I find that it just comes naturally to me. If you find yourself having to win the approval of others to gain piece of mind, there is a strong possibility that you are Fe dominant, or at least operate with it as your auxiliary function. I think(generally) INTPs don't really care about how others view them, and will do/say/think whatever they feel like without a second thought about what people think of them.
If I were you I'd look more thoroughly at the different cognitive functions and figure out what your dominant and auxiliary functions are, I think you may be surprised to find that you are not in fact an INTP at all.
I find that it just comes naturally to me. If you find yourself having to win the approval of others to gain piece of mind, there is a strong possibility that you are Fe dominant, or at least operate with it as your auxiliary function. I think(generally) INTPs don't really care about how others view them, and will do/say/think whatever they feel like without a second thought about what people think of them.
If I were you I'd look more thoroughly at the different cognitive functions and figure out what your dominant and auxiliary functions are, I think you may be surprised to find that you are not in fact an INTP at all.
Hey, I'm new in this forum, so this is my first thread.
I know people judge.
I know that a lot of people will say one's doing it bad, despite of the way you do it.
I know I don't have to give a **** 'bout other's opinion, but the problem is that I haven't "interiorized" it. I mean, I haven't been able to attach that conviction to my mind.
There have been some situations this last months, that have made me think: "I've had enough, I can't be depending on other's opinion all my life, that's pointless".
So I ask, What can I do for not caring 'bout other people's opinion, how can i be able to "attach" that conviction to my mind?
Instead of trying to attach the "I don't care" conviction to your mind, try to attach a "I wonder why I feel this way right now" mentality, and simply try to figure out the why. Try to embrace your Fe, not reject it and pretend it doesn't exist.
I can promise you, every ABCD type who says "I don't care what others think" is lying. That's because it's not a bad thing to care what others think about you, in a general sense, and it's very natural. The NT stereotypes are self-perpetrating, but the truth is it's because we're a bunch of arrogant ass holes who largely think others' opinions are lesser. (See all that stereotyping?)
Everyone has these feelings. From an MBTI perspective, the Fe in us can go crazy (subconsciously) if we are around others we care about (even in this forum for instance), and that's just natural.
There is, of course, a time and place to say "I don't care what you think about me," but trust me that's a lot more rare than we NTs usually make it out to be. (I find INTJs hilarious regarding this phenomenon, but us INTPs aren't usually any better.) The bottom line is, you're just restricting yourself by trying to be what you are not. Let yourself feel those feelings, and then analyze them from there. Don't let stereotypes of "I'm bad ass because I don't care" sway you at all.
Instead of trying to attach the "I don't care" conviction to your mind, try to attach a "I wonder why I feel this way right now" mentality, and simply try to figure out the why. Try to embrace your Fe, not reject it and pretend it doesn't exist.
Hey, I'm new in this forum, so this is my first thread.
I know people judge.
I know that a lot of people will say one's doing it bad, despite of the way you do it.
I know I don't have to give a **** 'bout other's opinion, but the problem is that I haven't "interiorized" it. I mean, I haven't been able to attach that conviction to my mind.
There have been some situations this last months, that have made me think: "I've had enough, I can't be depending on other's opinion all my life, that's pointless".
So I ask, What can I do for not caring 'bout other people's opinion, how can i be able to "attach" that conviction to my mind?
I'm a 5 w 4... I've read that fours really care 'bout other's opinion, but I'm not really familiarized with it.
I have doubted between INFP and INTP, but I've taken MBTI test millions of times (because I wanted to be sure I wasn't cheating unconsciously) and I always got INTP, only once i got INFP.
It also could be because of my background, I mean, look Ingmar Bergman, I've read he was an INT*, but because of his father he was always in touch with shame.
Hey, I'm new in this forum, so this is my first thread.
I know people judge.
I know that a lot of people will say one's doing it bad, despite of the way you do it.
I know I don't have to give a **** 'bout other's opinion, but the problem is that I haven't "interiorized" it. I mean, I haven't been able to attach that conviction to my mind.
There have been some situations this last months, that have made me think: "I've had enough, I can't be depending on other's opinion all my life, that's pointless".
So I ask, What can I do for not caring 'bout other people's opinion, how can i be able to "attach" that conviction to my mind?
I can promise you, every ABCD type who says "I don't care what others think" is lying. That's because it'snot a bad thing to care what others think about you, in a general sense, and it's very natural.