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Enneatype One belongs to the instinctual/gut triad; its instinctual energy and anger are directed inward. This inward build-up of energies gives to the sexual variant an energy similar to a cork under pressure. The fixation of the One is focused on containment and improvement, but the sexual instinct is passionate and impulsive and its needs don't take kindly to "going underground." It is essentially opposed to Oneness.

Comparatively, the social One is less conflicted. The social instinct lends itself more to a plan, an order; the instinctual energy has a natural outlet. Not everyone sees things the same way as the One however, and that’s where problems arise for the One who wants to be "right" and wants the social realm also to be "right."

The self-pres energy of type One is in sync with its dominant fixation, which can work well when the person is balanced. When out of balance, the self-pres One can become obsessive-compulsive, anal, and/or perfectionistic. The sexual instinct is, in many ways, in opposition to self-pres One energy, so inner conflict is seen more as the sexual variant is expressed through the Oneness.


Self-pres/Social

Enneatype One's basic fear is of not being perfect, therefore, not being good enough. This manifests in the self-pres variant as the need to "fix" the environment.

This type is the most steady, organized, and practical. They prioritize time well, pride themselves on, for instance, finding the bargain, buying quality, putting forth their best effort. Perfection comes from dotting all the i's. They tend to watch their health and to not overindulge. When healthy, their example of efficiency is inspiring. The pride they take in their work is commendable.

On the down side, they can become obsessive-compulsive. They can lose the forest for the trees in attempting to make their homes and environments perfect. They can also be very hard on themselves. The energy of this type is the most consistent. When their ideal falls short, frustration usually turns inward. Anger is repressed, especially with the Nine wing.



Self-pres/Sexual

This type is more fiery than the self-pres/social. They still have many of the same concerns of the first type, but there is this secondary energy that wants to throw all their repression out the window. This energy is mainly contained, but it's there just under the surface. The focus of their perfectionism is on their loved ones. On the down side, they can be very critical of the people close to them. Although normally controlled, this type is likely to erupt from time to time with those close to them. It’s an explosion of built up repression that has to be released.

On the high side, this type can relax a little more than the self-pres/social, but on the down side, they are more volatile. They do share the inner conflict between their sexual and self-pres instincts with the sexual/self-pres, but the self-pres energy usually wins out. The instinctual energy of the sexual instinct is more apparent than with the self-pres/social. Despite being critical of their mates, they are usually very committed to their relationships. In the mind of the self-pres/sexual One, the critical judgment is a sign of commitment and love.
 

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Sexual/Self-pres

When the sexual instinct is dominant, the One's fear of not being perfect manifests directly in the realm of close personal relationships. Close bonds are the focus of their perfectionism. They focus on having a perfect mate or perfect friends and family. Competition and intensity can enter the picture.

This subtype is a mass of contradictions. They want to let themselves go, but judge themselves for doing so. The difference between this type and the self-pres/sexual is that the sexual first intensity wins out. They can be highly critical of their spouses, expecting perfection from them. They can be very jealous and protective of their relationships. Their sense of humor can be sarcastic and biting. On the down side, they can be brutal to others while being very sensitive themselves to the slightest criticism. When their standards or ideals aren’t met, you’ll likely know about it. The anger and frustration is more visible in this subtype, and they also tend to be more emotionally demonstrative than the other non-sexual subtypes.

On the high side, the contradictions and struggle usually make for a very interesting person, combining high ideals with passion. Their blind spot can be their inability to see the impact of their intensity in the social realm.


Sexual/Social

The instinctual energy of this subtype is the most at odds with their dominant Oneness. This subtype is the most intense. They are looking for perfection in everyone they are close to, not just their spouses. They can be very charismatic and engaging. They can also be very persuasive, like the social/sexual. If they have an opinion you are going to hear about it. It’s very important for them to be understood. They are outwardly competitive. Like the social/sexual, they too may be mistyped as other enneatypes. The anger that is under the surface with the other instinctual variants of type One is much more likely to be apparent with this subtype. You always know where you stand with them. They can mimic type Eight's energy in this regard. On the high side, this type is warm and engaging, but on the down side this same energy can bring with it the full brunt of the One's anger and the need to be right.
 

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Social/Self-pres

When the social instinct is dominant in enneatype One, the fear of not being perfect manifests with regards to their connection to others. The social instinct is satisfied when others follow their rules or hold up their standards of justice.

This type is very community minded. They are likely to be the person on the block who offers a hand, tells you, for instance, how to maintain your lawn just right. When healthy, they do this in a truly helpful way. These individuals can be counted on to do the right thing. They convey to others that they can be trusted and have everyone’s best interest in mind. This type is likely to have an interest in politics and social concerns.

