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The Enneagram Blogspot: Type 6: Security-Seeker
http://personalitycafe.com/type-6-forum-loyalist/9161-type-six-variant-stackings.html
Sexual Six:
Symbols of power and connection. In the average range, sexual sixes develop physical strength, power, and/or physical attractiveness to feel safe. More aggressive sexual sixes rely on strength and displays of toughness that can resemble type 8 ("Don't mess with me"), while more phobic sexual 6's use their sexuality and coquettishness to disarm others and attract support in ways that can resemble type 4. They mask their insecurities through open assertion and defiance of authority, or through flirtation and seduction.
Sexual 6's are highly aware of their physical attributes - for instance, spending time in gyms - although not for health reasons but to enhance their strength and appeal. Sexual 6's want to attract a powerful and capable mate, so they frequently test the other, both to see if they will stay with them, as well as to give themselves time to assess the other person's character and fortitude.
Sexual 6's are more openly defiant of authority than the other instinctual variants of the six, especially when anxious. They are also the most doubting of others and of themselves. They can have explosive emotional reactions when their own insecurities are exposed or their connections with others are threatened. When anxious, they may assert themselves against their own supporters or third parties rather than at the true source of their anxieties. Attempts at sabotaging others, or undermining their reputations in various ways, especially through rumor-mongering, are typical.
In the unhealthy range, sexual sixes can be depressive and erratic, especially if they feel that their reactivity has undermined or ruined their intimate connections. Impulsive, self-destructive behaviour alternates with irrational lashing out. Paranoia may become part of the picture, although usually with a distinctly focused and obsessive flavour since it is aimed at particular, personal enemies.
Social Six:
Generating support. In the average range, social sixes handle anxiety by looking to friends and allies for reassurance and support. They project friendliness and attempt to create bonds with others, disarming them with warmth and humour. They often make fun of themselves while offering support and affection to others, and they can sometimes be mistaken for Twos. Social sixes are the most concerned about fitting in. ("There's safety in numbers.") They are fairly idealistic, enjoying the feeling of being part of something larger than themselves - a cause or corporation or movement or group - and are willing to make major sacrifices for the security of that affiliation.
Social sixes can also sometimes resemble ones in their adherence to protocols and procedures. They look for reassurance through commitments, obligations, and contracts - insurance that their hard work will not be taken advantage of. When they are insecure, Social Sixes look for places of safety where like-minded individuals help each other out (twelve-step groups).
Although able to make major efforts for others or for their group, Social Sixes can often have difficultly working for their own success or development. Anxiety can lead them to look for consensus before they act or make decisions; anxiety also leads them to reference the potential responses of others in their imagination. Their own indecisiveness bothers them, however, and leads to ambivalence about depending on allies or authorities. They fear losing the support of the group or authority but chafe at the bit. If frustrated, they can develop passive-aggressive issues with authorities and friends. Under stress, they easily feel pressured, overworked, and under appreciated. At such times, they can be negative and pessimistic.
In the unhealthy range, Social Sixes may become attracted to fanatical beliefs, causes, and groups. They may develop an "us against the world" mentality, feeling besieged by a hostile environment (somewhat like an unhealthy 8). They can be unquestioning of their beliefs (even if others find their beliefs to be questionable) and slavish to a particular authority while being extremely paranoid about authorities not in alignment with their own belief system.
Self-Preservation Six:
Responsibility. In the average range, SP sixes attempt to allay their survival anxieties by working hard to build up security through mutual responsibility. They offer service and commitment with the expectation that it will be reciprocated by others. Although they seek secure partnerships, SP Sixes tend to make friends slowly: they observe others over time to see if they are trustworthy and truly "on their side." They are more domestic than the other variants and are frequently concerned with maintaining the stability of their home life. They often take care of the security needs of the household: bills, taxes, insurance, and the like.
SP sixes do not easily disguise their anxiety and neediness. In fact, they may use it to gain allies and supporters - vulnerability can elicit help from others. They tend to fret about small things, which can lead to catastrophic thinking and worst-case scenarios. ("The rent is five days late? We're going to be evicted for sure!") SP sixes are usually frugal, and worry a great deal about financial matters. Conflicts with others over resources are common.
In the unhealthy range, SP sixes are extremely clingy, dependent, and panicky. They stay in punishing situations - bad marriages or overly stressful jobs - because they are terrified at being without support. They may grasp at relationships with such forceful anxiety that they end up alienating the very people they want to bond with. Paranoia may also drive them to become more aggressive: they exaggerate dangers and strike out at "enemies" to ensure that no one will be able to threaten them. Ironically, this often ends up destroying their own security systems.
