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We all have our hot button issues. Usually they begin in childhood with our parents' criticisms of us. I still haven't resolved my hot button issues, and today they seem to be bothering me more than usual. Here's what was said to me as a child, and still really hurts:
You're:
lazy
negative
weak
critical
spacey
"You would feel better if you'd just get your nose out of that book and do something!"
I think nothing hurts more than the "lazy" label. My mom was a very active person, a hard worker and she saw me as messy, dirty, and lazy and it drove her nuts. I have tried very hard over the years not to be what she thought I was, but my nature works against me. I have low energy naturally being introverted, but on top of that I have an autoimmune disorder which is exhausting.
When I can't seem to get moving, and my house begins to look bad (which it will within hours because I have 3 boys), I really hate myself. I would trade all my whimsical creativity, my pretty voice, my looks, and all my talent just to have the drive and energy to keep my home and yard neat, clean, and pretty, and to be able to take better care of my boys, reading to them, cooking for them, taking them places. That is what I value, because that is what I was taught to value. But the one thing I value the most is the one thing that is hardest for me to achieve.
What do you struggle with the most? What is the one thing that you do not want to hear?
You're:
lazy
negative
weak
critical
spacey
"You would feel better if you'd just get your nose out of that book and do something!"
I think nothing hurts more than the "lazy" label. My mom was a very active person, a hard worker and she saw me as messy, dirty, and lazy and it drove her nuts. I have tried very hard over the years not to be what she thought I was, but my nature works against me. I have low energy naturally being introverted, but on top of that I have an autoimmune disorder which is exhausting.
When I can't seem to get moving, and my house begins to look bad (which it will within hours because I have 3 boys), I really hate myself. I would trade all my whimsical creativity, my pretty voice, my looks, and all my talent just to have the drive and energy to keep my home and yard neat, clean, and pretty, and to be able to take better care of my boys, reading to them, cooking for them, taking them places. That is what I value, because that is what I was taught to value. But the one thing I value the most is the one thing that is hardest for me to achieve.
What do you struggle with the most? What is the one thing that you do not want to hear?