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I am not coming here to rage, I am not coming here to rant, I am coming here and typing this out of concern for my fellow INFJs.
I see it all of the time, the thought that INFJs are some type of saint or angel that is perfect and that we can open people like a book. We aren't perfect, we have problems and issues just like everyone. Believing that people are that easy to know is incredibly arrogant and not to mention it insults those people. All of the INFJ brown nosing or the effects of it is beginning to really concern me because I can see it stalling us from real progress.
Compliments are great and I am not condemning those people who think we are great amazing people and voice it, we have the potential, just like every other type to be a great person. In the same breath, we have the potential to be terribly unhealthy people, I know, I have been there. Sometimes we need that praise and those compliments because of how hard we are on ourselves. But please, don't let it go to your head!
I am reaching out to my other INFJs. If we sit here and listen to all of the praise, read all of it. Then us being us, sitting there and thinking about it an absurd amount, it will have an impact on us. If we develop this false sense of perfection and amazing qualities, it will stall real forward progress as a individual. It is like trying to pound hot iron into a shield with someone blocking or weakening the swings of the forging hammer. The Pounding of the hammer being forging ourselves into better people, the hot iron being ourselves and the force holding us back being the false belief of grandeur.
It is incredibly dangerous if we allow all of this to go to our head, even if we think it isn't and say it isn't and don't believe it is, the subtle impact it can have is potentially ruinous. If the facade of being something extra-ordinary develops, when we really fall flat on our face the fall will be tenfold more disastrous if that facade wasn't there.
So please, take the compliments and praise with a grain of salt and don't let them go to your head because it will stall you from being a better person. Never stop criticizing yourself but don't over do it a HEALTHY amount of self examination goes a long way.
I see it all of the time, the thought that INFJs are some type of saint or angel that is perfect and that we can open people like a book. We aren't perfect, we have problems and issues just like everyone. Believing that people are that easy to know is incredibly arrogant and not to mention it insults those people. All of the INFJ brown nosing or the effects of it is beginning to really concern me because I can see it stalling us from real progress.
Compliments are great and I am not condemning those people who think we are great amazing people and voice it, we have the potential, just like every other type to be a great person. In the same breath, we have the potential to be terribly unhealthy people, I know, I have been there. Sometimes we need that praise and those compliments because of how hard we are on ourselves. But please, don't let it go to your head!
I am reaching out to my other INFJs. If we sit here and listen to all of the praise, read all of it. Then us being us, sitting there and thinking about it an absurd amount, it will have an impact on us. If we develop this false sense of perfection and amazing qualities, it will stall real forward progress as a individual. It is like trying to pound hot iron into a shield with someone blocking or weakening the swings of the forging hammer. The Pounding of the hammer being forging ourselves into better people, the hot iron being ourselves and the force holding us back being the false belief of grandeur.
It is incredibly dangerous if we allow all of this to go to our head, even if we think it isn't and say it isn't and don't believe it is, the subtle impact it can have is potentially ruinous. If the facade of being something extra-ordinary develops, when we really fall flat on our face the fall will be tenfold more disastrous if that facade wasn't there.
So please, take the compliments and praise with a grain of salt and don't let them go to your head because it will stall you from being a better person. Never stop criticizing yourself but don't over do it a HEALTHY amount of self examination goes a long way.