[IDontKnowMe]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

What do you look for in a partner?

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?


Thanks!

 

[00Hikaru00]

@IDontKnowMe

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)? <20

What do you look for in a partner?I like guys with boyish good looks, :wink: with a good heart and good temper.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? Nope. I rather enjoy the chase

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other? Everywhere and Anywhere

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits? Yes, but I will immediately call it quits if my partner cheats.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? YES!

 

[odinthor]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

<20

What do you look for in a partner?

Passion, comprehension, equity, reciprocation, responsibility

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?

Difficult to date unknowns, easy to date knowns

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

School

Do you forgive easily?

No

What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Be dispassionate, uncomprehending, inequitable, unreciprocating, irresponsible

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?

It is easy to fall in love; it is difficult to find someone I like that way (I "like" nearly everyone)

 

[Mibble]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
<20

What do you look for in a partner?
Great conversations, open minded, not serious all the time and smart, nice and understanding

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?
Yep. When I was single I always did this thing where I imagine having a relationship with the person instead of actually going up and talking to the person :laughing:

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
I met her at a summer program down in Austin

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
I suppose so. For me to quit the partner would have to have cheated on me or talked behind my back

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?
Not really. I always seem to lika a person by first look, it's where once I really get to talk to the person is where my pickiness would begin.

 

[Demtrae]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

<20

What do you look for in a partner?

Intelligence, empathy, a good sense of humor, easygoing. Just a interesting personality with something to say.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?

I don't know, I never went on a real date. I guess I would be if it's somewhat of a "stranger"

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

At work, on the street,..

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Yes, I do and I'll forget about it. Either something seriously malicious or just the amount of things.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?

Yes. It's rare for me to find someone that I really like, but it's easy to fall in love.

 

[Enoch]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

16 (only one I've ever had)

What do you look for in a partner?

Empathy, Submissiveness, Intelligence, Composure, Devotion, Consistency, Predictability. She must also be able to tend to sensory requirements (food and so on, I am useless in this field), and be willing to do paperwork and other nonsense. On top of this, she must also have a strong English ancestral heritage (as have I, I do not want to throw it all away).

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?

Don't know. Yes, but I say that intuitively.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

Secondary School.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Yes, she could stab me in a fit of rage and she would most probably be forgiven very soon after. Cheating is where my forgiveness ends, even the 'meaningless drunk kiss' is enough for me to withdraw and never consider marrying her again, if I am married then it will be a great conundrum.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?

Extremely, it is equivalent to you wandering out to the nearest woodland and looking for an elephant. That is however only because of the modern world, I am very detached from it and want to find people likewise (there aren't any as I know), in another time it could have been much different.

I've never been in love so probably, yes.

 

[maust]

Copy-pasted from boyfriend.

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
< 20, like 16...?

What do you look for in a partner?

Ambitious, fun, has a good sense of humor, nice. Preferably smart and attractive. Someone I can talk to and feel comfortable doing anything with.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?

No? I love dating. But I did find it difficult to find someone I wanted to date lol. And then more difficult getting the courage to talk to them (or getting them to respond in the case of tinder). ;p

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

Tinder in the Bay Area!

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

I do forgive easily, though haven't really had to forgive people for anything really. &#55358;&#56596; I guess I'd back out if it felt like there was a lack of trust or something like that.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?

I thought we basically answered this? I guess the other one was about dating and this is more serious. I guess it is harder for me to find someone I really want to commit to since I do have high standards. Also I like lots of people but don't get close to many.

 

[TalNFJ]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

Never I'm 19 currently.

What do you look for in a partner?

I'm only attracted to people that seem mysterious to me or that I can't catagorize, that seems to be top priority. After that I'd say it's being able to understand me and knowing when to give me my alone time, having high aspirations for life and a deep value system. And in terms of looks eyes are the most important, though I wouldn't judge much by looks. Other than those there's the basic: smart, pretty, emotional but rashional and all those things we wish to find in everyone but normally don't happen.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?

Never dated but I really don't think i'd find it stressful, if it's supposed to work between me and another person I truly believe it will work, and if not then good riddance.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

T^T.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

I won't forgive easily probably, I judge harshley. Lying is probably the worst.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?

