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So, im sexually inexperienced. Really badly, for a 20 year old guy. Virgin, never done anything with a girl, etc...ya know...And recently, with the internet, i have found a few different girls who I talk to. Why is it that they jump to the whole "relationship" thing so quickly??? c'mon now. I mean, im pretty good looking, but not exactly sexy, im kinda chubby, but tall with strong facial features and exhibiting confidence.

I met this one girl who goes to my school, a small college with about 1000 students, and she has been talking to me for the past 4-5 days or so. She was in one of my classes last semester. So last night, she finally asked me, indirectly, that she wanted to be in a relationship with me.......We have never talked in real life, I dont even know what her voice sounds like. So i told her, im not up for a relationship, making excuses to reassure her that i didnt not like her....then eventually, i told her I'd cuddle with her sometime.

What is wrong with these girls i meet at school? haha. 4 days of talking online and you already want me to be your man? Really? I think she is an ISFJ, whatever the hell that is. Why do girls do this to me? Ask me to be their boyfriend or whatever without ever seeing me in real life??? .....and of course she only likes country music, like everyone else around here haha.

And im picky as fuck, and not into the whole relationship thing. I dont have schizotypal personality disorder, I just dont see the point in having a girlfriend at this age, knowing eventually the relationship will end. And im a fukin psych student...these girls ask me to "llovve themm :happy:" and im instantly taken to the 3 types of love, and how relationships work, then i wanna tell them how STUPID they are!!!....but i dont of course haha.

But ya. Whats the deal??? HOW can these girls want a relationship so bad? I dont see the appeal. From my POV, id say they are emotionally screwed up from their last relationship, and need to cling onto guys to fill that hole in their sense of security.....Not the kinda hole im looking to fill.......haha

Edit: O ya, and i forgot to add. For the past 2 days she has messaged me on facebook "Good morning! Hope you have a good day!" BITCH PLEASE. Ya, thats sweet, i know. Pretending im her boyfriend, hoping that ONE day, I will stop by her doorstep riding a unicorn, or in her case, and old truck with custom parts and/or a tractor, and tell her to hop on, and we ride away into the sunset...."maybe if im nice enough to him, and project what I want so badly onto him, he will love me!"....Sorry if i sound like a douche, im really not...just annoyed
 

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You should be thankful for your gifts

As for why they jump into a relationship with you so quickly is so that you don't get into a relationship while they're dilly dallying, there's either a.) plenty of competition or b.)lots of perceived competition
 

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I don't honestly know. My first boyfriend (ISFP) was the one looking for the relationship. He was all concered about how "we" were and what "we" were. It's annoying. I mena, if you have to ask the question, I don't think it's right.

@King_Moonracer LOL at that last part.

I don't understand girls. They can be so... unintelligent!!! First off, I don't think I'd ever have the guts to ask a guy to be "in a relationship". Maybe that's because of my T? I have no problem asking for a kiss, a cuddle, a hug, etc. but that touchy-feely stuff irritates the hell out of me. Which is why the ISFP is my ex. :D
 

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I wish I had that lure of affection on college women....


Woman #1: I SAW HIM FIRST! BTFU! ::whips out weaponized object::

Woman #2 / #3 / #4: *hissss* we'll be nearby watching... as soon as he dumps you, all is fair game!

Could be biological clock ticking and they don't want to wind up being last in line and not like everyone else.... forever alone.... ::shrug:: what do I know about the female psyche?
 

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I don't honestly know. My first boyfriend (ISFP) was the one looking for the relationship. He was all concered about how "we" were and what "we" were. It's annoying. I mena, if you have to ask the question, I don't think it's right.

@King_Moonracer LOL at that last part.

I don't understand girls. They can be so... unintelligent!!! First off, I don't think I'd ever have the guts to ask a guy to be "in a relationship". Maybe that's because of my T? I have no problem asking for a kiss, a cuddle, a hug, etc. but that touchy-feely stuff irritates the hell out of me. Which is why the ISFP is my ex. :D
I know right??? Its like every girl i meet is all like, dramatic, like in the disney movies they see.....disney....thats the source of evil.

I couldnt ask a girl out...it involves commitment and obligation....Id rather it just gradually play itself out. We shouldnt distinguish a relationship between god friendship...Why would i want to spend the rest of my life with someone who wasnt my best friend???

Maybe i should bump into a girl...tell her how sorry i am and introduce myself. Give her roses and chocolate. Come like a THIEF in the night, and steal her heart!! WOOOA to you O EARRRTH and SEA, for the DEVIL sends the beast with WRRRATH because he KNOOOOWSS the TIMME is SHORT!......like in the movies.
 

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I wish I had that lure of affection on college women....





Could be biological clock ticking and they don't want to wind up being last in line and not like everyone else.... forever alone.... ::shrug:: what do I know about the female psyche?
I actually met the girl im talking about on some dumb dating site i go to to screw with people haha.

o ya...and its not exactly all college girls, like the cute ones with giant TITS...its more of introverted girls lol, im easy to talk to and to approach. Thats all the lure is. Weird because they might just start talking to me and i dont even know them. And im actually pretty quiet at school. I wish i attracted all of the cool and interesting girls...then again, i dont know if there are any at my school.
 

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I know right??? Its like every girl i meet is all like, dramatic, like in the disney movies they see.....disney....thats the source of evil.

