It's true, people will show you who they truly are in life.
When someone shows their true nature is a negative nature, don't excuse their behavior or you will be repeatedly shown to the point where you are in great pain and stress.
That person may be on a journey to becoming a better individual but that does not mean you need to be their stepping stone. Their decisions belong to them and they need to reap the rewards to grow, just as your decision to remain in a crappy relationship (friendship, marriage, work environment) is yours to reap.
Being cold isn't always a bad thing. It can also be positive change.
Thank you for sharing GiGi, you made a couple of very good points. I can relate to your point about not being a stepping stone, usually after I meet someone who wasn't ready to be one for me. 20 years ago I was not the nicest of guys, and as I was trying to change or become a more positive member of society, I would have to leave one set of "friends" behind that were not the type of people I wanted to be and find someone who was closer to the type I did want to be like. What makes this a memorable point in time for me was how the" bad people" I was leaving behind thought of me as a "Do Good'er", but the people I wanted to be like thought of me as still the same ole "bad person."
I know that was not totally your point, but it's the memory that popped into my head as I read it. I think we all want to give people a chance, or two, or three, ...but some of us hold onto those "get out of jail free" cards a little tighter then others and will cut people lose faster then most with the first sign of trouble. My ex-wife did a great job at dealing with the little left-over attitude and problems I have. (it's not why we got divorced) I guess in my case, you can take the guy out of the big city, but you can't take the big city completely out of the guy.
Thanks again for taking the time to share.
SD
ESSAY- I'm committed to smiling for my serial killer.
This reminds me of what my brother is always telling me, "give me five bucks"...OH wait, wrong thing, it's "kill them with kindness." Yeah, that's the one. :wink: It gets frustrating at times, but it's a lot cheaper then bail. :laughing: And it's a little more fun to watch someone boil over when they can't get a rise out of you.
Thanks for making me smile. :happy:
(Oh, as an ENFP, I feel I need to say I was not trying to mislead you or flirt with you in any way.:crazy: I hope you get that, otherwise....

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SD