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What is an ENTP expecting from an INTJ in a relationship, what is love to an ENTP?

I know what I want from a relationship, I expect love in ten different ways. Before I date an ENTP what exactly is an ENTP looking for in a relationship?

This is just so that there aren't any covert contracts in this relationships between ENTPs and INTJs.

I might be biased towards all INTJs, but this is what I need in a relationship with a ENTP. I need love in 10 different ways by giving me.*(Required)

1)Acceptance
2)Tolerance/Sensitivity
3)Freedom/Alone time
4)Loyalty
5)Open mindedness/Attention
6)Recognition/Understanding
7)Being Vulnerable(Not being afraid to show weakness)
8)Kindness/Respect
9)Honesty
10)Sex & Keeping yourself Healthy and or Fit

What I don't need from ENTP, but like.*(Optional/Unnecessary)

1)Being emotional
2)Admiration
3)Praising my status
4)Submission
5)Giving me Glory
6)Adoration
7)Impressing me with Logic
8)Being Hot/Sexy
9)Security/Safety
10)Finance
11)Protection

I know I want these things from you, but what do you want from me?

I've been looking for threads for this but I could'n't find the accurate answer to my question, you might be thinking, yeah well I already answered this crap elsewhere so you don't nee to post this, well okay.

After reading a number of articles from websites, I've learnt that this is a mirror relationship between ENTP and INTJ, here the cognitive fucntions are perfectly aligned with one another and there is a potential for heated arguments and debates, is this true for your relationships? However C.S Joseph on YouTube says this is the best relationship with lots of fireworks and both read each other like a book, to me that sounds epic! but is this actually what happens? I've never met an ENTP but I've met lots of ISTJs, ISFJs and ESFJs, but I never felt like they really understand me, my ways are strange to them.
 

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Love to an ENTP is what love is to any other person.

As for the traits ENTPs value ("in INTJs"): they depend on individuality more than personality. And the best way to find out is being your best self, and see how far you can get.


These things you are listing, by the way, aren't the cause of love, but the things which determine the 'consummation' thereof.
 

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Thanks for the info, I have wondered the same as I believe that an INTJ would be my perfect match. I test as an ENTP but am a serious internal processor. I had a relationship with an a XNTJ and truly the NT commonality was the most tasty part of the relationship. We couldn’t get things figured out for other reasons but it was a serious good match.
Here is what I need as an ENTJ female
1) I love it when you plan but don’t have a cow if I want to change it up some.
2) Accept that my method of organization isn’t often labeled and clear but it is a mind map so respect the pile (s) -don’t touch my stuff.
3) I have visions for everything and most of them I’m not married to and a few I am. Step in and look at them with me.
4). I can handle constructive criticism about my ideas. I need you to be open minded about some of my hair brained schemes and not shoot them all down.
5). Affirm my unorthodox approach to everything and way of life.
6). Failure is one of my favorite tools. Please laugh with me when it happens and talk through the post mortem. Learning together draws me close to you.
7). Know that I need you to bring that sense of order to things. Be kind about it.
8). If you try to control me I will shut down and if you join me I will light up.
9). Im built to collaborate and not compete.
10) I need space and opportunity and emotional encouragement to create and invent.
11). Youre my best friend. I need to feel safe sharing all my ideas and getting a glimpse inside my inner clockwork.

Be in charge and give me space to create and learn
Learn with me.
Use kind words and compliments but not constantly or falsely
Be congruent
Protect me
Pursue me
Share your insides and heart with me.
Trust me.

Hope that helps and not sure that will resonate with other ENTP’s

Thanks for sharing what you shared.
 

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Okay I will take what you people said into consideration. Thank You
 

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ENTP Beliefs

I will accept nothing less than perfection from myself.

In order to be loved and successful, I must be perfect.

I must be loved.

I have so many faults that I must be approved of in other ways.

I need to please others to gain their acceptance.

I should be able to dominate life.

It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration.

Other people don't deserve the admiration or riches that they get.

I've got to try hard to be at my best at all times.

I need to be necessary to people.

I have an immense desire to give people a sense of security.

I must be a personage, one who is never thought of apart from what he's done.

I am constantly in search of the best forms to guide and control life.

I must transform the world around me to confirm my own personality.

I have an all-consuming need for identity.

Can you relate to any of the above?
 

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ENTP Beliefs

I will accept nothing less than perfection from myself.

In order to be loved and successful, I must be perfect.

I must be loved.

I have so many faults that I must be approved of in other ways.

I need to please others to gain their acceptance.

I should be able to dominate life.

It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration.

Other people don't deserve the admiration or riches that they get.

I've got to try hard to be at my best at all times.

I need to be necessary to people.

I have an immense desire to give people a sense of security.

I must be a personage, one who is never thought of apart from what he's done.

I am constantly in search of the best forms to guide and control life.

I must transform the world around me to confirm my own personality.

I have an all-consuming need for identity.

Can you relate to any of the above?
Overall No ,(some of them partially yes and no), Where did you get this information ? (I don't mean it in a negative way), or did you conclude this yourself ?
 

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ENTP Beliefs

I will accept nothing less than perfection from myself.

In order to be loved and successful, I must be perfect.

I must be loved.

I have so many faults that I must be approved of in other ways.

I need to please others to gain their acceptance.

I should be able to dominate life.

It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration.

Other people don't deserve the admiration or riches that they get.

I've got to try hard to be at my best at all times.

I need to be necessary to people.

I have an immense desire to give people a sense of security.

I must be a personage, one who is never thought of apart from what he's done.

I am constantly in search of the best forms to guide and control life.

I must transform the world around me to confirm my own personality.

I have an all-consuming need for identity.

Can you relate to any of the above?
This is way more enneagram related than MBTI related.
 

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Re: ENTP beliefs

Sorry, not at all. I love my own uniqueness and revel in it. All that pleasing business sounds a little codependent to me and I find that something about the NT function keeps me out of that zone because I totally miss that I’m supposed to please anyone. Are you certain you’re an ENTP?
 

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TrueorFalse248 said:
ENTP Beliefs

I will accept nothing less than perfection from myself.

In order to be loved and successful, I must be perfect.

I must be loved.

I have so many faults that I must be approved of in other ways.

I need to please others to gain their acceptance.

I should be able to dominate life.

It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration.

Other people don't deserve the admiration or riches that they get.

I've got to try hard to be at my best at all times.

I need to be necessary to people.

I have an immense desire to give people a sense of security.

I must be a personage, one who is never thought of apart from what he's done.

I am constantly in search of the best forms to guide and control life.

I must transform the world around me to confirm my own personality.

I have an all-consuming need for identity.


Can you relate to any of the above?
Not your questions, you have just copied them:

Disorder Perspective
The personality disorder which is a pathological representation of the Inventive personality type is the Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Basic belief: I must attain a position of distinction or merit. Thinking strategy Pretension.
https://www.the16types.info/info/types/ENTP.htm

Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder
PTypes - Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder Criteria
 

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Okay I think I got it, though I will do further research on the ENTP. Thank You
 

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Make sure you let them know about that list of expectations, thats not an entp thing thats just a person thing.

Anyways an Entp loves Passion so get passionate with them, talk about what you love and really get into it.
If their with you they probably really want to explore you so tell them about yourself, more then just the basics.

When I dated an Intj the first one was an easy thing for us, passion was never an issue. The second was always an issue, she never wanted to talk about herself and it felt like I was dating a figure in the fog.
Another issue we had was our egos would clash so look out for that. Good luck!
 
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