Of all the ISTJs I know, you guys don't seem to be very pro-active when you might like company or when you're missing someone... My ISTJ friends seem to be more likely to shut themselves in a room and read/play music/make something, than to actively seek social contact. So, my question is, if you're missing your friends and want to see them, when are you likely to organize something with them, and when are you more likely to not bother until someone contacts you, and why?
Gurl--you ask some hard questions!:crazy:
'Splain me dis uh, "miss people." What's dat?
As a younger ISTJ, it didn't happen much if any at all. If you were removed from my life by circumstances, I didn't really miss you, as in long for you and want to be with you to the point I would change my schedule. If I did happen to run into you again, I would be happy, but would not actively plan to meet up with you. At times, I might be curious as to what you were up to and how things were going in your life, but it would not be a longing for or a missing you type of feeling.
As an older ISTJ, there is a core group of about a dozen people that I do miss if I don't see them regularly. I want to be connected to these people and I will plan to meet up with them in whatever way is comfortable to our schedules.
Out of this dozen or so, included is my family. I can really get the blues if I don't have regular interactions with SWMBO or my kids. My youngest son worked with me this summer. When he left to go back to college, I had a rough 2-3 days.:sad:
Even now, if you are a friend of mine, but not in the "dirty dozen" then I am not likely to miss you. Just wonder what you are up to, time to time.
EDIT: Ok, I forgot about one person. I do miss Sela on this board if she's gone for several days. I luv all youse ISTJs, but with Sela--she's like a sister--we think so similarly about stuff it's like she is a female version of me.:crazy: