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Type talk at work. No, not the book.

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Simply state your boss or bosses type, your type, and explain how they coincide, your relationship, how you view them, ect.
Be sure you know your boss's type by accurate observation or otherwise and are not just guessing please.

I've recently changed jobs but I'll talk about both bosses.
My last manager was an INTJ. You don't often find INTJs in retail, but I convinced him to take a test and sure enough he is INTJ.

I'm INFP, so we weren't best buddies so to speak, but we did get along surprisingly well. (Maybe partly because my feeling and percieving preferences are the weakest.) I somewhat admire INTJs so I was very interested to find out he was one. Of course my feelings were frequently hurt when I did something wrong, because he wasn't likely to approach it sensitively. Although he was very considerate of feelings, more so than an average INTJ and I noticed he always made an effort to say things the right way and not get too upset when something wasn't done as what he thought to be correct.

My new boss, as the owner of a liquor store deli, is an ISFJ. I haven't typed her, but every sign points to this type. She tend to hold her thoughts back (so much that I actually had a difficult time being trained because she was never direct in what she wanted me to do), she speaks under her breath, she doesn't always feel the need to say goodbye when she leaves.

And let's be honest, SJ types are the easiest to spot, being that they have a need to control their environment. The same could be said for INTJs, but they control a bit differently than and SJ would. They are more concerned with precise and accurate facts, rather than the action going on around them.

I don't have many issues with her. Then again, I've only been working there about two months. The only problem is she keeps calling me Kristy. My name's not Kristy... I'd guess that has much to do with her Si.:laughing:

The biggest issues I have with both of these bosses is they want to control everything. I suppose that is a natural and essential trait for anyone in managment, but they need to know when to step down and let me figure things out myself as this is the way I learn best.

So let's have it! What are your experiences at work like in relation to type?
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I used to be in restaurant management, and I quickly discovered among my coworkers that I definitely did NOT fit the prototype of a manager. This was before I knew of MBTI. I went on to become the general manager (i.e. everybody's boss except the restaurant owner) and took the restaurant out of the red and into the black, which was great.

The one who trained me so well was my boss, the general manager of the first restaurant I worked at. I now believe he is an ESTP, which is funny because I usually want to murder ESTPs. Really. I think in his case, we happened to mesh well -- he was drawn to me because he found me attractive, yet different from most (Black) females he's run into (smart, nerdy, and introverted). He is Black as well, but he grew up in parts of New England and has lived in random places, including Puerto Rico, he has an eclectic background. I think that resonated with him since he probably considered himself considerably different from most Black people, as I have always felt (which makes a lot of sense now knowing I'm an INFP).

I just happened to show up in his restaurant for lunch while on break from the part-time job that I had after graduating from college. He gave me a free lunch, sat down with me while I ate, chatted me up, and offered me a job with no real interview, I thought he was kidding, but no he was serious. I quit the part-time and started working for him. He was something else on the job. Loud, grouchy, dominant Alpha male, overbearing sometimes, but I swear that man taught me everything I needed to know and he did it well. Best boss I ever had. We had our issues (he cussed me out a few times at work; another time I shoved him 'cause he made me mad and nearly knocked him down, although he's 6'3), but I respected him 'cause above anything else, he could admit when he was wrong and apologize for his faults. That fact alone made him golden in my book. He's a loud, annoying teddy bear.

NO, I never slept with him or anything (although I do think we went through our respective crush phases with each other while working together); he was married but was a workaholic and eventually got divorced when his wife cheated. I eventually married my college sweetheart and started having kids. But I always knew that he could make me angry like no one else, so I would definitely run the risk of being imprisoned for having stabbed him if we ever got together.....hence my need for distance from ESTPs. I now have a pastor who I figure is an ESTP, about 41 or 42 (10 years older than me), and he is very juvenile IMO, cocky, loud, impatient, no objectivity whatsoever, always wants attention. Just very high school. He rubs me the wrong way, and I know I have the same effect upon him, he is leery of me b/c I'm nerdy, slow to get to my point when talking, am not aware of my surroundings, and he tries to read into my nonverbals when it's a pretty inaccurate gauge of what I'm thinking or feeling. My former boss was 20 years older than me, so the fact that we got along then has a lot to do with age, maturity, improvement in cognitive functions over time, and things in common, I suppose.
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