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Ok I don't know if some of them are joking because some of them (SOME) are INFJ's so yea..

So I was doing some "research" (let's leave it at that) on INFJ's when this one link appears with the title:

INFJ Hate Thread

I was like Wtf man so I clicked it and WOW, lots of haters here :angry: (yes I meant to say haters)

Here are some of the posts:
1) Are bastards that pretends to care about people when all they care about are their ideals
2) Manipulate people to satisfied their own desires
3) Are hypocrites on their moral high ground.
4) Assume they know what's best for you when they clearly have no idea
5) Always try to hush everything up and spoil the fun

Damn INFJs! Always making judgments based on obviously insufficient information and then sticking to their decisions with a passionate single mindedness that defies all reasoning! Where do they get off being emotionally invested in their ideas? They need to be more objective in their analysis and less susceptible to empathy. Understanding human motivation and agendas plays very little role in the logical deduction of human nature.

Me and one of my best friends both dated one, female INFJ's are the most insanely annoying stupid *****s i have ever met! I will never in my life date one again and if i have to socialise with one due to circumstances i will make it perfectly clear that I dont want to hear about their "patheticly miserable life". STFU OR DIE!

They get extremely moody when some "injustice" has been done unto them. Yet they will sometimes not look twice when an injustice has been done to someone else or they will "feel bad" but not do anything about it. Further, they will get moody but not do anything for themselves to rectify the situation (as in...not address the person/thing that has caused the alleged injustice).


-so stubborn
-pitifully and disgustingly emotional (here's a tissue you gross, leaky-eyed crybabies)
-laughably idealistic


I hate INFJs because
-the whole "crusade" thing gets old...real fast
-they think they know everything (when they don't) and come off as real snots/idiots
-they're overly sensitive wankers
-they're contradictory in their beliefs
-they can sit and rant for 3hrs+ and then actually expect you to listen without getting bored and or falling asleep when usually what they're ranting about is stupid to begin with
-they are ridiculously stubborn to the point where it's almost childish
-they hold grudges for long periods of time
-they're not worth getting to know (they actually PRIDE themselves on being difficult to understand!!!)


Don't have an Infj around in an emergency because they will just dissociate and walk around in a stupor, pretending everthing's okay.

There eyes seem to be looking out at you but really are staring in at themselves.

They have a superior little smirk on thier faces because they are busy thinking about how complex and special they are.

Some of them care about humanity, for example, but not people.

They believe menial tasks are beneath them. Fairy princesses shouldn't be bothered with such things.

They think refusing to let a thought enter thier mind is the same as changing something in the real world.....Like if they don't let themselves think there's a problem with another person that's the same as there not being a problem. So don't BRING IT UP. Or you will be banished.


Crap bell rung. I'll edit and post link later.

Edit: Here's the link http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/nf-idyllic/5444-infj-hate-thread.html

I like how they start talking about ghandi later on....
 

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Here are some of the posts:
1) Are bastards that pretends to care about people when all they care about are their ideals
2) Manipulate people to satisfied their own desires
3) Are hypocrites on their moral high ground.
4) Assume they know what's best for you when they clearly have no idea
5) Always try to hush everything up and spoil the fun

:crazy::crazy:


On a serious note,

I assume that I can find different ways in knowing what might be better interests for other people, but I never assume that I know what's best for everyone o_O
 

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Goodness..I didn't realize we were such despicable people.

And here is the danger of the MBTI - makes people stereotype everyone else based on type. :happy:

If I ever run into this fellow, I'll make sure not to tell him I'm INFJ so he won't start putting motivations, intentions, and behaviors in my head that I don't actually have in the first place.:wink:
 

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Ok I don't know if some of them are joking because some of them (SOME) are INFJ's so yea..

So I was doing some "research" (let's leave it at that) on INFJ's when this one link appears with the title:

INFJ Hate Thread

I was like Wtf man so I clicked it and WOW, lots of haters here :angry: (yes I meant to say haters)

Here are some of the posts:
1) Are bastards that pretends to care about people when all they care about are their ideals
2) Manipulate people to satisfied their own desires
3) Are hypocrites on their moral high ground.
4) Assume they know what's best for you when they clearly have no idea
5) Always try to hush everything up and spoil the fun

Damn INFJs! Always making judgments based on obviously insufficient information and then sticking to their decisions with a passionate single mindedness that defies all reasoning! Where do they get off being emotionally invested in their ideas? They need to be more objective in their analysis and less susceptible to empathy. Understanding human motivation and agendas plays very little role in the logical deduction of human nature.

Me and one of my best friends both dated one, female INFJ's are the most insanely annoying stupid *****s i have ever met! I will never in my life date one again and if i have to socialise with one due to circumstances i will make it perfectly clear that I dont want to hear about their "patheticly miserable life". STFU OR DIE!

They get extremely moody when some "injustice" has been done unto them. Yet they will sometimes not look twice when an injustice has been done to someone else or they will "feel bad" but not do anything about it. Further, they will get moody but not do anything for themselves to rectify the situation (as in...not address the person/thing that has caused the alleged injustice).


Crap bell rung. I'll edit and post link later.
From what i know a lot of people get some hate for INFJs because of 1. The INFJs that made them mad are not INFJs 2. The INFJs are unhealthy 3. They are just mad at an INFJ 4. lack of communication

1) Are bastards that pretends to care about people when all they care about are their ideals
Just mad at an INFJ

2) Manipulate people to satisfied their own desires
Unhealthy INFJ or mistyped a person as one

3) Are hypocrites on their moral high ground.
This actually comes from the INFJs tenancies of not wanting to take but only give(which was stated with the story up top). Its ok i dont need your help but i want to help you. Many INFJs feel selfish for asking for a favour or help and it is indeed hypocritical since most INFJs want others to do the very thing we feel selfish about.

