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I found a special place in the heart of someone I love dearly. I will always long for more because that's just my nature. I used to believe I would never be good enough to have that place. It's soul warming, honestly. My mind likes to make a lot of things feel impossibly out of reach to me but having good things like this happen is really grounding, especially since I can be so glum about everything.
 

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Blissful contentment!

Getting what I long for is something that is I think of a paradoxical nature -- it's both something that I can feel grateful and happy about some of the time, but not all the time (depending on whether I feel access to that for which I've longed, and have obtained, in any given moment) -- but also, it's something that I realize I have the power to "relax into" and surrender into, and bring to life really in most any moment, so that I have the capacity to "work on" feeling more of what I long for in any given moment.

It helps that what I've most longed for has been intimacy with the Divine. That this isn't contingent on what other people do or don't do, how another person feels about me, or doesn't....what I have in the world or don't have....is very helpful.

Having obtained blissful contentment because I have what I've longed for -- doesn't mean that I always feel the same level of contentment or bliss (I don't ) or that there aren't various obstacles that arise in feeling such. For instance if I have pain in my back or have a task to do that I dont' like and am avoiding...those things do get in the way. But they dissipate....and the Divine reality does not. It remains.
 

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At the end of the day..... you (I) realize(d) that the only way to get what you want is to change your surroundings, including the people around you. Stay where you are, surrounded by toxic people, and you are doomed to repeat old patterns, even though you are aware of these patterns and consciously fighting to change them for the better.
 

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At the end of the day..... you (I) realize(d) that the only way to get what you want is to change your surroundings, including the people around you. Stay where you are, surrounded by toxic people, and you are doomed to repeat old patterns, even though you are aware of these patterns and consciously fighting to change them for the better.
I second that. I guess, the point of the 4 is to give up on high falutin' ideals and settle down with the ordinary, the average. Get used to all the abuses of life to brush it off your shoulder after the next encounter. I don't really get the development or "integration" descriptions of the type: maybe there's no point to life to find, maybe it's more about accepting that you can't change it, so as to try to make difference only wherever and whenever that's realistic, in baby steps. Changing places is half a solution because we will always carry some of our patterns with us. But I hope with time and effort one can climb out of and up into less stressful places, into a middle class suburban tranquility, into a sinecure job, etc., etc. Not that life has received any new, definite meaning, but you can get by, can manage to put up with it and hold out in relative peace with this form of existence until the reaper comes.
 

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... But I hope with time and effort one can climb out of and up into less stressful places, into a middle class suburban tranquility, into a sinecure job, etc., etc. Not that life has received any new, definite meaning, but you can get by, can manage to put up with it and hold out in relative peace with this form of existence until the reaper comes.
Yes. I've given up hope of being rich or famous. But I'm comfortable. I live with people I care a lot for. I have just a very few very good friends. And yes, relative peace until the reaper comes sounds about right. I'm DONE with drama.
 

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Yes. I've given up hope of being rich or famous. But I'm comfortable. I live with people I care a lot for. I have just a very few very good friends. And yes, relative peace until the reaper comes sounds about right. I'm DONE with drama.
All caps D-O-N-E. :) Is that why you don't indicate an E4 (but a 5w6)? Middle-class-comfortable, huh? The irony I intended is that the Enneagram has an E2 bias, it uses very accurate personality analysis to tell people how to survive. It doesn't account for cases when survival wasn't the solution.
 

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All caps D-O-N-E. :) Is that why you don't indicate an E4 (but a 5w6)? Middle-class-comfortable, huh? The irony I intended is that the Enneagram has an E2 bias, it uses very accurate personality analysis to tell people how to survive. It doesn't account for cases when survival wasn't the solution.
Definitely not middle-class.
 

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I often get what I want eventually, I'm pretty determined and obsessive, so. Granted, some things are easier to achieve and 'posses' than others.

Generally, once I attain what I desire... I usually move on to the next thing. It's an endless cycle of want, want, want without true or lasting satisfaction. It's something I'm trying to work on for myself, but the inner voice saying 'this will DEFINITELY make you happy' is a profoundly powerful and convincing one. At the same time though, I feel like I can be really contented by simple pleasures; good food, a visually masterful film, and nature (trees, flowers, fresh air). But alas, I'm very guilty of spending too much money on clothes, jewelry, makeup, and other novelties.
 

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a few days ago I was happy when the manager of CiCi's handed me an anchovy pizza

I was happy to eat it, in spite of the very strong flavor and the disgust of everyone in my family

but later my happiness was gone because I had no one to share it with

and I feel like my family is disgusted by me because I like anchovy pizza
 

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. . . I suppose I'm not a 4 after all :sadcloud:

Can you lovely people please forgive me? *reaches out for a hug*
 
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