Extreamly, I never fell in love and I think I liked only two girls back in elementary.

 

[lavendersnow]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

I haven't.

What do you look for in a partner?

I want to be able to trust them and feel completely at ease around them, my quirks at all. I've only ever experienced this once and I know it's a requirement for me. I also want them to be strong where I am weak - like energy wise, in how assertive they are etc.

I find intelligence highly attractive - especially when they're smarter than I am and passionate about what they do.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).

To be honest, the older I get the more lonely I'm getting because I have no one to share my thoughts with.

But the idea of being a relationship has always been anxiety provoking in me because people who tend to like me make me feel smothered - but I also don't want to feel like I'm not valuable. There's a thin line, I feel.

Also, I'm not very outgoing and most people my age are

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

I do forgive easily but I will remember every word or act you did to upset me. I don't have many dealbreakers but the ones I do have are non-negotiable. Like cheating for example.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?


I've never been in love and while I don't think I'm picky, people tell me I am. I have high standards because I hold myself to a high standard. It's quite sad I've never felt deeply for someone in that way but I would like to.

 

[Vivid Melody]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
<20

What do you look for in a partner?
I wanted someone who was able to understand me and had the ability to teach me. Those were my main things.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).
I do think that method would have been stressful for me if I had gone that route but who knows. My natural way was having a strong friendship as the foundation for a romantic relationship first until it naturally evolved into more.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
Online but not through a dating site or app. Just kind of randomly in a chatroom and I didn't go there specifically looking for someone to date. We were friends for a year initially (off and on). Been married for 11 years now.

Do you forgive easily?
I'd say so. Bitterness only weighs me down.

What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
I have no hard limits or specific expectations. The only thing I can think of is if he no longer wanted me any more or developed a pattern of mistreatment towards me with no intention or desire to change (neither of which I foresee happening).

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like?
Apparently not but I do think I lucked out with finding my soulmate so early on or maybe it wasn't luck at all.

How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
Before the relationship with my hubby, I did have a pattern of convincing myself I was happy in other relationships when deep down, I knew I wasn't really fulfilled (staying just because I was lonely). I don't think I'm terribly hard to please, I just didn't always follow what I knew I wanted. And obviously what I wanted wasn't impossible to find.

 

[Snowflake Minuet]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

After 19 (now, i.e. sometime in the future

What do you look for in a partner?

The times I have been even just a little interested in someone, it's often his mind that really stands and and interests me if I have to pick a certain aspect of a person. Intellectual curiosity/focus, intriguing interests, and such general really attract me. I could go into personality traits and all that too, but the thing is, I feel more than anything it's just that overall feel of a person--how they look, their mind, their personality--very rarely someone will just grab me right away.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).

Don't have experience with this

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

If my last gut feeling has been true, I may have met him at university

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Again, I don't have experience being in a relationship, but in general dishonesty or just lack of caring and or openness I think would be hard for me to live with a lot.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?

So much!! It's not like I'm such a hermit lol, people have been interested in me and I have mildly here and there been interested in others, but I've only ever really encountered one or maybe two people who really make me want to be in a relationship. I guess I have a strong family too, and so while close human relationships are some of the most important things to me, I just am not naturally so actively seeking them outside, it's not my main focus I guess.

 

[Cotillion]

lemme answer first what i look for in romantic relationship

- human companionship: someone with whom to share values, feelings, interests, and goals; someone with whom to share the joys and burdens of existence
- love: to exercise my emotional capacity in the unique way that love makes possible
- be loved: to be valued, cared for, and nurtured by another human being
- experience psychological visibility: to see myself in and through the responses of another person, one with whom i have important affinities
- sexual fulfillment: for a counterpart as a source of sexual satisfaction
- emotional support system: for at least one person who is genuinely devoted to my well being, an emotional ally who, in the face of life’s challenges, is reliably there
- self-awareness and self-discovery: for expanded contact with the self, which happens continually and more or less naturally through the process of intimacy and confrontation with another human being
- share my excitement in being alive and to enjoy and be nourished by the excitement of another

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
<20

What do you look for in a partner?
i need to find a person to admire, to feel stimulated and excited by, a person toward who i can direct my energy