4) Assume they know what's best for you when they clearly have no idea
I think many types are prone to this. This could be caused by many things. Whats best is to explain to the INFJ why its wrong. This is normally caused because of lack of information and easily rectified by explaining it.

5) Always try to hush everything up and spoil the fun
I do this when i am uncomfortable with what is going on. I think this is actual unfair call since it looks like the INFJ was in a situation that he/she did not wish to be in.


I personally think this is a venting thread or people that just assume every INFJ will be like that one they knew/know. if it is a venting thread it is very crude one because it focuses its hate on a specific group and not the person in general.
 

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The propensity of running into decisions before inspecting all information or hearing people out is described in INFJ profile. It takes a mature INFJ to understand when it is time to observe, listen, and gather information and when it is time to make a judgement and act.

Potential Problem Areas

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.

INFJs are rare and intelligent people with many special gifts. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about INFJ weaknesses. Remember that these weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism. We want you to grow into your full potential, and be the happiest and most successful person that you can become.

Most of the weaker characteristics that are found in INFJs are due to their dominant function (Introverted iNtuition) overtaking their personality to the point that the other forces in their personality exist merely to serve the purposes of Introverted iNtuition. In such cases, an INFJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:

May be unaware (and sometimes uncaring) of how they come across to others
May quickly dismiss input from others without really considering it
May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
May believe that they're always right
May be obsessive and passionate about details that may be unimportant to the big picture
May be cuttingly derisive and sarcastic towards others
May have an intense and quick temper
May be tense, wound up, have high blood pressure and find it difficult to relax
May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
May see so many tangents everywhere that they can't stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture
source :http://www.personalitypage.com/html/INFJ_per.html
 

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A lot of those criticisms are valid unfortunately.

It all really depends on POV.

As for Vel's list... I think in my maturation I've struggled with almost all of those issues.
 

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gah you beat me to it Vel i was going to post that stuff!

A lot of those criticisms are valid unfortunately.

It all really depends on POV
I think the whole INFJs giving but not taking is actually very valid from most peoples point of view. It is something i learned to toss away since it is actually very hypocritical and really just wrong.
 

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:crazy::crazy:


On a serious note,

I assume that I can find different ways in knowing what might be better interests for other people, but I never assume that I know what's best for everyone o_O
Lol that pic made my day. :crazy::wink:

Edit: link is up
 

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Shock horror we might just be as flawed as every other type!
Bingo, my friend. :laughing:

I know we tend to strive for perfection, but surely we can grudgingly accept that we've all displayed flaws like this at some point in our lives. God knows I have.
 

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I've seen a few problems rise out of my INFJ-ness

-Sometimes moral problems make me very stressed. Where there is a moral argument for both sides... and I chose what I think is the best choice... it strains me. I NEED to solve moral dilemma's and it just wears me down.

-I speak up about things that I see as being "bad". Sometimes I am too vocal.

-Sometimes people just want to have "fun"... and I can very often be the stick in the mud. :tongue:

-Sometimes debate with people, when I should be supportive. Sometimes people are sensitive to my critical analysis of their opinions. It can get me in trouble.

-I am very sensitive to being told "what to do". My Ni makes me stubborn especially if the person telling me doesn't have a compelling argument to make me change my mind... Sometimes my Ni tells me the "right choice" and I try to convince others to join me in doing it, and when they ask... I say things like "just trust me." I'm usually right... but people still can get put off :tongue:

-And sometimes I have a disconnect and I find it hard to empathize with certain people. Especially when people are suffering from things that I am not bothered by.

These are all things I generally try to work on.
 

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M'eh. I can't say I care too much.

Anyone that displays that amount of vitriol towards an entire MBTI type inevitably has a chip on their shoulder, and almost equally inevitably has a specific person in mind by whom they judge the entire group. Not to mention the spectacular immaturity it takes to caricaturise an entire subset of the population in such a crude manner. It's like saying all NT's are dicks... and when I say this, I know some NT is going to contradict me to argue that they in fact, are :tongue:

It's just stupid. I'm sure some of those qualities manifest in unhealthy INFJs, even occasionally in healthy ones, but hey - character flaws are by no means unique to the INFJ. Pur-lease.
 

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:laughing:

Hey! That's a stereotype!
(sorry, the moment seized me)

I like to view the thread as more of a steam thread, the author/people who replied don't really hate us, they just used the INFJ type as an object of their hate, so we're secretly helping them! Yay us!
I know you were just joking with that Gracie... but NT's don't actually mean to be dicks. I was kind of surprised when I found out.

When they act that way, they don't realize that it's insensitive :confused:

I just spent like... way too much time in the INTJ boards, and they really don't know much about most of the subtleties of... "being nice" and stuff.

They really do intend well, though. So give those INTJs a break, they have to go through life with most people thinking they are assholes... and they don't know why. :laughing:
 

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:laughing:

Hey! That's a stereotype!
(sorry, the moment seized me)

I like to view the thread as more of a steam thread, the author/people who replied don't really hate us, they just used the INFJ type as an object of their hate, so we're secretly helping them! Yay us!
Ahh very nice!
 

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Re: Vel's post--yup. And having friends who are your type really rubs reality in. I really wish all INFJs would have other INFJs, ENTJs, ESFJs and ENFPs amongst their friends. These are types we can learn a lot about ourselves from if we pursue the internal questions that arise through exposure.

Types I've loved but haven't necessarily learned as much from were INTJs, ENTPs and ISFJs. :wink: But having friends around purely for the sake of fun can be helpful, too--reminds us that fun is actually NECESSARY and to keep an open mind.
 
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