Difficult as it may sound but being alone is no where near as bad most people make it out to be granted some days it can be on the difficult side but gradually one learns to appreciate the unburdened freedom it gives compared to living on someone's leash and having to please every whim.
Waking up, healing, becoming true
Hello INFJs of the interwebs,
I got emotionally abused by a covert narcissist for two years, I was codependent with her and she was my best friend. After weeks of guilt inducing I ended the relationship to her. First I was so proud and felt so liberated and full of energy.
Now I just saw how often I got used for my empathy and I recognized inner wounds that stem from childhood (maybe even trauma). I got into people pleasing behavior because I was so scared of being alone. I put up many personas just to please people and get the attention my ego so desperately craved.
Now I'm on like a mission to tell people how I truly am, if they are dissapointed by that they must leave. I have to grow boundaries and get the authentic self I am destined to be.
What I want to say is, it's a little scary to see so many things falling apart. I know there are a lot people out there my age feeling the same or that went through the same.
I am not really good at articulating my inner world but I did the best I could. Sorry if it seems a little fuzzy.
What were your experiences with that? How did you got through that? Any tips?
Edit: INFJ age 24 m (if that's imortant)
I got emotionally abused by a covert narcissist for two years, I was codependent with her and she was my best friend. After weeks of guilt inducing I ended the relationship to her. First I was so proud and felt so liberated and full of energy.
Now I just saw how often I got used for my empathy and I recognized inner wounds that stem from childhood (maybe even trauma). I got into people pleasing behavior because I was so scared of being alone. I put up many personas just to please people and get the attention my ego so desperately craved.
Now I'm on like a mission to tell people how I truly am, if they are dissapointed by that they must leave. I have to grow boundaries and get the authentic self I am destined to be.
What I want to say is, it's a little scary to see so many things falling apart. I know there are a lot people out there my age feeling the same or that went through the same.
I am not really good at articulating my inner world but I did the best I could. Sorry if it seems a little fuzzy.
What were your experiences with that? How did you got through that? Any tips?
Edit: INFJ age 24 m (if that's imortant)
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