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Let's talk about vibes, good ones and bad ones.

Do you ever pick up certain vibes, good or bad, from certain people or places?

If so, what are they like?

Just a broad inquiry really. Hopefully it will catalyze some good discussion.
 

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I am known in my friend group for the vibes I get,
I find that some people just allow you to open and flow,
Others make you feel stoic and careful,
And then there are those who just repulse you with their vibe xD


Or thats just crazy me? xD
 

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Always,
I am known in my friend group for the vibes I get,
I find that some people just allow you to open and flow,
Others make you feel stoic and careful,
And then there are those who just repulse you with their vibe xD


Or thats just crazy me? xD
How about getting vibes from places?
 

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I definitely get good vibes and bad vibes from people all the time! I tend to ignore the bad ones because I think I'm being judgemental about the person but it almost always turns out I was right. When people give me good vibes I feel comfortable and at ease, more able to act like myself I guess. When people give me bad vibes it's almost always the feeling of a knot in my stomach and an urge to get away. This usually happens when my friends and I are approached by someone. If I get bad vibes and they aren't picking up on it I'm usually a nervous wreck for the entire time.

As for places, sometimes I'll get bad vibes from places that creep me out like an old house or something. Good vibes are more common in places like tea houses and such.
 

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I definitely get good vibes and bad vibes from people all the time! I tend to ignore the bad ones because I think I'm being judgemental about the person but it almost always turns out I was right. When people give me good vibes I feel comfortable and at ease, more able to act like myself I guess. When people give me bad vibes it's almost always the feeling of a knot in my stomach and an urge to get away. This usually happens when my friends and I are approached by someone. If I get bad vibes and they aren't picking up on it I'm usually a nervous wreck for the entire time.

As for places, sometimes I'll get bad vibes from places that creep me out like an old house or something. Good vibes are more common in places like tea houses and such.
I can totally relate to this. I think we're on a similar wavelength here. I had someone tell me a few months ago that I seem to be very open and comfortable and chatty when I'm around people I get good vibes from, but the minute I get bad vibes from someone, I almost immediately clam up and become more reserved and distant.

I wanted to talk about getting vibes from places as well, because I think we all have gone through certain experiences which, for good or ill, will put certain places "in certain places" in our minds. The house you grew up in, if you had a good childhood, will hold fond memories, nostalgia, and an ideal hindsight. A school you went to, if everything was generally functional and people were friendly to you, will hold a good place in your mind. However, if you've suffered a lot of misery and despair in a certain place, returning there can bring you immediate bad vibes, even though the place might be perfectly safe. The same thing goes for certain people if they have hurt you. I know I have certain people AND places that cause me intense anxiety because of traumatic experiences I've endured that have been associated with them.
 

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Okay, this is a really weird thing about me... You can judge me.. :) but, I get a really bad vibe whenever I visit Sam's Club, the big super-store warehouse owned by Walmart where they sell copious portions of food.

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They sell everything in large quantities at lower prices... great for if you have a family of 20, are feeding a group of circus performers, or you want to save money and have space to keep extra portions :) My parents have shopped there along with friends... but, in general, Walmart doesn't spread the good vibes, and I especially don't like the way the Sam's club place feels.. Its a big warehouse. Cold. Metal. Its unwelcoming. And everything feels so... manufactured.. all the food seems synthetic.. The Sams in my city are dirtier than in this picture. I don't like the fluorescent lighting.. I don't like this American idea of work all day sitting in an office and then gorge yourself to death full of junk at home on your couch. It just doesn't sit right with me. Not that I'm a health nut.. I'm not, but.. anyway.. This place just feels.. life-killing. Unnatural to me.. :/

On the other hand, I get a better vibe from farmer's markets, stores like Trader Joes, (and Wholefoods until I have to pay.. LOL..) I just like being around things that seem more natural... (I love the vibe at Trader Joes.. all the music they play is awesome, the people who work there are always playing with each other and goofing off and friendly, everything is clean and colorful and ... I don't know.. I just like the vibe :))

In general, I just don't like the way the American Food industry operates... and how livestock is treated so poorly and all.. :(

I know I'm weird.. just one of those things.
 

