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Waking up, healing, becoming true

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Hello INFJs of the interwebs,

I got emotionally abused by a covert narcissist for two years, I was codependent with her and she was my best friend. After weeks of guilt inducing I ended the relationship to her. First I was so proud and felt so liberated and full of energy.
Now I just saw how often I got used for my empathy and I recognized inner wounds that stem from childhood (maybe even trauma). I got into people pleasing behavior because I was so scared of being alone. I put up many personas just to please people and get the attention my ego so desperately craved.
Now I'm on like a mission to tell people how I truly am, if they are dissapointed by that they must leave. I have to grow boundaries and get the authentic self I am destined to be.
What I want to say is, it's a little scary to see so many things falling apart. I know there are a lot people out there my age feeling the same or that went through the same.

I am not really good at articulating my inner world but I did the best I could. Sorry if it seems a little fuzzy.

What were your experiences with that? How did you got through that? Any tips?

Edit: INFJ age 24 m (if that's imortant)
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For me, it was my parents. They both have a lot of issues and aren't great people, but mainly my dad is just very apathetic, while my mom suffers from severe and untreated Narcissistic personality disorder. At times growing up in their house was nightmarish. Moving out and being at college most of the year has helped a lot. My life isn't perfect, but I'm largely happy with it and have never felt better. I unfortunately still have to maintain some connections with them, as I'm reliant on their cooperation for signing up for Financial Aid each year, and to have somewhere to stay over longer breaks. I look forward to the day when I am no longer reliant on them at all.
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