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I really don't know what to do with my sister any more. She's 18 and never leaves the house, has no friends any more because she's so anxious to be around people. She also refuses to get a job, lives off my parents money which means that I (i'm 15 years old) get thrown aside pretty much.
She manipulates me and refuses to give into arguments even though i've always been the more rational, outgoing, mature of us and i'll ask her why she's snapping at me and she'll never say. She actually criticises my individualism (i'm a type 4 enneagram so i don't take that with a pinch of salt) my extroverted friends + my strife to enjoy my life and be completely free from rules, thinks she's above me and can control my life, she can be so cruel that i'm reduced to tears and leave me speechless and depressed. Then ten minutes later she'll be happy and nice again which is frustrating if she hurt somebodies feelings.
What can I say i'm an infp who see's good in everyone so i've had long conversations with her about her feelings and done everything possible to help her but she just doesn't care about what I say any more. I'm scared that she'll waste her life away like my INFJ and ISFJ parents (who I may add i have felt totally isolated from my whole life because I always get criticised for not being organised and being spontaneous) she'll be obsessive over something to the point were it starts to annoy everyone then suddenly not care any more if somebody critisises her and give them a guilt trip.
She's also suffered from anxiety which adds to the chaos. I really need some advice because she couldn't be any more different to how I thought infj's were right now i can't figure her out and infp's and infj's are meant to be very similar.
She manipulates me and refuses to give into arguments even though i've always been the more rational, outgoing, mature of us and i'll ask her why she's snapping at me and she'll never say. She actually criticises my individualism (i'm a type 4 enneagram so i don't take that with a pinch of salt) my extroverted friends + my strife to enjoy my life and be completely free from rules, thinks she's above me and can control my life, she can be so cruel that i'm reduced to tears and leave me speechless and depressed. Then ten minutes later she'll be happy and nice again which is frustrating if she hurt somebodies feelings.
What can I say i'm an infp who see's good in everyone so i've had long conversations with her about her feelings and done everything possible to help her but she just doesn't care about what I say any more. I'm scared that she'll waste her life away like my INFJ and ISFJ parents (who I may add i have felt totally isolated from my whole life because I always get criticised for not being organised and being spontaneous) she'll be obsessive over something to the point were it starts to annoy everyone then suddenly not care any more if somebody critisises her and give them a guilt trip.
She's also suffered from anxiety which adds to the chaos. I really need some advice because she couldn't be any more different to how I thought infj's were right now i can't figure her out and infp's and infj's are meant to be very similar.