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With what kind of thoughts are you, INFJ, mostly preoccupied during the day?
Please share ! :happy:

I'll start.
I don't know if it's typical for us INFJ's, but while I was driving my car earlier today, I got swept away by a thought, an idea actually.

I started thinking about why people are so frustrated and easily annoyed. Why people become real jerks when they're behind the wheel and why they're always in such a hurry. Then I began to think bigger. What if it has something to do with the fact that people think they only live once? They have a limited amount of time on this earth, and they have to make the best of it and do great things and earn a lot of money.

What if people found out that death is not the end, but that life continues (in another dimension for example) or that everyone's soul is reincarnated time and time again (dunno if any of this is true)? Wouldn't people be much happier, much less selfish, less anxious, less emotional, more relaxed? Wouldn't we all live in a much nicer world, in harmony with one another?

After 10 minutes I realized I was driving my car and I should be focusing on the road more.
I'm just saying, from one moment to the next, I was entirely sucked into my head for about 10 minutes, driving my car on automatic pilot (?) and wondering, struggling with these big and probably unanswerable questions.

Any INFJ's that can relate? Share the thoughts that pop into your mind during the day...

Thanks!

Vincent
 

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My thoughts are often about the human condition. Lately I've pondered what are the boundaries of human ability. I began studying psychology so my "ideas" have been vastly expanding.

On my last walk I was pondering about our imagination. What is it? Is it real or fake? What constitutes real or fake? How does it fit into our concept of reality (which is dictated and often misinterpreted by our brain)? And now that I mostly understand how our brain perceives the world I am curious about images in our mind.
Is it possible to hack the brain to a point where you can explore this virtual reality? I assume it would be similar to lucid dreaming, but what if you could also access the unconsciousness? Can the unconscious ever become conscious? And to what end? What are the boundaries for that?

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The nature of projections, boundaries and personal responsibility for others (or lack thereof).
Self expression and the limits of personal choice required to socialise with others simply.
What motivates human beings and my own processes.
How to maximise time and energies.
Change.
 

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A multitude of different things I guess. The common things like family, bills, rent, then problems at work (personalities) and how they make things better or worse for everyone, motivations too, then seeing the plight of people in war-torn areas, then what makes me joyful like 80s music or something else.
 

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Mostly about people's relationships and its psychology. Sometimes about their reactions. Why people follow certain patterns of behavior. Human nature dichotomy: absolutes don't exist. People say one thing and end up doing another. Are we really that primitive? Even while science and rationalism it's so worshipped, basic instints keep winning over the mind..

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*Why people do what they do. Why I think so much about why people do what they do. What I should think about instead of thinking about why people do what they do too often. What I want to create next. Notes to self about future creative project. What song to put on next while driving. Reflecting on a podcast I recently listened to on a topic regarding why people do what they do. Repeat from *.
 

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For me it's been pondering why it is that I live in a world that is so contrary to my deepest desires and ideals. I've come to some pretty good conclusions, I believe (they're heavily based on my faith, so I will refrain from preaching them at anyone), so I've achieved some measure of peace. Before today, though, I was in shambles over it.
 
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I think about so many things, usually dealing with society and change...Injustices, biases, closed-mindedness, legalism, people who have no hope/love/understanding, etc. and formulating ideas and thoughts about what could be done to improve and inspire people's lives. I think about how my own biases are affecting my judgement and seek to form the clearest picture possible of what is really occurring around whatever I'm stewing on.

I also am thinking on dreams, art, creative ideas, lyrics/music, and whatever topic I'm interested in at the time. I think of ways of improving my family's quality of life, and solving/foreseeing any problems for us.
 

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Thanks for your posts!

It's clear that many INFJ's think about other people's motives and thinking processes.
Me too! I have thought for a long time that people do certain things to piss others off. But I realized that in most of the cases, it was just their way of behaving, they didn't do those things or say those things on purpose, it's just how they were raised (amongst other factors)! I'm glad I became aware of that, because I really started to develop a grudge against certain individuals and 'types' of people.

I'm glad to notice that we're not interested in materialism or what our next car will look like and how jealous our friends will react when they see it. It's (for the most of us) just not in our nature, not something we get out of bed for in the morning. Although I would be happy with a slightly better salary...

World peace, please! :happy:
 

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Sometimes I look at a certain dysfunctional situation and think about what can be changed for the better.. I wonder about the roots of particular failures~what caused it, how it could have been avoided, how to improve its current form.

I take time to criticize myself. Feel the burden of my wrongs~ learn from it~ and then I try to move on. I try to.

I think about people's processes, personalities, motivations, their vibe, how they handle themselves in different situations, their percieved limits, unique capabilities, you know..

I think about connections.. or try to feel connections. Different kinds, (I've mentioned in my other post). I think about my future, and people & places I left in the past.

I might have thought about saving the world at some point. Shh.
 

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If you asked me in another place and time. Maybe 10 years ago, befor I ever read anything phycology related.
Then my answer would be different.

Uhm, but.. for example, to relate to this. I may be thinking about.. "When we think about other people, do we then REALLY think about them?"

Usually when people ask me what I am thinking, I just clam up.. or rather, I just dont really know.. it is empty.
Sometimes I can share it, but most often not.

In a way it is silly for the other to expect an answer, because your in the process of thinking, there is something up.

When someone else is present it is hard for me, because I am more focused on the situation, my antennas are out you could maybe say.
My thinking is not the same as when for example I am alone at night or just by myself.
I will be having a conversation with the person present, not so much running an inner speech.
It would be like trying to deal with a math equation while speaking maybe, hmm..

Also, i may be thinking something i dont want to tell... I may end up in a dilemma, because I dont like to lie. Often I will say it directly, what I am thinking. Sometimes not so useful, because what are they to do with that?, the raw material so to speak, which I should had taken an direction from.
If that makes sense.
Maybe this for example.. if an girl asks me "what are you thinking?" I may end up saying "I am wondering if should kiss you or not", something along the lines of that. Or "I want to kiss you".
 

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When around people:


"I want to say it.
But I better shut up.
Keep your mouth shut! Concentrate on something else!


Because there will ALWAYS be that one who would get butthurt from the truth.
And then it will be my fault.
And then I'll be judged as a bad person.

Why do they always see me that way? I only want the best out of them. I want to help them.
They can't even understand the latter.

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*anger builds up*

F*** them all."


 

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I wish you'd apologize for it all when I am least expecting it.

Sorry if I broke the thread, but this is on my mind most of the time.

I also think a lot, what would people think about me if they would understand MBTI and they would know that I am an INFJ. Then my mind wonders as I would imagine the ST types would hate the sight of me on the bus. :D
 
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