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for myself, i'm always living in the world of possibilities. i like the idea of growing something today to reap the rewards tomorrow. however, it daunted on me that i have hardly reminisce on my past, good stuff or bad. things come and go, and for the things that has pass me by, i don't very much miss them at all. neither do i have the urge to seek them out again. example is relationships like friendships. i don't have an urge to look up my old mates.
my concern here is that one day, i may regret my behavior. a pretty certain one would be the day that i'm nearing death, and no longer have a future to look forward too. would i still remember the past that i wanted to but never did and hence forgetting them? would i still be able to locate the past which has pass me by for so long?

hope to get advice from INTJs, possibly the elder ones since they may relate to this better.
also i thought this would be an interesting subject that is less expected to come from an INTJ.

p.s. not too much about remembering the past but actually going back to them in some ways, e.g. meeting up friends from high school, ex colleagues, going back to places of memories like place where one spent one's childhood, or even reminiscing past glories.
it seems like we just keep moving on the track without looking back. would we regret one day when we actually want to hook up with the past but we can't do so since we are way to concern with the future to even maintain a "relationship" with our past?
 

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Interesting... I don't really care much about the past. I do feel that each year, I'm a better, stronger, wiser person. So, the older versions of me annoy me as incompetent imposters.
 

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I remember my past, I just don't like to think about it.
It's a learning curve to think about not making the same mistakes.
Although, i often get nostalgic about times in the past when
life was sweet. :proud:
 

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Nope not much at all. I remember the things I've done more than most people I've worked with. I do have a few very close friends but i don't carry much historical baggage around.
 

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I hardly remember my past, I do remember some certain things but not as much as everyone else.
In fact, I didn't care about it, I think about what's gonna happen and keep moving on
 

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I get uncontrollable flashbacks sometimes so I remember my past alot but, aside from those flashbacks, I don't remember anything at all.
 
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p.s. not too much about remembering the past but actually going back to them in some ways, e.g. meeting up friends from high school, ex colleagues, going back to places of memories like place where one spent one's childhood, or even reminiscing past glories.
it seems like we just keep moving on the track without looking back. would we regret one day when we actually want to hook up with the past but we can't do so since we are way to concern with the future to even maintain a "relationship" with our past?
 

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No. Dwelling in the past is meaningless. The future is always more important since it is yet to happen.
interesting. because there are scenarios where the future may not be meaningful. e.g. even when near death, where future is bleak, will your concern then still be the afterlife instead of looking back on your life?
 

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our pasts should be left behind, for the reason being, thats what keeps people from moving on with their lives and being content with what they have is because of their past. I hardly look back at my past but whatever happened in the past already happened and all you can do is take experiences out of it and prevent them from happening again in the future. In a way, youre able to do good for your whats going on now and your future because of your past and not dwelling on your past because nothing will ever get done.
 

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for myself, i'm always living in the world of possibilities. i like the idea of growing something today to reap the rewards tomorrow. however, it daunted on me that i have hardly reminisce on my past, good stuff or bad. things come and go, and for the things that has pass me by, i don't very much miss them at all. neither do i have the urge to seek them out again. example is relationships like friendships. i don't have an urge to look up my old mates.
my concern here is that one day, i may regret my behavior. a pretty certain one would be the day that i'm nearing death, and no longer have a future to look forward too. would i still remember the past that i wanted to but never did and hence forgetting them? would i still be able to locate the past which has pass me by for so long?

hope to get advice from INTJs, possibly the elder ones since they may relate to this better.
also i thought this would be an interesting subject that is less expected to come from an INTJ.

p.s. not too much about remembering the past but actually going back to them in some ways, e.g. meeting up friends from high school, ex colleagues, going back to places of memories like place where one spent one's childhood, or even reminiscing past glories.
it seems like we just keep moving on the track without looking back. would we regret one day when we actually want to hook up with the past but we can't do so since we are way to concern with the future to even maintain a "relationship" with our past?
the problem is most people don't recognize , that the PAST is the one THAT determines the FUTURE . because we have consequences from the PAST which affects the FUTURE . As Albert said "" I never think of the future , it comes soon ""
 

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the problem is most people don't recognize , that the PAST is the one THAT determines the FUTURE . because we have consequences from the PAST which affects the FUTURE . As Albert said "" I never think of the future , it comes soon ""
I find the way you use caps annoying.
 

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Sure we always look to the future. But the past is important too since it has lessons. One of the things I try hard is to prevent bad things from the past from happening again, preventing myself from making mistakes which I made in the past. There are some moments from the past which I am dedicated to, they mean a lot to me and so I make a point of remembering them. It is a form of commitment.
 

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I do dwell on the past sometimes, but I like fiction.

Human memory has more than a pinch of it. The further removed and more often recollected the more fictitious it becomes. That, and we remember things as we perceived them at the time, the way we understood it and felt about it at the time we experienced it colors it permanently. Not a picture or video, but more like a painting we touch whilst our hands are always wet with fresh new paint.

But memories can be nice, and I like fiction.
 

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I think I have the opposite problem: I ruminate over the past a lot to the point of mild resentment for the future and nostalgia for the "good old days." I guess I'm not that satisfied with my present and should just keep working for the future...though it's quite hard when one is so focused on past glories and what-ifs :dry:.
 
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