Turns out he has a Wife

Schizoid

Art-demure said:
I have been calling and chatting with the man that I met in the museum. He told me he was 25. It turns out he was 37 years old. His wife texted me all of a sudden and I never knew he had a wife since he has been asking me out almost like a date. I'm very glad I don't have to invest emotionally with a married man again and a good thing I know about this information sooner...

Seems like our socionics duals aren't very trustworthy people.

Your museum dude reminds me of this singer's husband who married her because he wanted to exploit her and use her as his cash cow. Apparently he's an SLE as well.

Oh you can read up more about their relationship/marriage over here:

https://inf.news/en/entertainment/dcc2efeafb099770b06c09139549359e.html

Heh I guess socionics isn't always accurate at all, our duals isn't always our best match.

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #3 · 7 d ago

Schizoid said:
Seems like our socionics duals aren't very trustworthy people.

From my experience, no unfortunately 😕
. I like their protective nature which I don't really find in any type except the ESTP. I know anyone can be protective, but STP especially are protective which I admire in them along with ENFJs however the Se in STPs can be rewarding. I guess our duals aren't that monogamous, but I am completely open to relationships like that since I am not a jealous type. I just don't trust them with the way they deal with money. Anyway, any individual can act like this so it isn't just our duals tho they do have a pattern like that from what I've noticed.

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #4 · 7 d ago

Schizoid said:
Your museum dude reminds me of this singer's husband who married her because he wanted to exploit her and use her as his cash cow. Apparently he's an SLE as well.

Oh, my. That's awful. It reminds me of someone now that you told me😓

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SgtPepper

· #5 · 7 d ago

Art-demure said:
a good thing I know about this information sooner...

Take your time. Take your damn time.

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WickerDeer

· #6 · 7 d ago

Art-demure said:
I have been calling and chatting with the man that I met in the museum. He told me he was 25. It turns out he was 37 years old. His wife texted me all of a sudden and I never knew he had a wife since he has been asking me out almost like a date. I'm very glad I don't have to invest emotionally with a married man again and a good thing I know about this information sooner...

Wow! Yeah, maybe he is a compulsive liar or maybe he just chronically goes around and lies to women like that. Poor wife. Sucks to be her with such a shitty husband. Yeah, is lucky she texted you.

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-maru-chan-

· #7 · 7 d ago

Art-demure said:
I have been calling and chatting with the man that I met in the museum. He told me he was 25. It turns out he was 37 years old. His wife texted me all of a sudden and I never knew he had a wife since he has been asking me out almost like a date. I'm very glad I don't have to invest emotionally with a married man again and a good thing I know about this information sooner...

oof many people does this, seeking pleasure outside of their legal marital relationship. gotta make sure to be more cautious in the future, you save yourself from a bulet. Imagine the emotional rollercoaster you have to go through over this man if you found out later? geez.

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #8 · 7 d ago

-maru-chan- said:
oof many people does this, seeking pleasure outside of their legal marital relationship. gotta make sure to be more cautious in the future, you save yourself from a bulet. Imagine the emotional rollercoaster you have to go through over this man if you found out later? geez.

I already did a mistake before. I don't want to repeat it again.

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Ms. Aligned

· #9 · 7 d ago

Baaahahahaha! GOOD FOR THE WIFE!

Sorry you wasted your time, but fuck yeah. Women looking out for women.

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-maru-chan-

· #10 · 7 d ago

Art-demure said:
I already did a mistake before. I don't want to repeat it again.

Uh tell usssss

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-maru-chan-

· #11 · 7 d ago

I'm a little bit sleep deprived right now, I'm sorry I thought u were a different person from the OP

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #12 · 6 d ago

-maru-chan- said:
Uh tell usssss

You can read my previous threads. I basically pour my soul out there along with the blogs I am currently writing.

