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We've all been broken sometime in our lives. There's many reasons. It could range from a single event or a series of rough moments in our lives. For me, I've been going through some rough patches, and in the "healing process," I started to use this as an opportunity to understand myself better, hence my presence on this forum. I think I used to spend so much time trying to understand other people, that I neglected trying to understand myself. That said, if you've gone through a difficult time, how were you able to overcome it?
Specifically, I would appreciate any insight on how an INFJ deals with distrust. As a result of a series of toxic, manipulative friendships (with people that did not deserve my friendship), I am quite wary and distrustful of people's intentions. Most of these times, I had bad vibes from these people and my intuition told me to run (fast.); however, I gave them the benefit-of-doubt because I strangely understood why these people were like this and wanted to believe that they were still good people. After ripping myself from these toxic friendships (with the help of relatives and family friends), I initially went through a phase where I had heavily distrusted myself because I had made so many wrong choices in being too trusting. Believe me when I say that this was not a pretty picture. Thankfully, I've overcome that phase, but now I am living in torment because I can't trust others, though I now trust my intuition when I get certain vibes/feelings about someone.
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough."
If any others have gone through this, i would really appreciate advice and insight. This thread is open to other difficulties INFJs had overcome; I just included my own personal difficulty to get the thread started. Ultimately I know that I need to change within and understand and find myself, however, it always helps to have people to relate to. Thanks guys.
Specifically, I would appreciate any insight on how an INFJ deals with distrust. As a result of a series of toxic, manipulative friendships (with people that did not deserve my friendship), I am quite wary and distrustful of people's intentions. Most of these times, I had bad vibes from these people and my intuition told me to run (fast.); however, I gave them the benefit-of-doubt because I strangely understood why these people were like this and wanted to believe that they were still good people. After ripping myself from these toxic friendships (with the help of relatives and family friends), I initially went through a phase where I had heavily distrusted myself because I had made so many wrong choices in being too trusting. Believe me when I say that this was not a pretty picture. Thankfully, I've overcome that phase, but now I am living in torment because I can't trust others, though I now trust my intuition when I get certain vibes/feelings about someone.
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough."
If any others have gone through this, i would really appreciate advice and insight. This thread is open to other difficulties INFJs had overcome; I just included my own personal difficulty to get the thread started. Ultimately I know that I need to change within and understand and find myself, however, it always helps to have people to relate to. Thanks guys.