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Just wondering when you guys are under situations of pressure or stress, what are the behavioral cues that others notice or that you may only notice?
 

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If it's a LOT of stress, this. Which is very bad for an ENTP.

Generally, if it's regular stress, or even bad, and I'm irritable, I'm pretty good at hiding it, and am still friendly as fuck. Though someone who doesn't know me may see me and think, "do not touch." I can do the brooding thing with a "get the fuck away from me" face, where the latter is not so.
 
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When I can't cope with stress anymore, I abandon everything and withdraw into my cocoon.
I just want to be alone and go through a mental 'reset' of my perspectives.
Depending on how bad it is, it can vary between a few hours and a few days.
 

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Depends on the source of stress.
Obviously the source will always be me but what triggers it can make the
stress differ. Which means a different solution.

As a general cure all I can eliminate the stress inducer from my life as the
easiest option. This is not a doable solution with work and family though.

For items that can incite stress that are permanent in my life the solution
is specific and how much the stress effects me is pending the source.

If it is extended family I create a distance. Same with friends.
If it is a stress that is always there with those people? I find
a balance where by I take them just enough to push me to a limit then recoil.

With work my wife and my kids stress incites this: Either all in or all out. 150%.

SO If I get stress about work I may take a week off and just say fuck it. Or
I may put in extra time to try and alleviate work load stress.

If I am stressed about my wife and kids? Well that is where I get
the most anxious and squirrely. I will spend every minute of every hour until
I feel okay again. I leave work I distance myself from everything except for
the person/people that are stressing me. I must deal with them head on and right away.
I cant spend time on anything else. It must be ...solved.. I over talk, I over analyze
I over compensate. I generally overkill it to the point of suffocation for the people
involved. Lucky for me my wife and kids are used to it and know how to deescalate me.

My biggest fear and stress inducer is the thought of loosing my wife and kids.
So I go a little(lot) crazy.
 

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Irritable and quiet. I don't have much to offer to conversations other than a few brief words or appropriate facial expressions.

Also, distancing myself from others.
 

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When I was a kid I was basically the spitting image of Kylo Ren

Nowadays I'm more quieter, glary, sharper when upset. Stressed in general results in more anger than sadness. I have an 8ish flare in me. I might get more sharp and cutting in my wording. Which is why I'll usually avoid whoever is stressing me to spare us the pain and distract myself with funny videos to calm down. Positive Vibes.

In public I'll still appear chill but less so, unless I'm angry to which any usual charm I autopilot have will wither away and I'll be more robotic and glary - to which I am not always aware.


HOWEVER. If I can have my way I'd be in my bat cave, or with elect time with a friend/s depending on the type of stress.
 

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quiet, dismissive, thinking in circles without going anywhere (hate this), and when it's really bad, anxiety kicks in I start paying attention to a specific part of my body and sometimes that makes me light headed or think I'm going to drop and die.
 

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SUPER quiet and with the sad Keanu Reeves face.
Every conversation seems pointless.
Every friend appears stupid.
No one can understand anything.
Everyone wants to kill me.
i don't eat.
Every book, every song, every movie, every game, all sorts of media are hopelessly bad.
Alone time is desperately sought and it could last up to a whole week.
 

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Is it obvious to people?
 

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Well, firstly, I become extremely reclusive. I'll lash out and make people feel like shit for making me feel like shit.
I'll mostly just begin to rethink. Which, at this point, my Ne is running over time, so I'm thinking of everything over and over and over until it drives me insane. And as soon as someone interrupts this process, it's like they just killed my dog. I get extremely emotionally unstable. To the point where it's basically a panic/anxiety attack. I'll often throw verbal personal attacks at people who get too close.
It's bad. And I'm a child. :)
 

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I'm really weird in this way. I'm calm in a crisis. When something major happens, I'm not one to panic, freeze, or fall apart. I get sharply focused and calm...

However, do you know how they say, "Don't sweat the small stuff?" Well I do. Running late, my kids acting up, a small obstacle, I turn into a monster.
 

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However, do you know how they say, "Don't sweat the small stuff?" Well I do. Running late, my kids acting up, a small obstacle, I turn into a monster.
I have noticed this as well Scarlet. To a large degree.
The best I have figured it is that it upsets me because its simple.
The simplicity of it makes it just that simple to avoid so I get frustrated
not at what the actual issue is. That is but a small matter. My frustration
lies in how the person could allow it to happen in the first place.


Myself included of course. I frustrate myself more than anyone!
 

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The best I have figured it is that it upsets me because its simple.
The simplicity of it makes it just that simple to avoid so I get frustrated
not at what the actual issue is.
Oh yes!
It's the fact it happened at all is what drives me crazy.
More so for trivial things that go wrong when it shouldn't even matter.
 

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Well shit, this thread is legit.
 
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