I like their spontaneity, their randomness, their innate ability to make me loosen up (which very, very few people can do). I like how they don't seem, for the most part, especially put off by my INTJness but rather are fascinated by it. I like how they are so puzzling and intriguing. They are in that sense a magnetic force that always pulls me to them whether it's for friendship, a brief acquaintanceship, or a random conversation with a stranger. But at the same time, I also need them to be able to mute their ENFP over-the-topness when I'm tired or need to think. (In which case either shut up or help me process my thoughts rationally). This is similar to how I imagine most ENFPs likewise appreciate it when INTJs can mute their more eccentric behaviors when they go to a party or are having a conversation that would be very emotionally charged for an F. Some ENFPs are great at muting their more (in my eyes) exhausting behaviors when the situation demands. Those are the ENFPs with whom I would pursue friendship or a romantic partnership. Those who can't, as great as they may be, are never around me very long before I feel the desire to get away. And as you know, when an INTJ wants to disappear, they are better at vanishing than a magician's assistant. :wink:What traits or characteristics in particular draw you to this particular type?
I would love to hear personal stories if you guys are willing to share...
I lived with one. It drove me to the brink of madness. He suffered from depression...so I am guessing that if you took a whole heap of the negative traits of ENFP and maximized them then you would probably have my ex.
The constant reassurance needed, the manipulations, the infidelity, the lack of understanding outside of himself....my lack of space. These are things that I have foremost in my mind to avoid
So while there is an attraction because of all the fluffy that is entailed....and ENFPs are really assuring and lovely.....I have seen the dark side and would probably be extremely cautious once I find out what their type is.
^ These, Quoted For Truth. I'm getting divorced because of all of those negative traits.ENFPs are (to me) hard work, unfortunately the difficulty level increase through time; the more you do to please the more is expected and little is given in return barring aggrivation and drama. Such a shame as the chemistry is often very strong. It isn't a path that interests me these days. I prefer my peace and quiet and simple trust and friendship; the ENFPs that I know live for complication and extreme non-linear behaviour.
^ These, Quoted For Truth. I'm getting divorced because of all of those negative traits.
Any immature and/or unhealthy ENFP betta stay the f*ck away from me. I'll not only see but smell you coming, too. I can even feel your thoughts before you say them. I know all your dirty tricks. Watch yo'self! >:0
I have to admit, I was delusional. I can accept my own accountability in that regard. People had thoroughly warned me, too! XDDamn! I thought you two were really happy!
I'll help you bust skulls grrrr.....
She said it was all those traits... not necessarily just cheating.are you sure you are not all being presumptious by thinking enfp's are cheaters? we might be a bit mad but we do have morals. i for one have never cheated on my boyfriend and i can say hand on heart that i never would. do you actually have proof of cheating?
I don't see all of us mentioning cheating as being a main factor in our wariness of ENFPs.are you sure you are not all being presumptious by thinking enfp's are cheaters? we might be a bit mad but we do have morals. i for one have never cheated on my boyfriend and i can say hand on heart that i never would. do you actually have proof of cheating?
Yes... everyone has their own set of morals... Immature and/or unhealthy ENFPs (not the mature and/or healthy ENFPs) are the category who are at issue for me. This particular one has a set of morals which directly conflict with my own. Our value systems cannot be reconciled or consolidated. We honestly tried. It honestly did not work. There is a phrase about the definition of madness as the condition of doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. There are things I refuse to change about myself, aspects of my identity which would be corrupted if I were to condone his unhealthy behaviors, harmful outlets of my loyal and protective nature which would backfire as they would be a threat to his own freedom to express his own identity, to be who he chooses and wants to be.are you sure you are not all being presumptious by thinking enfp's are cheaters? we might be a bit mad but we do have morals. i for one have never cheated on my boyfriend and i can say hand on heart that i never would. do you actually have proof of cheating?