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I'm nearly 23 and as long as I can remember I've had problems with physical intimacy and expressing emotions through physical contact. I don't just mean in a sexual or romantic way I've even been uncomfortable with friendly hugs or if someone sits or stands too close to me
It's kind of ridiculous. My friends even have an inside joke about what an unwilling hugger I am lol 
Because of these issues I've never kissed anyone sober (just drunk when someone kissed me and I just kind of went along with it but didn't enjoy it at all), dated anyone or had sex or done anything sexual (no blowjobs or base action or even over the clothing stuff). I haven't even cuddled with anyone ever. I sound like I'm a total hermit but I'm actually quite outgoing these days, I'm in college and go out weekly with my very extroverted friends and have hobbies and close friends. Just nothing romantic or sexual. I'm also not asexual.
I've gotten a bit better at it since I have friends who are very physically affectionate and love to give bear hugs. I've even started to be okay with less personal space and don't mind sitting close and leaning on someone when hanging out if I like them as a human.
I get romantic and sexual feelings rarely, and just towards people I feel connected to (I guess I would classify as demi), but the idea of actually having sex with someone seems so weird to me and I don't know if I could do it. Even kissing seems like a big step to be honest which is crazy since I am 23 soon and not 13.
I don't know if this is an INFJ thing or just my personal issue :,) I'd love to hear if anyone can relate!
Because of these issues I've never kissed anyone sober (just drunk when someone kissed me and I just kind of went along with it but didn't enjoy it at all), dated anyone or had sex or done anything sexual (no blowjobs or base action or even over the clothing stuff). I haven't even cuddled with anyone ever. I sound like I'm a total hermit but I'm actually quite outgoing these days, I'm in college and go out weekly with my very extroverted friends and have hobbies and close friends. Just nothing romantic or sexual. I'm also not asexual.
I've gotten a bit better at it since I have friends who are very physically affectionate and love to give bear hugs. I've even started to be okay with less personal space and don't mind sitting close and leaning on someone when hanging out if I like them as a human.
I get romantic and sexual feelings rarely, and just towards people I feel connected to (I guess I would classify as demi), but the idea of actually having sex with someone seems so weird to me and I don't know if I could do it. Even kissing seems like a big step to be honest which is crazy since I am 23 soon and not 13.
I don't know if this is an INFJ thing or just my personal issue :,) I'd love to hear if anyone can relate!