I've been wanting to find a place to write something about finding love and making it through to the joy of it, and how fortunate I feel in that. I saw the title and came over. Tagging it now with a comment and will try to find the words and come back when I can do so.
What is RIGHT AND GOOD in your life?
What are you happy about? How have you helped others? What special gifts that are uniquely yours do you delight in offering the world?
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I am happy that I am travelling here within weeks:
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I have a relationship with my ENTP that I never thought could exist in reality:
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I am employed, and have my health (dental on the fritz, but you know, can't have it all):
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I am privileged to enjoy friendship with some seriously wonderful people here:
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And I am able to share my art with them:
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What about you?
I am happy that I am travelling here within weeks:
I have a relationship with my ENTP that I never thought could exist in reality:
I am employed, and have my health (dental on the fritz, but you know, can't have it all):
I am privileged to enjoy friendship with some seriously wonderful people here:
And I am able to share my art with them:
What about you?
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This doesn't quite say what I've been wanting to put into words for a little while now, but maybe it's a start. I appreciate this thread opening space for a first attempt.
[HR][/HR]"What are you happy about?"
So four decades of our respective lives went by before I met my mate and for a while there it looked like maybe the damage of being apart for all that time and the self-protections we had each learned would make impossible to live in this world together as what we are to each other.
We loved each other – always love – but still for a long time we really didn't know if we would or could make it through. But we have. And here we are now, with the core connection underneath as it always has been, with that love that was always there, and now these other layers of understanding and beauty in how we move together in this world – this world that for so long seemed like an impossible place for us to be able to be who and what we are together.
To openly love the mate I didn't even know existed until I met her is a gift in my life, a gift beyond anything I can adequately describe in words. And yes, I do wish we had met at 15 before so much of the damage took hold. But failing that, to have found each other still, and come through this fire together, and be truly together on the other side feels so so good.
I'm so grateful that she exists and that our paths crossed and that we didn't give up.
[HR][/HR]"What are you happy about?"
So four decades of our respective lives went by before I met my mate and for a while there it looked like maybe the damage of being apart for all that time and the self-protections we had each learned would make impossible to live in this world together as what we are to each other.
We loved each other – always love – but still for a long time we really didn't know if we would or could make it through. But we have. And here we are now, with the core connection underneath as it always has been, with that love that was always there, and now these other layers of understanding and beauty in how we move together in this world – this world that for so long seemed like an impossible place for us to be able to be who and what we are together.
To openly love the mate I didn't even know existed until I met her is a gift in my life, a gift beyond anything I can adequately describe in words. And yes, I do wish we had met at 15 before so much of the damage took hold. But failing that, to have found each other still, and come through this fire together, and be truly together on the other side feels so so good.
I'm so grateful that she exists and that our paths crossed and that we didn't give up.
I'm finally starting to get through my anime backlog, I have over 100 titles I want to eventually go through (though it is constantly growing) plus all the stuff I'm going through at the moment. My video game backlog is much worse off however.
What am I happy about? I have two wonderful talented children. I am working slowly but surely towards achieving my professional goals, and I am proud of my academic success as I pursue my master's. I have a lot to look forward to in life even though I'm already middle-aged. And I'm new here at Personality Cafe but I'm excited and hopeful to make new friends.
How have I helped others? A close friend had a meltdown the other day. I LISTENED. And then I cleaned her kitchen so she could wake up to a clean environment the next day, and that next day started out better than the one before. I didn't say much but I know my actions showed her I cared.
What special gifts that are uniquely mine do I delight in offering the world? My goofy sense of humor. My hard-earned wisdom (gained by making many, many wrong choices throughout my life). My patience and my ability to accept others, flaws and all, for who they really are.
Thanks for starting this thread.
How have I helped others? A close friend had a meltdown the other day. I LISTENED. And then I cleaned her kitchen so she could wake up to a clean environment the next day, and that next day started out better than the one before. I didn't say much but I know my actions showed her I cared.
What special gifts that are uniquely mine do I delight in offering the world? My goofy sense of humor. My hard-earned wisdom (gained by making many, many wrong choices throughout my life). My patience and my ability to accept others, flaws and all, for who they really are.
Thanks for starting this thread.
I'm financially secure. I am physically, intellectually and, on a good day, personally attractive. I don't have many friends (understandably) but my brother (ESFJ) has moved back into town and we've been having a blast. Just watching his crazy misadventures amuse me. I am healthy (though dental is a bit wonky). I'm psyched for he new college semester to start. I'm finally getting over my ex (ENTP... sigh) and have my eyes on someone new. I played a large role in bringing about the peace my family is currently experiencing. I'm learning how to be more loving to others; possibly the most important thing I've ever tried to do in my life. And, I have high hopes for the future. So, all in all, life is good with room for improvement.