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful?
yes, i have a hard time trusting people and opening up

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
school ground, martial art classes, sport activities, pubs

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
i'm usually the one who needs to be forgiven so i have no trouble doing it myself
i'm highly intolerant to mind games for some reason, any attempt to manipulate or force a reaction out of me just makes me go

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
i don't like most people
i'm fine on my own so i have no reason to ever lower my standards

 

[FreeKekistan]

OK, I'll gratify this questionnaire, @IDontKnowMe

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
Had my first full relationship later as I did my first "dirty deed" just before turning 20. I consider full relationships those that involve connection and sexeh stuff. I dated people since 16, I had sex with others, but connected properly and what would qualify as a relationship? Probably only 6 would qualify to my standards of relationships.

What do you look for in a partner?
Smarts. Lots and lots of smarts. Someone who is not afraid to be goofy, if the joke demands it, someone that can play along with my witty lines. Someone shy and soft, but rugged in the inside, someone that can laugh at an offensive joke knowing that it is a joke. People that go too much into soft is unattractive. I like feminine women, but with a good sense of humor, with high levels of intelligence. I love me some IQ. Just not the overly sensitive types. Someone that appreciates both innovation and some traditional values. Definitely not INFJs.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).
I met my wife online. I never had an issue with online dating apps, but with the people on those apps. It just seems that most use it as a validation thing, to feel good about the attention they can attract. Most people there aren't really interested in a relationship. They seem so rigid and impersonal. Still, I am not faulting online dating, I am faulting the current society. A bunch of vanity driven assholes.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
Like I said, met online. It's been almost 10 years ago. The website does not even exist anymore. I still have the description saved though. I still read it and I think that it is just as valid today as it was back then. Describing what I said earlier about what kind of women I would like.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
Surely used to. Now, it depends what I have to forgive, or if it is worth forgiving. I've become very pragmatic lately.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
It's neither hard nor easy. I need to be dazzled. I tend to be picky, but not on physical attraction, on psychological level mostly. Anybody can slap on a skirt and "walk the walk" and "talk the talk", but few can actually "think the think". I tend to just look away from superficial people because I get bored easily. Well, all of this is pointless since I am not dating or looking to, but surprisingly enough, not much changed in my dating preferences in the past 10 years.

 

[EliiCrazy11]

I must admit, I'm quite young, so I don't have much experience with relationships and stuff, but I would like to share my opinion nonetheless. But I'll only answer some questions to which I believe I have valuable answers.
The thing that I'm really attracted to is intelligence. I usually get interested in someone only after I notice the said person is smart. And honestly, that is the only thing I really need. but I appreciate when the guy is a gentleman, and I like those small things, like that he smiles when I walk into the room, or gives me a taste of his food, or that he remembers some tiny detail about me. And he must care about me. (But that's sort of obvious). Yeah, and I want him to understand me, at least to some point, and for him to let me understand him. So we could spend time together and feel comfortable, but also so he would allow me some introvert-time alone.
I haven't dated many times, but it was always a very stressful experience. I always feel like I have to be perfect and imagine that the guy will see something bad about me any moment etc., so I'm basically one step from a heart attack the whole time.
I am horrible with forgiving. Like, I forgive too much. I have never door-slammed anyone yet. All the person (not necessarily a partner, anyone) has to do is look me in the eye and honestly - I'll know - say he's sorry and explain why he did whatever he did. Even when the reason will suck, I'll forgive nonetheless.
I think that if I won't mistake myself in who he is, the only thing he could do would be leaving me/breaking up with me/not wanting me anymore. As I said earlier, I forgive everything.
I see "potentials" everywhere (guys who look like I could actually like them), but they must follow certain patterns for me to actually fall in love with them, which rarely happens. And that sort of answers even the pickiness question.

 

[IDontKnowMe]

Thank you all for your in-depth answers. It's fascinating to hear how other INFJs function in relationships. It doesn't make me feel as strange being so picky!

 

[foamonthewaves]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
20-25

What do you look for in a partner?
Intelligence. Above and beyond all, intelligence. Open-mindedness and a desire to understand and appreciate me for me, even if they cannot wholly understand me. No one after all, can wholly understand anyone else. I certainly cannot. Consistency, loyalty, safety, and a willingness to balance together time and alone time. I absolutely must have alone time, but I also must have regular time with my partner to keep that feely emotion shit I apparently need alive. So, the key for me is balance. Harmony.

