Damn you INFJ's.I see theres a fair bit of guilt surrounding this issue, and its not so much about type,.. its not even about being a gopd person.
I think this is about the pressure that you can feel (especially females) to feel grateful, appreciative, and reciprocating, of the love or care that is shown to you by another person.
the thing is... in the end, its all about how you feel about them, attraction, chemistry, and the way two peoples personalities gel is incredibly important.
Sometimes , with the best will in the world, you can find that a saint of a partner just gets on your nerves, or rankles, or rubs you up the wrong way. you can feel obligated, or feel that you are always having to thank them for kindnesses that you neither wanted nor asked for. The 'nice guy' thing.
I would try to not to feel guilty, as it doesnt help.
What the experiences like this show you, is the importance of not sticking with a partner that makes you feel irritated, for whatever reason.
As i said, its a personality thing, and not because you're an awful person.
G. x
*hugs you tight* you are beating yourself up on this too much. If you truly were a bad person then why would you be here regretting your actions that as far as i know may of been correct. I hurt people alot with my bluntness i spent alot of time softening my speech sometimes. we all have our faults and virtues so we should try to learn from our experiences to improve both of them.
- I remember that I didn't treat my INFJ first love well enough even when he spoilt me.
- I still wonder if I've hurt people too much (people I know in real life and people I know online)
I don't know why I write this
I don't immensely enjoy pointing it out when someone is about to come to a wrong conclusion, but sometimes it just have to be said: The idea that you are a bad person is not in agreement with the impression you've given us in various posts here on the forum.Damn you INFJ's.
Always being able to look through my soul and see the good in spite of the bad..... :crazy:
To piggy back on what dsv2e just said, "Bad people do not question whether they are good or bad."
- I remember that I didn't treat my INFJ first love well enough even when he spoilt me.
- I still wonder if I've hurt people too much (people I know in real life and people I know online)
I don't know why I write this
To piggy back on what dsv2e just said, "Bad people do not question whether they are good or bad."
- I remember that I didn't treat my INFJ first love well enough even when he spoilt me.
- I still wonder if I've hurt people too much (people I know in real life and people I know online)
I don't know why I write this
Bad bad indeed......bordering on terribleI'm a bad person.
It happens.....:happy:I'm a bad person.
:shocked: NOOO!No really, you guys think I'm joking (because I made it seem so), but I was dead serious. I don't think I will get into though otherwise I'll have to start posting on the INTJ forums. lol
Hmm, bad you say, according to who's standard? Personally, I like to imagine drop kicking puppies as a form of entertainment. But when I pet them, they don't seem to mind what I think about them-they actually seem to derive some kind of sick pleasure from it....No really, you guys think I'm joking (because I made it seem so), but I was dead serious. I don't think I will get into though otherwise I'll have to start posting on the INTJ forums. lol