what gives you energy? i need some help for a moody lethargic istp.
Piggybacking on this...I know sometimes my responses to inquiries can be over simplified, but have you ever thought to wonder what is creating the low energy or lethargy? May be he is having to deal with some things right now that is leaving him exhausted and needing more down time than usual. By no means this does not mean to pry into his personal business, but it may take some observing from a distance on your part.
have i ever thought to wonder what is creating the low energy?I know sometimes my responses to inquiries can be over simplified, but have you ever thought to wonder what is creating the low energy or lethargy? Maybe he is having to deal with some things right now that is leaving him exhausted and needing more down time than usual. By no means does this mean to pry into his personal business, but it may take some observing from a distance on your part.
yes i know what you mean about cycles. he does the exact same thing.Piggybacking on this...
I've noticed that most (if not all) people run on cycles. I have never met anyone that is 100% "themselves" 100% of the time. The most energetic, motivated people I've known have also experienced some of the lowest lows when they cycle downward. Those that are a bit more middle of the road when they're up, tend to not be quite as obvious when they're down.
I'm not talking about depression - just the rejuvenating process we all need to take for ourselves after periods of high stress, high activity, high motivation, etc.
I have short periods of being very sociable - they don't come often, and I usually regret it afterward, but something kicks up in me and I want to go out with friends *all the time* for a couple week period. What's unfortunate about that is, it's not my normal. So friends and acquaintances get excited, and think I'll always be like that. And I disappoint them by reverting back to my normal hermit place. But for me, I think the social stints are a bit of a wakeup call to my brain and body - I'm still human, I can still get hit on when I dress up, I'm still funny and charming. It's like fueling up, maybe.
Anyway - no fair expecting anyone to be the same level of social, motivated, etc all the time. We all have our own needs. Unless he's disappeared completely and letting his life go to pot, he's probably fine and just taking a much needed break from whatever it is he was doing that makes you think he now needs help getting energy back.
Moody and larthargic usually means "leave me alone for an entire day."
that sounds cool. i might look into that. tell him i'm bringing him somewhere but it's a surprise where. he'd never guess archery in a million years. he'd love it i'd say.outdoor activities that are fun or anything new and exciting. Give archery a shot, was a blast and you dont have to have any equipment, just hit up the local archery range and if they have a wild track also then its a sweet deal.
Oh crap, you couldn't stay away could you? Another one of your amazingly brilliant supposed ISTP questions?
Try a cup of coffee for Christ sake. And GTFO, and have a nice day.
Maybe you could get your boyfriend to sign up and participate here at ISTP land. If he is the real deal we'll welcome him with open arms. It would be refreshing to hear what a real ISTPs has to say, instead of via your surreptitious and highly suspicious proxy.yeah we're both pretty fucked up. i'm not going to abandon him just because he got a shitty start in life. point taken and acknowledged.