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What is your attraction spectrum? What types of people are you attracted to? What is your range? Or do you have a specific physical type?


My preferences:
I don't have a specific physical type that I'm attracted to, but IRL I'm probably drawn more to the guys with dark hair, brown eyes, & a nice smile. I like sweet, strong, charismatic men. I want to feel protected, by my guy, so I usually go for the big guys, the more manly, the better. Softens my rough INTJ edges.
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My height range would be from 5'8/1.76 & up, I'm 5'5/1.67. I prefer someone with some meat on their bones, at least 200lbs/90kg. & above. Hair, no hair, doesn't matter to me. Skin or eye color, does not matter either.

I think Kevin James is a sexy, loyal, funny guy.
He's on the short end at 5'8/1.76
A little over weight but still attractive.
 

LL Cool J is hot!
Height 6'2/1.88
In great shape, bald, & sensual.

 


Jason Momoa is the man I would consider my, most ideal.
Height 6'4/1.95 He's so pretty!!!
Long hair, tats, scars, outdoorsy, good-natured, sweetie.
 

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I might have a thing for Polynesian men?
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Roman Reigns :drooling:


Edit: I was reminded of the age range, for me it would be, no more than 5 years younger, up to 15 years older.
 

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Im attracted to in shape, active, considerate, intelligent men who are at least 3 inches taller than me. I definitely prefer more regular facial features as opposed to strong or unusual ones. I HATE long hair on most men. Too much/to little muscle/fat is a deal breaker. Couldn't care less about race/ethnicity.
 

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Definitely someone active and in-shape, but probably not a runner because I'm really, really attracted to a tall and broad build - someone really muscular. Beyond that, honestly just like the face of a Hemsworth (nbd not like it's v hard to find or my standards are unreasonably high or anything). The chiseled jaw and really bright or really dark eyes (polarizing in some way) with a great smile and thick hair - u g h. I don't really care for an exact color/shade of eyes, skin, or hair or anything.

Someone really cultured is super important, too. That's not a physical trait, but I really need someone who's eloquent, yet entertaining and outgoing, and really just enjoys experiencing the more refined aspects of culture.

Met my dream twice, but one was an ISTP and between the two of us communication and commitment were both a very real nightmare and we never made it work, and the other looked like a Greek god but I had no romantic interest so I'm pretty much just really close friends with both of them now lol RIP.
 
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Sweet & funny? You are measuring man up to unrealistic standards of likability and humor, ya knows those comedians are photoshopped to sound sweet & funny.

In that spirit... I am more frequently attracted to opposite of my own color palette, redheads and blondes with pale and alabaster skin tones are easy on the eyes, but that's more about frequency then a set rule - my last ex had a beautiful olive skin tone, before her I've dated a Chinese girl who was attractive when she was sober which turned out to be super rare so that ended, and I've had a crush on a black girl, so there are certainly exceptions in regards to color.

More consistently I tend to like specific body features. A pronounced collarbone, a great butt (preferably with more to grab), shapely legs, and specifically for women - a bony high flare hip can go along way (The hourglass from when glass workers wanted to be hip with 1910s cubism). I have moods about boobs, sometimes big ones and sometimes smaller ones, I generally don't expect my partner's boobs to change according to my moods, but if someone did have that superpower...

A friend of mine once commented that I often like "big foreheads", I've never noticed that until he said it - I guess the girls he is into do tend to have more rounded features then the ones I am into. Since then I have noticed some common facial features that work for me: Sharp facial features that at least somewhat follow the cheekbones outline, sharp chin, and I guess large foreheads. A big smile helps to reassure the part of me that's expecting women to need to bite their way out of harm's way, which I generally expect to happen on tuesdays.

Then I have preferences about the nether regions which nobody feels comfortable about because who the f' wants to feel judged about that? But it's not like I've ever felt unattracted to someone because of their nether regions (so far), it's more that if those preferences are met I tend to be more naturally drawn to them in foreplay - it's the point at which I am not doing it just for their enjoyment but because playing there is my new favorite activity.