Is it difficult for you to date?
Yes, because I am, of course, a sensitive type and once burned I will slam the door for years to avoid getting hurt again.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
I am in a relationship with an ISTP. Yes, I know. Trust me, it is difficult, but he’s told me I am worth it and I think he is worth it. So, go figure. If I told you where we met you’d laugh forever.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
Whether or not I forgive easily depends on how much I value you. Good luck figuring out whether you’re in the value or not value category. Trololol. What makes me call it quits? If my partner does not even bother to try to understand me or make accommodations for me like I do for him.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
Christ fuck yes and when I do it is always the weirdest types I would ever go for on my own. I am extremely picky because people spend most the time invalidating my Ni, at which point I slam the INFJ door and build an electric fence.

Fun fact: I am a newly converted INFJ from INFP. I thought for the longest time I was an INFP. Oh boy was I wrong. Tests are not everything.

 

[Stopping By Woods]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

<20

What do you look for in a partner?

Someone who holds themselves accountable for the same things they criticise in others- i.e I am sick of double standards.

The typical things that an INFJ male seeks in a female.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).

Yes.

I usually need to converse online with them for a while to see if we truly have anything in common - their writing style is usually a good indication, as to whether it is worth pursuing further.

Stressful?

Yes.

Not only the emotional stress of dealing with women who are great on dates 1 & 2 and who you have great daily exchanges online with, but on date 3, it seems her evil twin sister takes her place, critiques you for everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) and subjects you to a day of hell - and on the train home you think, if I hadn't wasted my time and had saved the money I spent on this and the previous dates, I could have bought some new shoes and some books.

Then, of course, you find yourself doing it again.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

Online, although not all through dating sites.

The last time, I was literally in the process of deleting my OKC account, but a voice in my head said not to, my now-ex contacted me 2 hours later.

That relationship ended badly, but a very unique experience from the start...

I only seem to go out of my way to date women in late summer / fall - either it leads to a relationship or not.

Of, course, there are exceptions to the time of year.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Depends if I love them or not...I love unconditionally...but to get to that point is very, very rare for me.

I have been out with / dated some real nutcases* / women that I can see that it would be a big mistake to get further involved with. When that becomes apparent, I seem to unconsciously start doing subtle things / behaving in a way I know they don't like. On reflection, it makes it a lot easier, than a direct and confrontational breakup - women have always 'broken up' with me.

* The perils of 'artistic' types. How would you like to discover that she photographed you asleep in the middle of the night, without your permission, to utilise your image in an 'art' project?

If someone intentionally uses me or fucks me over? - luckily I have as far, never been in that position.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?

Very...to the point that I seriously wonder that I will be alone for the rest of my life.

Like Cotillion, I find that I don't like most people these days.

I have a very long list of criteria, and now know from experience that if they don't meet those, I am setting myself up for grief and heartbreak if I pursue it.

I am also convinced that I will ONLY be happy with a women from the US who shares my beliefs / values which are seemingly alien to most Europeans.

 

[AppleJackzO]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
Haven't yet. I'm 22 if that matters.

What do you look for in a partner?
Someone who understands me of course. Typical INFJ desire I guess. I just want to be myself around him. I don't want to hold back on anything or pretend I like something or don't like something just to please him. I have a wide variety of interests that ideally he'd be interested in as well. Even though I haven't been in a relationship, I know I'd be affectionate so hopefully he's cool with that. I'm always down for randon adventures and deep talks about any & everything. Also I have very deep feelings. He has to match that.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).
I don't find it stressful. I see it as, "Well if all else fails I should have a friend if we don't end up in a relationship."

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
He's in my head right now. I'm waiting on him to be present in reality.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
I do if I really like you. Cheating & abuse (emotional, physical, financial, etc) are the end all for me.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
It's not difficult for me to have a crush. I've never been in love though so idk. I'd imagine it would be a slow gradual process.
I think I've gotten more picky as I've gotten older.

 

[Crimson Ash]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?

