It's interesting you saying about hating submissiveness. My ESTJ guy hated me for it, but it also turned him on, I think. He loved it :/ It was like he was disgusted and attracted at the idea of controlling me. I was never good enough for him, either. To be honest, I expect most ESTJ/xnfp relationships would almost always be a bit messed up. I wish I could say otherwise, but it's the truth as I know it. Are you ESTJs ever actually happy with anyone, or do you always have to tell them to change? Fascinating thread, by the way.
I look for a woman who wants to act like a woman should. How I'd expect. I like to be able to provide for her and fight for her. However I hate ditsy girls. If you want to attract me, come up to me and show blatant interest. Don't hint. Just say "I think I'm interested in you." I will ask you out. I'm not great at reading social cues, but when people are blunt about their feelings and get straight to the point, I like it. I don't like bitchiness though, it doesn't mean not to be polite or dignified. It just means be honest and provide full disclosure of where you are at emotionally.
So, can I sum up and see if you guys agree. You like women who are
Does that seem reasonable? Hmm, could an ENFP be part of that do you think?
- of similar beliefs/religion etc
- respectfu of tradition and family etc
- strong in character but willing to accept help and support from you
- Someone who allows them to be silly and accepts their quirks
- Someone who is able to be a 'safe place' for them to be, consistent in their affection
- Someone fun