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Me and my friend are really similar. We both call ourselves Christians, suffer from Bipolar disorder (although I suspect she has type one, and I have type two) and we are both ENFPs. She invited me to her 21st birthday which is two months away. As I was going through the invite list, I noticed all of these girls that had given me a hard time in highschool and had really hated me for reasons unknown.
I'm trying to figure it out, because surely they have the same compatibility to her as far as the personality type thing goes. After some thinking I came to the conclusion that maybe she has more balence in her life. I got bullied for three years, then became an outcast for several years after that. When I first got bullied, the perpertrator of it was her best friend. It happened before they met each other, in my final year of middle school when we then went to two different schools. The bullying got even worse at the new school so after two years I switched to a new school were the original bully went. Through random events I met the other ENFP and whenever I tried to start a conversation with her, she would stare at her shoes. Two years later we wound up in the same English class and church, and became friends before she dropped out of school due to reaccuring illness. During all of this time, I may have come across as an INFP because school made me so anxious and people gave me such a hard time there.
The girls who hate me were in my photography class. I think they were cynical thinker types. They took pride in their work, but had a real arrogance about them. They were constantly picking on me and asking me awkward questions. I'm pretty sure they didn't like me. By the end of highschool, there were no hard feelings towards the girl who originally bulllied me or from her, but it is possible she poisoned the other girls against me- which would explain why the ENFP would learn to like me once she got to know me outside of a group situation.
None of this really matters now, but the reason I ask is I'm feeling like a bit of a failure as an ENFP. I don't really have that many friends, or that much happiness in my life, while this other girl seems to have hundreds of friends, lots of projects going on and millions of adventures behind her. I guess if me and my friend both took the personality stage two test of meyer briggs the differences may became more evident and obvious as to why our lives have become so different and the reason why girls that hate me, adore her would be explained, but I don't know.
Does anyone have any answers for me?
I'm trying to figure it out, because surely they have the same compatibility to her as far as the personality type thing goes. After some thinking I came to the conclusion that maybe she has more balence in her life. I got bullied for three years, then became an outcast for several years after that. When I first got bullied, the perpertrator of it was her best friend. It happened before they met each other, in my final year of middle school when we then went to two different schools. The bullying got even worse at the new school so after two years I switched to a new school were the original bully went. Through random events I met the other ENFP and whenever I tried to start a conversation with her, she would stare at her shoes. Two years later we wound up in the same English class and church, and became friends before she dropped out of school due to reaccuring illness. During all of this time, I may have come across as an INFP because school made me so anxious and people gave me such a hard time there.
The girls who hate me were in my photography class. I think they were cynical thinker types. They took pride in their work, but had a real arrogance about them. They were constantly picking on me and asking me awkward questions. I'm pretty sure they didn't like me. By the end of highschool, there were no hard feelings towards the girl who originally bulllied me or from her, but it is possible she poisoned the other girls against me- which would explain why the ENFP would learn to like me once she got to know me outside of a group situation.
None of this really matters now, but the reason I ask is I'm feeling like a bit of a failure as an ENFP. I don't really have that many friends, or that much happiness in my life, while this other girl seems to have hundreds of friends, lots of projects going on and millions of adventures behind her. I guess if me and my friend both took the personality stage two test of meyer briggs the differences may became more evident and obvious as to why our lives have become so different and the reason why girls that hate me, adore her would be explained, but I don't know.
Does anyone have any answers for me?