lady. If I'm being silly and immature, for god's sake tell me off.
4. Polite and has good manners
5. Honest, sincere and morally upright
Top 5 Characteristics
1. Intellectual
2. Great sense of humor
3. Opened to new ideas or things
4. Healthy Self-Esteem
5. Compassionate/Great Listener

Top 5 Physical Features
1. Light eyes
2. Dark curly or shaggy hair
3. Strong arms
4. Taller than me (I'm only 5'3 1/2)
5. Full Lips

Top 5 Dislikes
1. Easily Jealous/Controlling
2. Incosistency in behavior
3. Infidelity
4. Misogynistic
5. Needy

Top 5 Desires
1. Chivalrous
2. Ambitious/Determinded/Challenges me
3. Utmost honesty and trust
4. Is loyal to me
5. Will love me for all that I am: good and bad
Characteristics:
Loyalty
Intelligence
Integrity
Industry
Irony

Physical Features:
Good eye contact
Nice smile
Reasonably but not overly fit
Not too clumsy
Strong enough to carry his own books

Dislikes
Getting all tetchy about being smart
Whining
Being afraid to talk to my friends
Talks to his mother more than twice a day
Playing the radio, stereo, and television on high volume at the same time

Desires
Playful
Able to manage a garbage disposal or DVD player without help
Attentive
Doesn't make me kill wasps
Not afraid of squirrels

These somewhat describe me. Just saying. :bored:
 

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Top 5 Characteristics; Top 5 Physical Features; Top 5 Dislikes; Top 5 Desires I'm curious.
hhmmm this is thought provoking indeed
top 5 things i prefer in men

top 5 characteristics:
being different/unique/special/extraordinary
having ambitions
openmindedness
being a good listener
being able to express feelings and emotions


top 5 physical features:
nice eyes
broad muscular chest and arms
cute smile
fit ie not fat but not skinny
own hair and teeth

top 5 dislikes:
not being able to stand up to me/being 'wussy'
inability to be on time or recognise the importance of trying
snoring
selfishness/thoughtlessness/being inconsiderate
not listening, or thinking he needs to listen because he already knows it all already

top 5 desires
someone who makes me want to share hugs with them - rare indeed
someone who i can go for long walks up mountains with
someone who is fab in bed - i'm so amazing myself so i deserve the best in return :laughing:
someone who is patient and chilled out to balance me when i get stressed
someone who makes me feel i can rely on them, dependable
 
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