They are similar to the self-pres/social in the respect that both types will be community minded, but the self-pres/social will focus more on self and this type will extend its focus to the group. On the down side, they can be judgmental and intrusive when their input is not called for. Frustration for the social/self-pres One comes when others aren’t maintaining the same ideals and standards the One holds. This frustration in the social arena combines with the self-pres concerns, and can generate the impetus for action we so often see with this type.



Social/Sexual

The social/sexual One will have the same concerns as the social/self-pres types, however those concerns center more on individuals. Rules aren’t quite as important. They will zero in on what they want to make better and the intensity of their conviction is more obvious. Along with this, they are more personable, somewhat "lighter" and don’t generally take themselves as seriously. They can have a great sense of humor.

On the down side, their sensitivity can cause them to hold grudges. Because the self-pres instinct is last, this subtype could easily be mistaken for other enneatypes. Along with the sexual/social subtype, they can even be somewhat sloppy. Usually, there is still a sense of organization and a desire to do the job right, but there is much less emphasis on perfectionism in the material, physical environment. Most of their focus is on people and society. With this as their focus, they can be quite persuasive when it comes to their chosen causes. On the down side, when this extra outward energy is taken too far, they can approach the world with the attitude that they need to be right at all costs.

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Self-pres/Sexual

This type is more fiery than the self-pres/social. They still have many of the same concerns of the first type, but there is this secondary energy that wants to throw all their repression out the window. This energy is mainly contained, but it's there just under the surface. The focus of their perfectionism is on their loved ones. On the down side, they can be very critical of the people close to them. Although normally controlled, this type is likely to erupt from time to time with those close to them. It’s an explosion of built up repression that has to be released.

On the high side, this type can relax a little more than the self-pres/social, but on the down side, they are more volatile. They do share the inner conflict between their sexual and self-pres instincts with the sexual/self-pres, but the self-pres energy usually wins out. The instinctual energy of the sexual instinct is more apparent than with the self-pres/social. Despite being critical of their mates, they are usually very committed to their relationships. In the mind of the self-pres/sexual One, the critical judgment is a sign of commitment and love.
This is me. I always want to just stop caring about being right and just doing whatever the hell pleases me.. I always just want to explode on people and tell them absolutely everything that is wrong with them.. Man being a one fucking sucks >_<
 

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Although I've studied the enneagram for a while, I really don't understand (or relate) to the variant stackings.

I'm either One sx/sp or sp/sx - but neither description seems to fit very well. I've read Helen Palmer's descriptions as well. Her description of the One sx is focused on jealousy and angry outbursts. While I do believe that I'm an intimacy junkie to some extent, the jealously aspect really doesn't ring true. Intensity is a more accurate reflection of the force that dominates the sx experience for the One, IMO.

Trying to type individuals according to variant type is a bit squishy. When I went to the Enneagram Institute seminar, the faciliators emphasized the fluidity of the categories - that, in fact, a person's variant type could change over the course of a lifetime based on various experiences. If, for example, someone was settling down to start a family, they might be in self pres mode whereas at retirement they might take up social causes (social mode).

I still question how meaningful these variant types are in the big scheme of things - i.e. enneagram theory.
 

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Priestess I am glad you posted because I wanted to correct myself. I listed myself as SP/SX but after discussing it with someone else and thinking about it more I believe it is clear I am actually SO/SX. What drew me initially to the SP/SX description is their desire to "throw all their repression out the window". Is that what drew you as well? I think that is the feeling of all ones and not just ones of those two variants.
 

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It refers to Self-Preservation: the name really has no bearing, but is meant to give you an idea of what it represents (the Self-Preservation variant is focusing on prioritizing the self first).
 

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Self-pres/Sexual seems like me :shocked: hm how odd
 

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I found this section on the forum VERY useful, although I have to admit, I'm still having trouble distinguishing between all these stackings. Is there any advice anyone can give to help distinguish them? I'm pretty sure someone I know is some sort of blend of social variant. That's for sure in there, and I think sexual is the second one. But how do I tell which of the two is dominant over the other? He's definitely interested in politics, community building, that sort of thing, and definitely wants his family, children, spouse to embody the perfect family. Are there any clues to this?
 