Errrrmmm... ignoring the debate on toxic v. non-toxic, or whatever... (because I am a conflict-avoidant INFJ and this makes me uncomfortable).
I would say.... Everything. Everything is right and good.
I'm emotionally healthier than I've been in years. I feel strong and free and happy. I've come to terms with a karmic cycle in relationships that has unfolded for the past 5 years or so and is, (I hope!) finally coming to a resolution. I feel very settled internally. Very at peace with myself. Joyous, even. I'm physically healthier than I've been in years. I'm fit, and trim and happy, and feel very self-confident and at ease in my body. More importantly, I feel confident in myself and trusting of my self.
I have shed a lot of past baggage (spiritual and actual), and am cultivating time and energy for the best, brightest most loved people in my life (friends), and freeing up time and mental space to invite someone new into my life in a real way for a love relationship... and... It may be working. I stopped dating for a while to clear headspace, cut contact with a lot of people from my past to clear rmental space, and shed my more toxic relationships. And now, I have started sort of tentatively to see people, even though I still fear it's too soon, but I have had some really good experiences that were quite unexpected and (so far) seem very different from anything that's happened before. And in the process, the universe has delivered some very humorous reminders of my old patterns and relationship, which I've been mindful of and accept with humor as as sort of final lessons of this karmic cycle. So I will take things slowly. Perhaps it's possible to be open-hearted and tentative at the same time, though I'm not yet quite sure how to work this balance.
I've moved on from the past in such a way that I don't miss it anymore. I realize the lessons I *had* to learn from my experiences and my mistakes, and feel like I've grown (though not at all completely... it's always a journey), and have actually cultivated gratefulness for the people who came into my life at the times they did, even in hurtful ways, for leading me to self-discovery and shocking me into the recognition that I was veering from my life's purpose.
I have done some legal work for causes I support and people in need that I feel good about. My career is going well and even though I still doubt if it's my life passion or purpose, I'm grateful for a good career working with people I like a lot. I've helped friends in need through dark times recently, and I'm honored to be there for these people I love deeply, as they have been for me. And, I am writing again, more prolifically than ever.
On the last point, I FINALLY need to collect my ADD-scattered brain and put together submission packets. The creative stuff, I'm okay at; the executive stuff, not so much. So this is a point to keep developing.
So yeah. I think right now, things are good. A lot of things are right, and good. And I am very grateful.
I would say.... Everything. Everything is right and good.
I'm emotionally healthier than I've been in years. I feel strong and free and happy. I've come to terms with a karmic cycle in relationships that has unfolded for the past 5 years or so and is, (I hope!) finally coming to a resolution. I feel very settled internally. Very at peace with myself. Joyous, even. I'm physically healthier than I've been in years. I'm fit, and trim and happy, and feel very self-confident and at ease in my body. More importantly, I feel confident in myself and trusting of my self.
I have shed a lot of past baggage (spiritual and actual), and am cultivating time and energy for the best, brightest most loved people in my life (friends), and freeing up time and mental space to invite someone new into my life in a real way for a love relationship... and... It may be working. I stopped dating for a while to clear headspace, cut contact with a lot of people from my past to clear rmental space, and shed my more toxic relationships. And now, I have started sort of tentatively to see people, even though I still fear it's too soon, but I have had some really good experiences that were quite unexpected and (so far) seem very different from anything that's happened before. And in the process, the universe has delivered some very humorous reminders of my old patterns and relationship, which I've been mindful of and accept with humor as as sort of final lessons of this karmic cycle. So I will take things slowly. Perhaps it's possible to be open-hearted and tentative at the same time, though I'm not yet quite sure how to work this balance.
I've moved on from the past in such a way that I don't miss it anymore. I realize the lessons I *had* to learn from my experiences and my mistakes, and feel like I've grown (though not at all completely... it's always a journey), and have actually cultivated gratefulness for the people who came into my life at the times they did, even in hurtful ways, for leading me to self-discovery and shocking me into the recognition that I was veering from my life's purpose.
I have done some legal work for causes I support and people in need that I feel good about. My career is going well and even though I still doubt if it's my life passion or purpose, I'm grateful for a good career working with people I like a lot. I've helped friends in need through dark times recently, and I'm honored to be there for these people I love deeply, as they have been for me. And, I am writing again, more prolifically than ever.
On the last point, I FINALLY need to collect my ADD-scattered brain and put together submission packets. The creative stuff, I'm okay at; the executive stuff, not so much. So this is a point to keep developing.
So yeah. I think right now, things are good. A lot of things are right, and good. And I am very grateful.