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Okay, this is a really weird thing about me... You can judge me.. :) but, I get a really bad vibe whenever I visit Sam's Club, the big super-store warehouse owned by Walmart where they sell copious portions of food.

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They sell everything in large quantities at lower prices... great for if you have a family of 20, are feeding a group of circus performers, or you want to save money and have space to keep extra portions :) My parents have shopped there along with friends... but, in general, Walmart doesn't spread the good vibes, and I especially don't like the way the Sam's club place feels.. Its a big warehouse. Cold. Metal. Its unwelcoming. And everything feels so... manufactured.. all the food seems synthetic.. The Sams in my city are dirtier than in this picture. I don't like the fluorescent lighting.. I don't like this American idea of work all day sitting in an office and then gorge yourself to death full of junk at home on your couch. It just doesn't sit right with me. Not that I'm a health nut.. I'm not, but.. anyway.. This place just feels.. life-killing. Unnatural to me.. :/

On the other hand, I get a better vibe from farmer's markets, stores like Trader Joes, (and Wholefoods until I have to pay.. LOL..) I just like being around things that seem more natural... (I love the vibe at Trader Joes.. all the music they play is awesome, the people who work there are always playing with each other and goofing off and friendly, everything is clean and colorful and ... I don't know.. I just like the vibe :))

In general, I just don't like the way the American Food industry operates... and how livestock is treated so poorly and all.. :(

I know I'm weird.. just one of those things.
Where's the Vitamin Water? :crazy:
 

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For people it's either bad or good, I get energized more easily being with those who give off that warm feeling, and tend to interact a lot less with the latter. Even when we do interact I become quite apathetic and distant :/
For places it's either good or weird. I think those places giving off the good vibes tend to be more lively or serene, and I really love going to them all the time xD The weird vibes tend to be more lifeless and basically feels dead even if there'sa lot of people and I avoid those like the plague D:
 

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Yes. I always trust my vibes and when I don't I live to regret it. People ones aren't just about first impressions I don't think - it goes deeper than that. Something about the way they are, and the reasoning behind it. Places too - like when I've been looking at houses to live in, they definately have a vibe. Not usually bad ones, but the right one will definitely have a 'click' feeling about it.

Once on a walk in a quarry I got this terrible, terrible feeling like I couldn't breathe and was so panicked and I was really scared that I was having a panic attack even though I'd never had one in my life. I had to get out. My husband was really worried about me. When we got through, on the other side of the quarry, I felt absolutely fine again. There was a plaque on this side of the quarry dedicated to two boys who had died there in a flooding incident a few years before. It may have been a coincidence of course.
 

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About 10 seconds after meeting someone I get a vibe from them, and it pretty much sticks with me the entire time I'm around them. It kinda tells me whether the person's safe or not.

If I like a video game or particular song, I can never say exactly why, it's just the vibe. It has a vibe to it that's impossible to describe but makes me love it. Gah, it's a gift and a curse.
 

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all the time! sometimes people give off the vibe that I know them and I find myself reacting to them the way I would a family member or old friend, other times people can give off a vibe which makes me avoid them completely and I will feel quite tense arund them especially in the shoulders and arms.
 

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Yup, yup and triple yup. I especially pick up vibes from places. I can *feel* doom, disaster and death before I come across a scene traveling down the road. People also, I pick up vibes from.
 

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Do you ever get misleading vibes from people, or have people gotten misleading vibes from you?

I was told by someone in the past that I give off a cold vibe, but my warmth once you get to know me is quite the contrast from it.
 

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I don't really do good/bad vibes so much. Only occasionally do I get really BAD vibes from someone. When I was a child, I tended to like/dislike people almost instantly, but I suppose some Ne development has given me a more "wait and see" suspension of judgement.

Now I tend to only be aware of vibes in a "value" sense when it's very strong, and usually it's bad. I had a strong repulsion to an ex-bf of my sisters who went on to cheat on her. I just knew immediately this guy was BAD. The repulsion was so strong I could not stand to be in the same room with him. The other person I have had a similar reaction to was a landlord/friend of my family's who has been something of an arch nemesis to me & outright persecuted to me. I knew early on he was a deceptive, underhanded person with a lot of self-interest in all his dealings.

