Really? That's interesting. ENFJs are so fun to mess with! They take everything so seriously.Manipulative ENFJ are actually unhealthy (at least according to mbti) funny thing i've noticed most of the ENTP's I've read about or known seem to have had ENFJ parents
i have similar experiences. i keep only one enfj in my life -- he's quite unassuming of himself, but opinionated about everyone else around him. the rest of the enfjs i've met apparently have the tendency to ram a sock into my mouth whenever i air my incisive opinions. they kind of aggressively want harmony in a group, but do not know how aggressive they are themselves. others can't keep their mouths shut about all the GREAT stuff they've done in their lives. they'd ramble on for an hour or so about their work in the social services department without flinching at how mortifyingly bored the rest of the group is already. how is that Fe? they seem to be obsessed with themselves that they project this obsession to everyone around them. i find them quite tiring, actually, even more tiring than unhealthy enfps. coupled with a fawning intp sidekick, an enfj loves the limelight of being right all the time and purposefully living the good life. then again, not all enfjs are like thisShallow. They gossip excessively with everyone and anyone, and they are too expressive regarding their emotions. They generally try too hard to get along with everyone, to the point where it becomes ludicrous, since it can be seen as superficial. They want to be liked, and that can actually be displayed as a subtle desperation, and most importantly, I struggle with trusting them, since they can’t keep a secret. They just can’t. I do enjoy the fact that they are very easy-going, and I’m not going to deny that they are the kindest people I know, and I do ‘get along’ with them. What I do struggle a lot with is them proclaiming many traits that they claim to possess. I noticed that whenever they talk, they go “As you know me, I’m a very reasonable and open-minded person, so…”
It’s not easy, and admittedly, I do get into a few conflicts with them here and there, but I regard them as okay friends to be around, but not the best, and probably never as personal/close friends.
Disclaimer: Keep in mind that I’m referring to a few ENFJs that I’d known for 2 years, and this is my general impression of them, and I’m definitely not referring to all ENFJs.
They're, uh...people. They're very peopley people. No matter who it is, they would have no doubt that ENFJs are people, because they're extremely peopley.every enfj i've met irl seems to rub off me the wrong way
i also find most of them heavy-handedly manipulative, vocal, and arrogant
what do you think of enfjs?