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I've, for some reason, never found myself attached to anyone and have never felt lonely on my own.

I've not had any close friends in my life and haven't had any friends as an adult.

I've gone months barely speaking to anyone and felt completely fine with it.

I feel as if there's just.... life... and social interaction is just another activity.

I don't feel lonely and being isolated feels normal, yet I'm quite confident around others and can get along with anyone when I do socialise?

LOLWTFBBQ is up with this shit?
 

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It's probably a simple case of "you can't miss something you never had".
 

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what do you mean what is up with it?

I'm the same way, its great to be that way. I have formed some connections with people to the point of them being considered a best friend or intimate, but I left them when I moved and felt nothing about it. Didnt care.
 

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Be glad as long as you are self-sufficient. The longing for valuable social interaction is a damn strong feeling.
 
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Stay that way. Don't let loneliness force you to settle for something or to give away your power. There is power in not having loneliness. I experienced it for a few years many years ago but I've never experienced it since and quite frankly- I have plans to never experience it again!
 
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I've, for some reason, never found myself attached to anyone and have never felt lonely on my own.

I've not had any close friends in my life and haven't had any friends as an adult.

I've gone months barely speaking to anyone and felt completely fine with it.

I feel as if there's just.... life... and social interaction is just another activity.

I don't feel lonely and being isolated feels normal, yet I'm quite confident around others and can get along with anyone when I do socialise?

LOLWTFBBQ is up with this shit?
Have you gone years with barely speaking with anyone?.
Have you always been active with something?, work, school, etc.

I know you can feel lonely even when around others, but being around others help, if ofcourse also being a bit social.
I don't know about many other people, but i've had years where I didn't speak to many besides family maybe, and few people in online games, and that was pretty darn lonely.

Hmm... maybe some will say it only first will be kinda depressive if you once had but lost in some way.. if you never had you won't feel much.
 

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Maybe the concept of loneliness is just a lie based on everybody's thoughts/hopes/wishes that there must be something more out there, so you're supposed to look for it and feel bad (lonely) when you can't seem to find it.
 

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I've, for some reason, never found myself attached to anyone and have never felt lonely on my own.
Lonliness - does not only manifest; in ''lack of attachment,'' ...

Although - the attachment(s) to other human(s) is obligatory - rather than de rigueur for you.


I've not had any close friends in my life and haven't had any friends as an adult.
So what .. (?) :1892:



I don't feel lonely and being isolated feels normal, yet I'm quite confident around others and can get along with anyone when I do socialise?

LOLWTFBBQ is up with this shit?

Ones ''neediness,'' come in degrees, that differentiate from individual to individual - demonstrably (repetition of 'isolation threads') // or any 'thread' - demonstrates, an irrevocable need for socialization + connection between high-functioning mutualistic natural meat-sac systems called 'humans'.

Sustained neglect of this need, results in loneliness, languish (&) dysfunctions .. No (high-functioning bonding / attachment(s)) needed.

It is not that 'you are incapable of feeling lonely / or never have felt ''lonely'',' - but only, you are already satisfying your loneliness .. (e.g., socialization needs - that vary between specimen) - whatever they may be (&) whenever they arise.


Anyway,


Nice talking to you. :bwink:
 

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Why do you believe you need to feel lonely?
I never said I needed to feel lonely, It just doesn't make sense since we are a social species.

It makes me feel like I have no understanding of what seems like an almost universal human experience, and cannot empathize.
 
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Hey, I can relate quite strongly to this and wondered why that is the case as well.

What I realised was this; that I was content with being with myself. That is to say you are providing yourself what you would normally gain from social interaction. Hence why you dont miss anyone even when we are social animals.
The reason I found out for why I turned out that way was because I had to get used to moving around schools when I was young so I spent a lot of time by myself in new environments and learned to become my own friend ; not an imaginary friend btw. When I got older and made good friends I still didnt feel this emotion of I miss them which I feel very wierd about.
It can also be that loneliness is taking form in a way that you didnt expect it to be so maybe you are not feeling it the way like others are.
Im not really sure what loneliness feels like but I think it would be like having a hole in your heart type of feeling and to answer why you cant feel it - it may be that your disposition is such that you cant feel it or it may be that your feelings are numb or you became that way as a result of you childhood.

Hope that helps :)
 

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I've, for some reason, never found myself attached to anyone and have never felt lonely on my own.

I've not had any close friends in my life and haven't had any friends as an adult.

I've gone months barely speaking to anyone and felt completely fine with it.

I feel as if there's just.... life... and social interaction is just another activity.

I don't feel lonely and being isolated feels normal, yet I'm quite confident around others and can get along with anyone when I do socialise?

LOLWTFBBQ is up with this shit?
You... ARE GOD :shocked:
:tongue: jk but that's kinda good. I believe loneliness is one of the reasons of why many people feel their lives are not so good, or even kill themselves :sad:
That's quite the opposite of me.

I usually feel lonely even when surrounded by people.
Oh no :sad:
What can I do to help you?
 

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I never said I needed to feel lonely, It just doesn't make sense since we are a social species.

It makes me feel like I have no understanding of what seems like an almost universal human experience, and cannot empathize.
Is there anything you can empathize with? If so, what?
 

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You live a detached life. Didn't Buddha reach Nirvana from freeing himself from all worldy attachments and illusions?

I have reached this state. Is Nirvanna the name for it?

@OP

I dont know anything about your background but it might be you have attachment issues. research has shown children who are not shown enough attention or affection up to age 3 have issues attaching to other people.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_detachment
 

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u "havent had any friends" thats why u dont feel lonely, u have grown accustomed to it
try having friends, and then not, or ur best friend/someone youre close to going away, then you know what loneliness feels like
when u dont have anyone but ur not like a shut-in, you do go outside, doing outdoor stuff then loneliness is less damaging, u dont even feel that bad, the worst u can have is just *signs* "wish i have s/o w me rn" then just continues chillin nonchalantly
 
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