A lot of vibes I get are just a sense of WHO someone is outside of any value judgement (good/bad/etc). I can pick up on their internal emotional landscape pretty well also, especially those they are not consciously exuding or even mean to express it at all (the emotions and feelings they may be hiding or not aware of themselves). I don't take "info" this as fact, but as a kind of loose guide or vague insight, but sometimes the sense of who they are is so strong I'm able to grasp their fundamental nature very well without any facts (and MBTI/Jung has given me such a fantastic language for these kinds of insights). A short way of saying this would be "they are a free spirit kind of person", for example, like some kind of archetype; but it's more nuanced or not able to be put into words to actual say that to myself. Of course, sometimes I am very off.

I don't think I manage this like an ENFP would, which is why I fail at charming in the way they do (they adjust better to this insight, becoming who they need to be to draw out someone's potential; I don't adjust myself much).s.
 
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All the time. Its a curse really because I always regret it when I ignore the vibes I get from people.
I've been able to guess some pretty dark things about acquaintances I've met in my life. The people who have given me a really bad vibe and I've tolerated or simply told myself I was wrong, I ended up being right all along.

So yeah I get vibes, I wish I didn't sometimes because at least I can get to know someone a little better before realizing that they are horrible excuses for human beings.

I almost exclusively get bad vibes, I am usually instinctively drawn to those who give off good ones.


Do you ever get misleading vibes from people, or have people gotten misleading vibes from you?

I was told by someone in the past that I give off a cold vibe, but my warmth once you get to know me is quite the contrast from it.
Hmm, misleading in the sense that the people I am unable to read or are difficult to read are usually the type of people I'm instinctively drawn to anyway.

Yep, I've been told to have a cold almost off putting vibe sometimes. Its their fault for judging me for it though as they don't get to know me yet make assumptions of my character based off it. Like sometimes I might not be so happy and joyful about life as the rest, basing my entire self on this doesn't really make sense at all. But I guess its some peoples way of interacting with each other, a smile is a lot more accepting than a frown even if that frown isn't directed at anyone in particular.

For some reason this song came into my head after writing the above.

 
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Yes, vibes are fairly common around me. I find myself walking home alone and feeling a distinctly bad vibe radiating off an innocent bush I just walked past, and then kept getting it everyday I walked past it :unsure:. As for uncomfortable vibes, I get them a lot, especially when I am walking through crowded places, some people just give off them, as if something is telling you to stay away from them, they look completely harmless but you feel uneasy when around them. As for misleading vibes, I am quite prone to them. Some people say I give off a disinterested and distant vibe a lot (almost like I don't really know what is happening around me), even when I am interested and listening, it can be a put-off to people who trust vibes enough to think I am not listening and don't care what they have to say. But when people get to know me a little better, they realise that I am fairly attuned to the world around me and listen a lot.
 

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Vibes pretty much dictate my life. I'm extremely indecisive so when something feels 'right' I know I have to pursue it. Even if it just turns out to be a negative experience with a lesson tied to it. Sometimes it's frustrating because I can sense when something's going to turn out a certain way but it still feels like I'm meant to experience it: here's where I get in trouble for being illogical. You can know things, and then you can realise things. Realisations are very different from understandings, they're much deeper and oftentimes life changing.

My gut has never turned out to be wrong about someone, but like many of you I've felt guilty for judging someone too early and have stuck around for them to 'prove me wrong'. As you know, this doesn't end well! :p
I can tell when it's time to act and when it's time to let go. And I know when I have to wait.

As for places? Absolutely. I can't stand to be in places that give me that uncomfortable feeling. For me it's usually places like nightclubs, casinos, anywhere that's possibly haunted, anywhere I can sense something dodgy is going on and houses that lack soul.

People tend to get a positive vibe from me, I'm not very misleading in that way. I've often been told that I'm glowing, approachable, fun or comfortable to be around. Sometimes I wonder if I'm walking around with a massive sign on my head that says "TALK TO ME". A blessing and a curse. Sometimes I'd much rather prefer to have "F*CK OFF" written across my forehead.
 
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