Riso and Hudson, Wisdom of the Enneagram
The Enneagram Blogspot: Type 6: Security-Seeker
http://personalitycafe.com/type-6-forum-loyalist/9161-type-six-variant-stackings.html
Sexual Six:
Symbols of power and connection. In the average range, sexual sixes develop physical strength, power, and/or physical attractiveness to feel safe. More aggressive sexual sixes rely on strength and displays of toughness that can resemble type 8 ("Don't mess with me"), while more phobic sexual 6's use their sexuality and coquettishness to disarm others and attract support in ways that can resemble type 4. They mask their insecurities through open assertion and defiance of authority, or through flirtation and seduction.
Sexual 6's are highly aware of their physical attributes - for instance, spending time in gyms - although not for health reasons but to enhance their strength and appeal. Sexual 6's want to attract a powerful and capable mate, so they frequently test the other, both to see if they will stay with them, as well as to give themselves time to assess the other person's character and fortitude.
Sexual 6's are more openly defiant of authority than the other instinctual variants of the six, especially when anxious. They are also the most doubting of others and of themselves. They can have explosive emotional reactions when their own insecurities are exposed or their connections with others are threatened. When anxious, they may assert themselves against their own supporters or third parties rather than at the true source of their anxieties. Attempts at sabotaging others, or undermining their reputations in various ways, especially through rumor-mongering, are typical.
In the unhealthy range, sexual sixes can be depressive and erratic, especially if they feel that their reactivity has undermined or ruined their intimate connections. Impulsive, self-destructive behaviour alternates with irrational lashing out. Paranoia may become part of the picture, although usually with a distinctly focused and obsessive flavour since it is aimed at particular, personal enemies.
Social Six:
Generating support. In the average range, social sixes handle anxiety by looking to friends and allies for reassurance and support. They project friendliness and attempt to create bonds with others, disarming them with warmth and humour. They often make fun of themselves while offering support and affection to others, and they can sometimes be mistaken for Twos. Social sixes are the most concerned about fitting in. ("There's safety in numbers.") They are fairly idealistic, enjoying the feeling of being part of something larger than themselves - a cause or corporation or movement or group - and are willing to make major sacrifices for the security of that affiliation.
Social sixes can also sometimes resemble ones in their adherence to protocols and procedures. They look for reassurance through commitments, obligations, and contracts - insurance that their hard work will not be taken advantage of. When they are insecure, Social Sixes look for places of safety where like-minded individuals help each other out (twelve-step groups).
Although able to make major efforts for others or for their group, Social Sixes can often have difficultly working for their own success or development. Anxiety can lead them to look for consensus before they act or make decisions; anxiety also leads them to reference the potential responses of others in their imagination. Their own indecisiveness bothers them, however, and leads to ambivalence about depending on allies or authorities. They fear losing the support of the group or authority but chafe at the bit. If frustrated, they can develop passive-aggressive issues with authorities and friends. Under stress, they easily feel pressured, overworked, and under appreciated. At such times, they can be negative and pessimistic.
In the unhealthy range, Social Sixes may become attracted to fanatical beliefs, causes, and groups. They may develop an "us against the world" mentality, feeling besieged by a hostile environment (somewhat like an unhealthy 8). They can be unquestioning of their beliefs (even if others find their beliefs to be questionable) and slavish to a particular authority while being extremely paranoid about authorities not in alignment with their own belief system.
Self-Preservation Six:
Responsibility. In the average range, SP sixes attempt to allay their survival anxieties by working hard to build up security through mutual responsibility. They offer service and commitment with the expectation that it will be reciprocated by others. Although they seek secure partnerships, SP Sixes tend to make friends slowly: they observe others over time to see if they are trustworthy and truly "on their side." They are more domestic than the other variants and are frequently concerned with maintaining the stability of their home life. They often take care of the security needs of the household: bills, taxes, insurance, and the like.
SP sixes do not easily disguise their anxiety and neediness. In fact, they may use it to gain allies and supporters - vulnerability can elicit help from others. They tend to fret about small things, which can lead to catastrophic thinking and worst-case scenarios. ("The rent is five days late? We're going to be evicted for sure!") SP sixes are usually frugal, and worry a great deal about financial matters. Conflicts with others over resources are common.
In the unhealthy range, SP sixes are extremely clingy, dependent, and panicky. They stay in punishing situations - bad marriages or overly stressful jobs - because they are terrified at being without support. They may grasp at relationships with such forceful anxiety that they end up alienating the very people they want to bond with. Paranoia may also drive them to become more aggressive: they exaggerate dangers and strike out at "enemies" to ensure that no one will be able to threaten them. Ironically, this often ends up destroying their own security systems.
Riso and Hudson, Wisdom of the Enneagram
I like taking a step back and analyzing it too. And want to make sure I'm correct. And usually when it comes to the typing I know the first or second try.
