People are so much more than a 4 letter classification. I tested as an EFSJ, but I also consider myself to be a protector at times, a thinker, a supervisor or teacher.
But... to answer your question
Anger/"mean": If I'm not careful I'll snap back at whatever is causing me to feel that way. I know that anger is a response to being hurt somehow, so I try to look for the root cause and take a deep breath before saying something. It doesn't always work, lol. As I get older it feels like it's easier though.
Stress: Depends on what caused the stress. I like "good" stress as it motivates me. "Bad" stress I try to avoid. I have learned my limits (or what I like to think of as my limits), and the best policy for me is to avoid being in a bad stress job/place.
One thing that you didn't list is criticism, which cuts deep wounds. If someone I don't know criticizes me, it's a tiny paper-cut. The closer someone is to me, the deeper the hurt. Criticism from my wife or closest friends is like being impaled on a red-hot spear, and it usually drives me to a really dark place of depression. I retreat from the world and become as unseen as possible. The few times it has happened have been life-altering events.
-ZDD