well i should've mentioned 'general' truth but these are what you've learnt from experience so they are valid.i have learned the more i embrace solitude, the more i find the balance in getting what i want from the external world i live in.
i have learned that i am actually really well-liked by people and that if i just give simple cues that i am present, open, and ready to engage in a conversation, it's not hard for me at all to make friends.
i have learned that i can't just wait for a time to be transformed such as in, "once i get my braces off or lose weight, i'll be super attractive and be confident." transformation is a life long process and it doesn't stop.
i have learned that no matter what i do with my life that i want to empower people and so i've become a lot less apprehensive about my future as i've realized my path to fulfillment.
i have learned i actually don't know a lot and that i'm inept in a lot of ways and not to think of myself as the brightest, most capable person because while i'm very strong in anything concerning english, history, philosophy, psychology, and the humanities, i literally feel out of my element when it comes to anything regarding scientific or mathematical theory (i can understand their applications though). also, i'm not very hands on. i can't build anything and i fumble with very simple instructions. origami is my worst nightmare.
because of that, i have had to accept that i'm not perfect and be relieved that other people don't actually expect that much from me.
i have learned that all people want is to be accepted and liked for who they are and if you show to someone you accept and like them, it's very easy to make a friend.
a lot of my realizations have been, honestly, in the friendship-making process because for most of my life, i had really bad social anxiety and thought people hated me. coming from a family that's really critical, told me to stop crying, and that i was lazy, materialistic, and emotionally neglected at me then to school where people bullied me, i had built up years of thinking that i didn't have any value and that people thought i was weird and ugly (some people actually have told me that). once i realized that i contributed to people's perceptions of me and that i had to stop being reserved and start trusting people and not rely on being overwhelmingly absurd to get notice and/or liked, i found a lot about how people come not only with their own complexes and insecurities but in general, that friendship is actually simple. simple in its initiation but not necessarily easy.
by accepting and liking other people, i feel like i get closer to accepting and liking myself and further away from the family who has hurt me so much.