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So how did you ENTPs lose your virginity?
Was sex something you were curious about so you just dove in? Or did some of you wait for love?
Any other extensive description is absolutely fine (and wanted). :happy:

I knew one ENTP who did it with a girl who just let him. My sister, who is of this type also, is a 9th grader in high school now. As much as I try to instill in her notions of waiting for genuineness, I'm still worried she might do whatever is 'cool' at the moment.
 

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I haven't been bothered about it really. I'm up for it if whoever I'm seeing is, but I wouldn't go hunting or anything XD I'm curious about it because it sounds really weird.
 

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I passed a few opportunities looking for "the right girl" or whatever. The girl I was really into (and I thought was really into me, turns out she was just manipulating my emotions, but that's another story) ended up not working out. So to get over her I sort of just started messing around with this sort of promiscuous girl that I regarded as highly misunderstood. She seems sort of like an ESFP, but I can't really be sure. Anyway after messing around with her on and off for a few months whenever she'd come by (I wasn't really into her so I never really pursued her which ironically made her more into me), her and I got drunk and ended up having sex. I was drunk and I'm knowledgable enough of sex that she had no clue. I've had sex with her again since, but I sober neither of those times.

I've yet to have sober intercourse, but I'm planning on waiting for a girl I actually care about for that. I still talk to the other girl, but mainly for the sake of flirting. I really do hope she finds someone that really loves her though, she has daddy issues that need to be solved.
 

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Eh, I've been propositioned but I haven't found anyone I really want have sex with. I really want to get know at least one girl deeply before I have sex, but if that doesn't happen I might just start going for whats available.
 

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I waited until I went to college. As much as I wanted to have sex in highschool, I knew that I couldn't deal with the consequences of STD/STI's and pregnancy if something went wrong. Plus I didn't want to deal with the potential drama.
As far as how I lost it went... it was a one night stand that I initiated with a coworker, and it was pretty frickin awesome. Imma leave it at that.
 

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So, from what I collected.. many of you could go either way with sex - could/would wait but also could/would not. Haha, that's interesting that you guys are sort of free in that way, or something like that.

Has anyone ever actually regretted any moments? Does intercourse vastly differ with and without emotions involved for you guys?
 

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I mean I don't regret any sexual activities I've indulged in. I'm not one to regret my actions, it's the past a choice I made I have to live with it. Sex is natural and you should be able to indulge as much as you like. I'm personally just not very promiscuous. I'd like to have more sex, but I'd rather experience it with someone I care for. Apparently with emotions tied to it, it's that much better. Meaningless sex feels good, but it's rather empty and shallow.

With all that being said I'll probably have more one night stands while I look for that person
 

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lol...this sounds so bad, but I've never associated emotional attachment with vaginal excitement. sorry. Maybe an oxytocin blockage somewhere? lol

However...I was *militant* about avoiding babies and other diseases.
 

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Vaginal excitement... LOL. *rolls eyes*

@TravelinMax
Remarks like those that re-direct someone's attention elsewhere makes me want to claw out what you ENTPs are hiding! >=] But of course I keep that to myself until I get to my destination, haha.
 

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Has anyone ever actually regretted any moments? Does intercourse vastly differ with and without emotions involved for you guys?
Emotions can be better, but not necessarily. Sexual chemistry really makes a huge difference. I was with a guy for 3 years that I had very little sexual chemistry with, and honestly it was terrible. Half of the time I was left thinking that I would have been better off with a random hookup for gratification, and I grew very resentful of him over time.
 

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Emotions can be better, but not necessarily. Sexual chemistry really makes a huge difference. I was with a guy for 3 years that I had very little sexual chemistry with, and honestly it was terrible. Half of the time I was left thinking that I would have been better off with a random hookup for gratification, and I grew very resentful of him over time.
I think going on for 3 long years like that would make me indignant also. x__x Did you voice your thoughts to try and enhance things? And did he feel the same way you did? lol.
 

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I think going on for 3 long years like that would make me indignant also. x__x Did you voice your thoughts to try and enhance things? And did he feel the same way you did? lol.
I brought it up quite often, in the nicest ways possible and I would make suggestions to try to improve things. Each time he said that I was challenging his manliness and making him feel inadequate, and he'd get extremely defensive about it and pretty much clam up entirely. He came from an extremely religious background, and had a lot of hang ups, guilt, and a very traditional sense of gender roles which made it almost impossible to talk about sexuality.
 
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