After reading some of these comments I'm fairly sure the girl in question I like is a ENFP. But to clarify, I don't think we're compatible at all, I'm a relatively unhealthy INTP-A and she is a physically healthy woman that's 3 years my elder (29), she does have some oddly unhealthy character traits that I know of though, but are easily explainable.
She's the receptionist at my office (first problem), I have to see her almost everyday or atleast talk to her when she transfers calls to me. For this reason alone, in my mind, our relationship is not what I think it is and will never be anything more than what it currently is. As a INTP, a have no aptitude to approach her, yet I still reach out to her in odd ways, She's extremely well tempered on the surface and polite as her job would negate, but I see every little emotional problem she's dealing with whenever I look at her or hear her voice. I make it my attention to make dark flirtatious jokes with her and she usually plays with my stupid games for as long as I bother her, but to me it seems like she quickly ends our conversation as quickly as they start, most of the time i do understand it's because she has to be on call and doesn't have time. However we've been working together for over 4 years now, so we a relatively well acquainted, but she still seems very reserved and does not care to socialize more than necessary. We've yet to hang out outside of work, even though we know a lot about eachother and share some interests. She's extremely charismatic but tends to be reserved when it comes to allowing people into her immediate "personal zone". Her emotional outreach seems have no bound and her curiosity level is what intrigues me the most, I realize she doesn't understand how annoying yet exciting it is for me that she gives me attention for the amount of time that she does, but she's horribly inconsistent with when she decides to show her curiosity and adventurous side.
I think things got the most weird with us around valentine's when we were talking quite a bit about random stuff and things started to get a bit heated in conversation about romantics. A major caveat here, she was in a long term relationship for most of time we'd been working together and we rarely socialized, certainly at this level, but I had figured out in a round about way before she had confessed to me that they had broken up. Needless to say, she confessed to me on valentine's during our messaging that she was single as we were randomly talking about romanticism crap but also forwardly stated she "didn't want to talk about that", "that" being her breakup. Well this was late into the night and at this point I didn't know how to proceed, ultimately the conversation had stopped dead purely because she is by far the most unresponsive person when it comes to getting back to people if it's not urgent, however the way it was phrased led me to believe she did want to talk about it, but I some how had to work for the information or talk about something more interesting. I deeply wanted to prod deeper given my personality traits, but ultimately I had let it pass altogether while also making myself extremely resentful towards her. Long story short I ended up showing my displeasures in some very unusual ways the following weeks that killed whatever momentum we were getting at. For the most part I didn't like the idea of trying to get involved with some that just got out of a serious relationship, but I didn't know where her mindset was, I felt that it was weird she was opening up to me at that time certainly before confessing she was single. She doesn't seem like the person that wants to rush into things and makes clearly defined plans, so didn't know if she was just indulging me or keeping herself mentally busy.
Fast forward, during the last couple of months, her persona has started to change a bit, She's become slightly more aggravated and argumentative and she no longer seems interested in talking as much, yet she's still very courteous and curious at times, her emotional range throughout the week shifts heavily from happy to aggravated. I don't know what it is but I know it's not because of me. Which also leads me to believe she doesn't care about me anywhere near as much as I care for her.
So my loose question is, with this horrible information. Is it possible that this behavior change, has anything to do with her sexual restlessness? From what I can tell, she hasn't seemed to have found a new love interest nor does she seem like the type to "self pleasure" that much or at all. I sometimes abruptly joke around with her about porn or sex stuff, but I can clearly tell she is not well versed or comfortable with such topics. I know she's not a prude, but I'm wandering if I should push the envelope again with her. She seems to have some level of trust and comfort with me. I just can't read her that well.
...sorry for the errors, didn't proof read this at 2am.