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #13 · 6 d ago

WickerDeer said:
Wow! Yeah, maybe he is a compulsive liar or maybe he just chronically goes around and lies to women like that. Poor wife. Sucks to be her with such a shitty husband. Yeah, is lucky she texted you.

Hard to find a non-cheap honest man nowadays. I suppose they just come to me because they are cheap. The expensive ones don't usually do this I noticed. But I honestly don't do the first moves. I also get attracted to the extroverted ones so yes it is difficult 🤔

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WickerDeer

· #14 · 6 d ago

Art-demure said:
Hard to find a non-cheap honest man nowadays. I suppose they just come to me because they are cheap. The expensive ones don't usually do this I noticed. But I honestly don't do the first moves. I also get attracted to the extroverted ones so yes it is difficult 🤔

I still haven't a clue how to date properly and I'm forty years old.

But yeah, you're probably empathetic, open minded, and honest. The exact type of person who some predatory or exploitative people would prefer to rope in.

Remember your value--take it slow like Sgt. Pepper said. You never know someone till you've spent enough time. I am so sorry this happened to you. What a betrayal of trust--no human being should treat another human being--even a stranger--the way he treated you. But unfortunately there are people like that out there, and they definitely don't deserve you. So remember that--and that you are worth so much more.

Maybe if you have any girlfriends, try to get them involved too. Sometimes it helps to have a second opinion from a friend. I know I tend to be way too open minded for my own good--my friends have called me naive. Even though I don't agree with them, it's really good to get an outside perspective from someone who knows you and who gets an impression of the guy.

You even met him at a museum? Wow that's so terrible. I always imagined meeting someone in like-minded activity would be safer, but probably there are parasitic people and men all over the place. Maybe it's not really so much about where you meet them.

Just remember to listen to your feelings and your gut. You don't need to trust anyone before they earn it. Gosh--I am so sorry that happened to you. What a jerk he is.

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SgtPepper

· #15 · 6 d ago

Art-demure said:
Hard to find a non-cheap honest man nowadays. I suppose they just come to me because they are cheap. The expensive ones don't usually do this I noticed. But I honestly don't do the first moves. I also get attracted to the extroverted ones so yes it is difficult 🤔

I get that and it’s an issue I’ve noticed for a while, but that’s how it is, especially for women. You’re bombarded with the smoke and mirrors constantly. You need to avoid the low-hanging fruit and the jokers, those are the ones that are easy to grab and fall on your lap, make it so that you don’t have to pursue, and make dating “easy”. But they actually make it harder.

The difficult but necessary thing to do is to ignore the noise, focus internally on what you want and see in yourself keeping, and pursue that yourself.

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JonathanKieth

· #16 · 5 d ago

Art-demure said:
You can read my previous threads. I basically pour my soul out there along with the blogs I am currently writing.

I'm sorry you had to go through such an experience.. man who are like that are truly despicable.

But I am curious to read your blogs, sounds interesting. Do you mind sharing the links? 🙂

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Discussion Starter · #17 · 5 d ago

JonathanKieth said:
But I am curious to read your blogs, sounds interesting. Do you mind sharing the links?

Sure, no problem.

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Discussion Starter · #18 · 5 d ago

JonathanKieth said:
I'm sorry you had to go through such an experience.. man who are like that are truly despicable.

It's quite common in family households and no worries. it seems like the guy I am contacting is not only doing it to me

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Art-demure

Discussion Starter · #19 · 2 d ago

Update: When I texted him why he lied about his age and why he didn't tell me he doesn't have a wife, he told me he asked for my number just for us to be friends...This is a very similar saying to the married guy I dated when it was too late that I had feelings for him. I guess this guy is just too friendly and I was anticipating that he was single though. He didn't even wear his wedding ring the first time we met...

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Queen of Cups

· #20 · 2 d ago

He’s only saying it was just “friends” because he got caught and called out. Giving himself plausible deniability if you will. Otherwise why lie?

I’d cut off all contact because if he can lie about shit like his age and being married, what other lies can he tell on you or about you?

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