<20

What do you look for in a partner?

Honesty and integrity with a measure of trust. Attraction is of course vital, if we don't want to jump each others bones at every given opportunity then I find that there is no where for the energy to go and it leaves things quite stale. Eventually of course as is any relationship an obstacle might lead to staleness but a lack of initial spark doesn't bode well in my view.

Also someone who can spar with me. Both mentally and physically.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).

Extremely. I would much rather get to know someone as a friend first. Unfortunately the modern dating world isn't really structured that way and I find myself not really trying to even play the same game everyone else is playing just because the initial hurdles are tough to climb over.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?

Mutual friends, social groups and activities.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?

Breach of trust. Cheating would do it. If it happens once things never really go back to the way they were and that breach is like a poison in the mind always creeping in when you least expect it even if you have forgiven them for it and moved on.

If they mess up in others ways I mean that can be worked on. We are all flawed humans after all. We have our weaknesses and deficiencies.

But cheating, and even if it's an emotional kind of cheating is the worst thing you can do to someone you have a monogamous relationship with aside from doing something that would break the law.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?

It's a struggle. I'm also a person who tends to think far too much about things. Then there are certain behaviors and habits that I just can't look past.

I would admit that I have high standards because I hold myself at some pretty high standards as well.

 

[Igor]

When did you have your first relationship (<20, 20-25, 26-30, >30)?
- Define "relationship." If we're going for the traditional boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic as the definition, then I haven't had one. If we're open to more, shall we say, of a fluid definition for a romantic relationship between two people (which may include but is not limited to: semiromantic pair bonding in a nondefined understanding, though not in a polyamorous type of sitation, but neither in a "friends with benefits" context,) then I'd have to say it was <20.

What do you look for in a partner?
- I tend to fall for friends, and occasionally for really captivating strangers. I look for a deeper connection than just the everyday interaction stuff, but I've learned to keep some distance from those who would be unintentional psychic vampires, to apply a definition. I like feeling like I can drop my act a bit around someone, that is to say, if someone can make it past my defenses, I'm prone to fall for them a little bit just on that fact alone. On a purely superficial, physical level, I like 'em petite, nerdy, and with dark and/or red hair.

Is it difficult for you to date? In other words, do you find it stressful? (To elaborate - I mean dating as in going out with strangers that you've met through an online site or an app, if you've used these before, or in general, going out with those you don't know very well/don't have a prior rapport).
- I hate dating. I really, really do. I should say, though, that I like dating in the theoretical sense, but the actual practicum of it is frustrating, boring, and stressful in the extreme. Dating strangers is just a whole lot of trust to thrust out into the world in the hopes of a positive response. Plus, I'm disinclined to be that overtly social to begin with. I much prefer the solitude/safety/stability of the friend group, if there is dating to be had. I'll go out with a friend of a friend if they suggest it, but dating apps and the like are so very much not my jam.

If you are/have been in a relationship, where did you meet your significant other?
- Heh, computer camp in high school, if you'd believe it. She was one of the only girls there, and we got put together in a computer building class. Another one was the little sister of a roommate, who came to visit one weekend. Yet another was someone I met via a mutual friend in a theater production we were all in.

Do you forgive easily? What kind of things does a partner have to do, for you to call it quits?
- I am infinitely forgiving, up until the point where I decide that I'm done with someone. At that point, I become completely unforgiving. I can take a lot of abuse from partners, which I realize now, but if someone goes after my family, or if they become destructive towards themselves, those are a few red lines for me.

Is it difficult for you to fall in love/find someone you like? How picky are you when it comes to finding a partner?
- I fall in love rather easily, but I don't let myself love people much at all. I don't know if that makes sense, but I hold myself back from experiencing love, a lot. On the converse, I've had people who I've hit it off with beautifully who, for one little reason or another, I just can't make myself feel hopeful fluffy goodness towards. And then I judge myself because it's usually someone that somebody close to me said "I'd be perfect for" but the connection just isn't there for me. But I hate to disappoint people, so I try anyway but end up miserable in the end. Hence my reticence for jumping right in, even if it might be a mutual thing. Which is a situation I actually find myself in right now. And it sucks. Oh so much.