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I'm an SX/SO Type 1. It was very difficult to type myself until I understood more about instinctual variants, and how incredibly relevant they are in these behavioural descriptions meant to help others type themselves. I relate very deeply to the internal struggle of right and wrong, good and bad. I had OCD as a kid, debilitating perfectionistic tendencies, the deeply rooted anger, the internal and above reproach rules of acceptable behaviour or thought, and all the other fun stuff we learn about ourselves as ones, but then all of these descriptions of how type ones are and express were so foreign to me. I have incredible self-discipline, and I like to consider myself a resilient and very tenacious person. I can relate to feelings of rigidity on the inside, especially when I was younger or in times of poor health, but I would definitely not be described as a rigid person. I am intense. I have a lot of personality, bursting from the seams. Finally reading more descriptions of SX/SO variant ones is fitting to how I express outwardly, to how my behaviours would be perceived. For a bit I thought I might be a 4, because I could see how I would be outwardly seen as a 4, but I didn't relate to most of the inward oriented descriptions, the feelings of being a 4. I did relate to some, enough through reading online that I thought perhaps I had mistyped myself and was unwilling to see these parts of myself that I did not relate to, thinking I was missing my fourness, that my motivations were so subconscious that I perhaps couldn't see them in myself, but after listening to a 5-hour panel/podcast on Type 4 and its variants from fours and partners of fours, I knew I wasn't a four. The more I learn, the more I am incredibly sure of my oneness. I'm an SX/SO Type 1, and a tri-type 145. I can feel my own inner contradictions. It's been lovely understanding a lot of my past behaviours through coming to understand these parts of myself through the enneagram and instinctual subtypes. It was gut-wrenchingly painful at first of course, but very freeing as all the loose ends tied into knots my head. It's funny how learning about the MBTI and typing as an INFJ was so fantastic, finally after 12 years of being alive I had found something that mirrored my ego, was a reflection of how I saw myself. The closest I had come before that was Matilda in the children's movie, where I thought, "Hey, I'm not an alien, I'm just magical, it all makes sense now!" But with the MBTI, I wasn't an alien at all. There were others like me! The enneagram does the opposite. It shows you the parts of yourself you don't want to see. As you see your shadow self and your ego begins to fall apart it's terrifying, but exciting as you start to recognize your subconscious defence mechanisms and motivations, expanding that consciousness and self awareness. I'm becoming a better person every day. Fun, fun!
 

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The type 1 self pre/social describes me so well.
 

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the Sp 1 stacking descriptions were wonderful, not so much the Sexual 1 stackings. Sx 1 really isn't very perfectionist at all. they're more fiery reformer, vascilating between reaction formation and overt expression of anger which looks more 8-ish. they can also have a narcissistic streak and become straight up cult leader-like

for Social 1, it's more "standards" as opposed to "rules", if that makes sense (a "rules" fixation tends to be more Social 6). Social 1 is an intellectual character who spends a lot of time thinking about what is the right way to act and why. it's usually not just "I'm happy when people follow the rules". they have very specific and elaborate explanations for their choices of behavior and compulsively share them with people, whether enthusiastically when asked or in a stern, lecture-y sort of way
 

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I am actually a 9w1 Sp/Sx but I can relate to the description for Self-Preservation 1w9. Maybe because I do have a heavy 1 wing. Literally, I do dot my "i's" and cross my "t's" whenever I write...don't we all? I always felt like I was not good enough and that I would be loved more if I were perfect, especially in my appearance of being more like a 3. I do shop for Bargains! As a Nine, I also love freebies! I value quality above quantity but not when I was in my early 20s.

I have been guilty of being a little critical at times. I have erupt after a period of repression. My focus is more on my love ones or those who are most closest to me. I don't know about Ones, but I don't allow too many people really close to me in my personal private life. I don't want my private life to become cluttered with people disrupting my need for peace (Nine) and to focus on personal growth (1) and the things I need to accomplish...I fear they would become too much of a distraction for me (1)...Sometimes, it is easy to distract me (9).

Okay, if you have any questions of our similarities or differences, feel free to ask. I just thought I would share that I can see myself in the Sexual descriptions...both of them. Is it true that Ones are opinionated? I know I am opinionated but I call it entertainment because I know the difference between opinions and facts. My opinions may be based on facts, but it may not necessarily be factual, sometimes. Since I have found my voice and in the process of growing stronger, I discovered the joys of sharing my opinions. Of course, I am not as hard core as they describe in Ones or in my father (not sure what type he is. He looks like a 3 with his pony tail, Corvette and young beautiful women as his focus.)
 

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Sexual/Social

The instinctual energy of this subtype is the most at odds with their dominant Oneness. This subtype is the most intense. They are looking for perfection in everyone they are close to, not just their spouses. They can be very charismatic and engaging. They can also be very persuasive, like the social/sexual. If they have an opinion you are going to hear about it. It’s very important for them to be understood. They are outwardly competitive. Like the social/sexual, they too may be mistyped as other enneatypes. The anger that is under the surface with the other instinctual variants of type One is much more likely to be apparent with this subtype. You always know where you stand with them. They can mimic type Eight's energy in this regard. On the high side, this type is warm and engaging, but on the down side this same energy can bring with it the full brunt of the One's anger and the need to be right.
heh! to a t. I am also ESTJ. What filter? I guess I learnt to have a little bit of one. I can be a nice person and I also can be this. If I am not careful I get type 8, which I am not. Yes, if I have an opinion you're going to hear about it so if you don't want to hear you should er... you know run away very quickly! I think everyone knows where I stand on things. and, yes, I can be very engaging and charismatic too. You get the point.
 
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