I couldnt ask a girl out...it involves commitment and obligation....Id rather it just gradually play itself out. We shouldnt distinguish a relationship between god friendship...Why would i want to spend the rest of my life with someone who wasnt my best friend???

Maybe i should bump into a girl...tell her how sorry i am and introduce myself. Give her roses and chocolate. Come like a THIEF in the night, and steal her heart!! WOOOA to you O EARRRTH and SEA, for the DEVIL sends the beast with WRRRATH because he KNOOOOWSS the TIMME is SHORT!......like in the movies.
Where did you say you were, exactly...? :tongue: jk lol.

Death to Disney. For perpetuating the idea that beasts turn into princes and randomly breaking out into songs of adoration is acceptable.

What you said about your partner being your best friend... +1. People enter friendships and relationships with such different ideas. Friendships with the opposite sex are like the best thing ever. When they turn into something special, it's even greater, because you already know each other backwards and fowards.
 

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I actually met the girl im talking about on some dumb dating site i go to to screw with people haha.

o ya...and its not exactly all college girls, like the cute ones with giant TITS...its more of introverted girls lol, im easy to talk to and to approach. Thats all the lure is. Weird because they might just start talking to me and i dont even know them. And im actually pretty quiet at school. I wish i attracted all of the cool and interesting girls...then again, i dont know if there are any at my school.
WHY? lol. there's a couple of guys who will do this lol.
they obviously can't see the introvert quietly hyperventilating.
 
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Where did you say you were, exactly...? :tongue: jk lol.

Death to Disney. For perpetuating the idea that beasts turn into princes and randomly breaking out into songs of adoration is acceptable.

What you said about your partner being your best friend... +1. People enter friendships and relationships with such different ideas. Friendships with the opposite sex are like the best thing ever. When they turn into something special, it's even greater, because you already know each other backwards and fowards.
Where am I? In your thoughts ;) hahahhah

And i just remembered that high school musical shit haha. And ya...those princess movie...fuckin cinderella would be most appealing, i would assume...i dont even know the other ones..in like every profile on these stupid dating sites---"Waiting for my prince charming to come rescue me!"....fuckin makes me sick...

Guys are fuckin lame too though. My sister is 17 and tells me all her phone conversations, about boys she meets online. Mostly older college guys....they use the lamest fuckin shit for compliments hahah, its hilarious. And their prime motive is sex. "Oh baby i love you so much, i want you to be mine baby, oh ya." So fuckin lame,.....AND GIRLS FALL FOR THAT SHIT!!
 

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Where am I? In your thoughts ;) hahahhah

And i just remembered that high school musical shit haha. And ya...those princess movie...fuckin cinderella would be most appealing, i would assume...i dont even know the other ones..in like every profile on these stupid dating sites---"Waiting for my prince charming to come rescue me!"....fuckin makes me sick...

Guys are fuckin lame too though. My sister is 17 and tells me all her phone conversations, about boys she meets online. Mostly older college guys....they use the lamest fuckin shit for compliments hahah, its hilarious. And their prime motive is sex. "Oh baby i love you so much, i want you to be mine baby, oh ya." So fuckin lame,.....AND GIRLS FALL FOR THAT SHIT!!
I always want to say "You love me? Really? More or less than the chicken sandwich in the fridge?" OR "Yeah, you think so... wait until you meet me darlin."
 

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Maybe you should stop talking to girls and start talking to women. Anyway, never date the ones that try to jump into it right away. They love the new feeling of developing love, not you.
That ^^

I feel like I'm posting in this thread too much...
 

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I actually met the girl im talking about on some dumb dating site i go to to screw with people haha.

o ya...and its not exactly all college girls, like the cute ones with giant TITS...its more of introverted girls lol, im easy to talk to and to approach. Thats all the lure is. Weird because they might just start talking to me and i dont even know them. And im actually pretty quiet at school. I wish i attracted all of the cool and interesting girls...then again, i dont know if there are any at my school.
First off Gotta say that for girls who are introverted a guy that is easy to talk too is attractive because they feel comfortable with them. Also girls grow up watching Disney movies and dreaming of a sweet handsome man that loves them and boys like cars and fighting... so what?! Sure some girls can be too eager, but stop being an idiot about it... I'm sure if you talked like this to those girls instead of staying quiet about it they would soon learn that your not a catch at all and leave you alone.;)
 

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But ya. Whats the deal??? HOW can these girls want a relationship so bad? I dont see the appeal. From my POV, id say they are emotionally screwed up from their last relationship, and need to cling onto guys to fill that hole in their sense of security.....Not the kinda hole im looking to fill.......haha
What's even worse is if you actually try to date this type of girl.

Types that don't care who they date, are the first to dump their partners after they get bored. And they will get bored, after all, they picked the person without knowing a thing about them. They just want an emotional satisfaction. She doesn't give a crap who you are.
 

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Wait...aren't you the guy who spends hours every night masturbating to porn? But you're "picky as fuck"?

I'm really starting to think that this is your problem. You know, these real girls might actually want to have a relationship with you that doesn't involve you just wanking off to "woman as object."

Of course, it is moving a bit fast to move to "relationship" within a few days, but they probably just are looking for someone to date, unaware that you're content living in imaginary jerking-off-for-hours-to-pornography land, which is actually considered kind of a mental problem.

You sound like a real jerk. Why don't you just be honest with these girls, be straight-forward?
 
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