I understand where you are coming from ...and many thinking types tend to dismiss us as over-sensitive, drama-addicted, etc when it can be very difficult to contain the emotion that constantly sweeps through often at lightning speed and with such velocity that it is totally overwhelming.Feeling is like electricity, it can hurt and only those who are able to deal with it and use it to improve their lives won't be burned to a crisp. It takes strength to be able to sustain it, and wisdom to profit from what it teaches us.
You thinkers would cry and be emo too if you had to live with that inordinate amount of burning fire inside of you.
it's not just a matter of feelings being more raw, as in intense emotions...I meant more as having some kind of powerful force inside you that pulls you in a certain direction and the fact that you have to follow it to be at peace because if you don't it ruins you and others.I understand where you are coming from ...and many thinking types tend to dismiss us as over-sensitive, drama-addicted, etc when it can be very difficult to contain the emotion that constantly sweeps through often at lightning speed and with such velocity that it is totally overwhelming.
I have learned recently however to accept that everyone has feelings but that different types react / handle them according to their own specific formula or type's capacity to deal with them as such, etc. For the feeling types; it is perhaps no more raw or high voltage than for the thinking type but simply is expressed and dealt with differently. The ability to remain rational / calm and think before I make a decision or react is something I work on daily because the combination of my intuitive extra-sensitive feeling balanced with strong logic / thinking is definitely much better in the long run. However...under extreme stress or illness the logical part goes out the window!
Of course one of the great things about being so feeling orientated is the ability to lift the atmosphere via affirmations, reading, watching a comedy or feel good movie and really feel the positivity or fun. I can never stay down because my nature always sees the lighter, fun side of life. I use this infinite energy source the best way I can. :happy:
I agree and disagree with this. It is true that being a feeler has no, or minimal, correlation with intelligence, yes. But I don't like when people say something like, "I'm emotionally intelligent" or "I'm physically intelligent" (what the hell is that even supposed to mean?). Intelligence is defined by Merriam-Webster as, "the ability to apply knowledge to manipulate one's environment or to think abstractly as measured by objective criteria (as tests)", and that has no correlation with emotions at all. If you're not smart, you're not smart, period. But like I said, being an xxFx isn't inversely proportional to being intelligent. At least, there are no reliable studies that have been done to prove this.Just because there is no f in intelligence doesn't mean the f must stand for foolish. Humanistic and ethical values are both valid forms of expression and growth on the individual and collective levels! They are emotional and empathetic intelligences, they aren't inherently inferior to logical or mathmatical intelligences.
You're correct about this, I do quote it in all honesty as a defence mechanism to make me feel better about my own relatively low intelligence! However it is sound in the theory of multiple intelligences. Although the theory multiple intelligences is unfalsifiable and therefore not scientifically recognised it can fairly be treated as a hypothetical theory, just like God!:happy:I agree and disagree with this. It is true that being a feeler has no, or minimal, correlation with intelligence, yes. But I don't like when people say something like, "I'm emotionally intelligent" or "I'm physically intelligent" (what the hell is that even supposed to mean?). Intelligence is defined by Merriam-Webster as, "the ability to apply knowledge to manipulate one's environment or to think abstractly as measured by objective criteria (as tests)", and that has no correlation with emotions at all. If you're not smart, you're not smart, period. But like I said, being an xxFx isn't inversely proportional to being intelligent. At least, there are no reliable studies that have been done to prove this.
Emotional intelligence (EI) describes the ability, capacity, skill, a self-perceived ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups.I agree and disagree with this. It is true that being a feeler has no, or minimal, correlation with intelligence, yes. But I don't like when people say something like, "I'm emotionally intelligent" or "I'm physically intelligent" (what the hell is that even supposed to mean?). Intelligence is defined by Merriam-Webster as, "the ability to apply knowledge to manipulate one's environment or to think abstractly as measured by objective criteria (as tests)", and that has no correlation with emotions at all. If you're not smart, you're not smart, period. But like I said, being an xxFx isn't inversely proportional to being intelligent. At least, there are no reliable studies that have been done to prove this.
The specialty of Feelers - Matters of personal significance that effect human nature - Can be useful in social sciences
The specialty of Thinkers - Impersonal factual data to understand how the world works - Can be useful in hard sciences
STILL, this DOES NOT MEAN a Thinker cannot be deep in empathy, creative social works and this DOES NOT MEAN a Feeler cannot rationalize about systems properly.
I wouldn't worry too much about it Izzie, I usually see people who only measure and value by one trait as people who have closed their eyes to the many possibilities in the pursuit of the one "truth" which may not be a truth after all.So to anyone who thinks emotional intelligence isn't a form of intelligence, perhaps just consider deleting social sciences and study of human nature then. Duh.