Geez, not much action on this thread, my friend. I hope an ESTJ picks this up eventually...
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I've met a few INFPs and I was friends with one. My personal experience with a lot of them ended up in a conflict or a disagreement.
and with your situation, it would be best if you let him know straight out of he isn't aware of. For example, when he fails to see other people's point of views, make an attempt and try to make him understand what he doesn't understand in a way that he would understand. In other words, communicate with him in a level that you two are on the same page by logically explaining it and not focused on how you feel, because this would create a lot of complications and misunderstandings. I've been through a similar situation and it was difficult for me but I ended up learning how to cope with a situation like this.
and with your situation, it would be best if you let him know straight out of he isn't aware of. For example, when he fails to see other people's point of views, make an attempt and try to make him understand what he doesn't understand in a way that he would understand. In other words, communicate with him in a level that you two are on the same page by logically explaining it and not focused on how you feel, because this would create a lot of complications and misunderstandings. I've been through a similar situation and it was difficult for me but I ended up learning how to cope with a situation like this.
What makes it difficult is that he has the "I am right" mentality and since he's older you, he feels like he has the authority over you and you should listen to what he says, which makes the situation much more difficult to handle. Would it be much better if you told your mom about this? and so the two of you could also communicate and tell your mom how you feel through logically explaining to your mom what the problem is and what bothers you about your dad and maybe your dad would listen. Do you think maybe that would work?
Because they are conflicting relations to each other.
Conflicting relations between psychological ("personality") types
Your mom, although and ESTj (if you have her typed correctly) may be putting in more of a relationship effort then your dad, but your mom can be another type.
Thanks, Mina44!
Yeah, I'm relatively sure she is ESTJ, she took the test herself, lol.
And that link explains quite a bit, that is usually how our conflicts usually turn that way.
However, after reading "physical portrait of an INFp", I'm rather unsure about how accurate this link may be...
Your contribution is much appreciated!roud:
Yeah, I'm relatively sure she is ESTJ, she took the test herself, lol.
And that link explains quite a bit, that is usually how our conflicts usually turn that way.
However, after reading "physical portrait of an INFp", I'm rather unsure about how accurate this link may be...
Your contribution is much appreciated!
roud:I found the 'INFP uncovered' description to be insulting and inaccurate. Whoever wrote that doesn't begin to understand how an INFP's mind works. Brainwashed??? - you've got to be kidding, the one's I know can pick out an agenda a mile away.
I have a friend who is an ESTJ. We differ on so many levels its hilarious. He is always the one trying to be practical and mechanical. Whenever he sees someone make a stupid mistake, he likes to say "Aha! Punishment for your stupidity!" We get in a lot of arguments and he is annoyed with me all the time, but for some reason he doesn't seem to mind too much. I think its probably because he knows how much we love him. What a softie. heheh
That's a Socionics site, first of all, which means you should be more offended because INFp in Socionics is NiFe :tongue:. Second of all, that's not even a good Socionics site - it's rife with bad stereotypes and unfounded statements.
Hey, thanks for all the replies, my dad seems to be much more easygoing and hasn't suffered through any moodiness anymore. Lol, life is much better in the house. roud: Your advice helped a lot, and it has helped me understand my dad a little more. I have figured out other ways of communication methods that has helped me rationalize our thoughts into a compromise.
roud: Your advice helped a lot, and it has helped me understand my dad a little more. I have figured out other ways of communication methods that has helped me rationalize our thoughts into a compromise.
lol where are all the ESTJ's???!
they disappeared from the ESTJ forum. they probably looked at it and went "ahh not the INFPs again, when will they leave us alone?!":crazy:
they disappeared from the ESTJ forum. they probably looked at it and went "ahh not the INFPs again, when will they leave us alone?!":crazy:
Ahaha, yeah. XD We INFPs always need to whine about them all day, hmm? :tongue: It's actually not too hard to get along with an ESTJ if they're not unhealthy. *shock*
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