What is good in my life? Most things. There are some annoying things that cause me grief, of course, and things I can (and do) complain about... but over all? Everything's good.
How have I helped others? Well... INTJ here, so I'll go with my blinding repartee & sparkling personality. It makes people happy. Ok, not everyone, but a lot of ones. I'd help a little old lady across the street if I were to come across a little old lady trying to cross the street, though.
What special gifts that are uniquely mine do I delight in offering the world? Me. I delight in offering the world... myself. And what a gift that is! I'm a pretty damned awesome gift, if I do say so myself. (And I do...)
Ok... a little more seriously. :wink:
Everything's cool in my world. Got the globe by it's short 'n curlys at the moment. What's not to love about that? I've helped my Feeler Friend From Afar (not her real name) keep a handle on her relationship with her INTJ... (That actually helps me as much as her, but too much to explain... other than saying, at least I can keep someone else's relationship in one piece.) And what gift's do I give... to offer to this world? I suppose no more or no less than most. I mean... I'm just one wee little human bean, only the most remarkable of people leave their mark on this world. The rest of us have to be satisfied with leaving our mark on our friends and families and those others closest to us. I think I do ok at that.
At least... nobody's tried to smother me in my sleep, anyway. Yet.
How have I helped others? Well... INTJ here, so I'll go with my blinding repartee & sparkling personality. It makes people happy. Ok, not everyone, but a lot of ones. I'd help a little old lady across the street if I were to come across a little old lady trying to cross the street, though.
What special gifts that are uniquely mine do I delight in offering the world? Me. I delight in offering the world... myself. And what a gift that is! I'm a pretty damned awesome gift, if I do say so myself. (And I do...)
Ok... a little more seriously. :wink:
Everything's cool in my world. Got the globe by it's short 'n curlys at the moment. What's not to love about that? I've helped my Feeler Friend From Afar (not her real name) keep a handle on her relationship with her INTJ... (That actually helps me as much as her, but too much to explain... other than saying, at least I can keep someone else's relationship in one piece.) And what gift's do I give... to offer to this world? I suppose no more or no less than most. I mean... I'm just one wee little human bean, only the most remarkable of people leave their mark on this world. The rest of us have to be satisfied with leaving our mark on our friends and families and those others closest to us. I think I do ok at that.
At least... nobody's tried to smother me in my sleep, anyway. Yet.
It seems small, but it isn't to me.
I am comfy with my loneliness, or rather, being alone. I have never felt that. I have pretty much been in a relationship with someone since the age of 13, with hardly a break between. And I've never even really been able to just be alone, and be me, and define that space around me, without having a partner trample all over it.
I came to that through buddhist meditation and acceptance self-therapy (still ongoing, of course). But it was only yesterday that I couldn't wait to jump into my huge bed *alone* with my book, and this is new :kitteh:
It feels good.
I am comfy with my loneliness, or rather, being alone. I have never felt that. I have pretty much been in a relationship with someone since the age of 13, with hardly a break between. And I've never even really been able to just be alone, and be me, and define that space around me, without having a partner trample all over it.
I came to that through buddhist meditation and acceptance self-therapy (still ongoing, of course). But it was only yesterday that I couldn't wait to jump into my huge bed *alone* with my book, and this is new :kitteh:
It feels good.
I'm happy that I have a heart that beats, a brain that thinks (sometimes), and lungs that breathe.
I'm happy that I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, food to eat, and drinks to drink.
I'm happy that I have the opportunity to get an education.
I'm happy that I have options for my future and if I make the right choices, have the ability to live a happy life.
But most of all, I'm happy that, for the most part, my life is good and that I didn't end it.
I've helped my sister by being the one person she can always count on to put her at ease when her anxiety starts up, listen to her when she vents, cheer her up when she's feeling down, share her happiness when it comes her way, and hug her when no one else will.
I don't believe any of the gifts that I have are unique to me and I'm hesitant to even call them gifts but I delight in offering the world my depth of caring, my acceptance of others, my witty and sometimes corny humor, my ability to see multiple sides of an argument, my desire to learn, my ability to recognize and own my mistakes when I inevitably make them, and my ability to respond to reason when it is presented to me.
The last was my favorite, but I hope you do believe they are yours alone - for no one delivers them as you do
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And that's something you've offered the world. YOU. I'm glad you didn't end you, too.
I am a nurse. I always say it's a good shift if I get to eat and a great shift if i get to eat AND pee. And it's always a good day if you don't kill somebody.
One of my really good friends is currently learning about how to be truly well with being alone - it's so good to see the clarity that can come with that experience.
Glad where you are feels good to you.
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