Just figured I'd link that because I really don't think I could describe the dynamic better if I tried.in short:
enfp: wow. you're so dark and brooding.
enfp: tell me about yourself!!!
intj: did you know that houseflies have a lifespan of two weeks?
enfp: ohmygod. that's so interesting. tell me more.
intj: *rolls eyes* you're so easily entertained.
2 weeks later
intj: oh my god you're so irritating
enfp: NOOO DON'T LEAVE ME YOU ARE SO INTERESTING I LOVE YOUUU
I do completely agree with this, 100%. This is how all my relationships with INTJ guys have been before they inevitably disintegrate. They're unspeakably amazing to begin with, but then they fall apart. For my own sake, I had to distance myself from the idealistic notion of a perfect INTJ/ENFP relationship, just because I always ended up so hurt. I do think I need to start gravitating towards NFs for my own emotional stability. But if I happened to stumble upon an INTJ who didn't eventually run screaming from me, I can't say I would be too upset.Viv has a point there, but I think that the right ENFP and INTJ can really make this work. The ENFP can offer an endless supply of optimism, energy, inspiration and rainbows to brighten up the INTJ, who in turn can offer stability without limiting the ENFP's dreams like an SJ would (most likely) do, for example.
I think we just... click with them. The tough exterior and mean sense of humour are nothing compared to what's underneath. I mean, I love my NF friends, but they support me in everything, every time. Comforting words are a lot more effective when coming from someone who doesn't usually say things of the sort. It's also a lot more touching and personal to see someone typically perceived as 'cold' acting all sweet than someone who's like that all the time. I can't explain this properly... It's gratifying. When they open up to you and when they show you their support, it's that much more meaningful because you know they don't do it for just anyone.
I also find that my INTJ friends in general balance me out a lot. They offer a different perspective for me to consider, a different approach that is at the same time similar to mine so I can understand it. They provide structure without forcing it on me. Dunno. I just seem to run to them for something stable yet not restrictive. They're worldly and open-minded, they accept our quirks just like we accept theirs.
Tl;dr: I ♥ INTJs. ^^