Don't care about height, but I am 6'4, so my minimum requirement is the ability to walk with someone down the street without people assuming I've kidnapped them as a snack (on a non-tuesday).
 

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Me it’s more about chemistry as opposed to type of body. My current GF is 5.0 tall even and plump. I’m 6”4 240 so quite the difference. Usually the women I go for typically taller but this works for now
 

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I'm liking the fact, you two guys are tall. :cool:


Sweet & funny? You are measuring man up to unrealistic standards of likability and humor, ya knows those comedians are photoshopped to sound sweet & funny.

Then I have preferences about the nether regions which nobody feels comfortable about because who the f' wants to feel judged about that? But it's not like I've ever felt unattracted to someone because of their nether regions (so far), it's more that if those preferences are met I tend to be more naturally drawn to them in foreplay - it's the point at which I am not doing it just for their enjoyment but because playing there is my new favorite activity.

Don't care about height, but I am 6'4, so my minimum requirement is the ability to walk with someone down the street without people assuming I've kidnapped them as a snack (on a non-tuesday).
Hey, you are pretty funny yourself. Do you care to elaborate on the bold question, just curious?
 

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Positive, slim but curvy, intelligent, responsible, has a good hobby (Cooking? Dancing? Singing? etc.), mature, within 2-3 years of my age.
 

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A well defined "hourglass shape" is something I prefer, usually ends up being athletic and non-obese ladies.
Preferably short, 1.55 meters up to 1.7 meters.

I have a slight weakness for blondes and redheads, but I'm not picky about it specifically.
 

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Tallish and active..

I’m 6’5 so someone at least 5’6

I go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week..and bike 7 times a week and climb stairs everyday. So I prefer someone very active... but not necessarily skinny. Hahah not a runner though ;) I can’t run.. I love hiking.

I also like blondes
 

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Hey, you are pretty funny yourself.
I'm photoshopped too.

Do you care to elaborate on the bold question, just curious?
A pronounced mons pubis can be sexy as hell, a cheeky labia majora with literal wiggle room for the grab gives a great texture to play with, and it's hard to say no to a good dose of pink sneakily trying to convince me it's blushing.
 

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I probably have some personal types (character/soul/the person on the inside), but I don't have physical types. All my partners have been fairly different from each other, other than they're all women, lol. Generally speaking, its rare for me to find a potential partner ugly or unattractive if I find who they are internally attractive. I tend to feel most women are usually beautiful as a general rule. That only changes with their personality, for the better or worse.
 

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I probably have some personal types (character/soul/the person on the inside), but I don't have physical types. All my partners have been fairly different from each other, other than they're all women, lol. Generally speaking, its rare for me to find a potential partner ugly or unattractive if I find who they are internally attractive. I tend to feel most women are usually beautiful as a general rule. That only changes with their personality, for the better or worse.
I wish everyone had that attitude.
 

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This topic seems a bit superficial to me since I believe attraction is mostly about chemistry.
Having said that, physical traits are a major part of attraction in many ways.
So ...

Basically i'd like a guy to be about my height; 5'9" (177cm) give or take a couple of inches either way.
Weight no more than 180lbs (85kg). I'm not keen on unnecessary weight - nor skinny/underweight men.
I don't like facial hair (no beards), regular length hair that men have (no baldies or short cuts) and just a light covering of body hair. Colour wise, light brown would be nice.
Generally smooth/soft facial features with a great smile and (blue or intense green) eyes that you could drown in.
Age-wise, no more than five years older and less than ten years younger (i'm already in my mid 50's).

In terms of personality, somebody who is confident and relaxed (stable basically).
He needs to a have an easy going personality with a sense of humour whilst also being a responsible type.
I'm more an intellectual, so a guy who is emotionally 'in-touch' would complement me well.

Essentially just a 'normal' everyday guy ...
Is that too much to ask for?
 

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I mean I would say I have preferences but no deal breakers. If you took the personality of someone I deeply loved and put it in a butt ugly body I would not stop feeling the love. So personally I can't make a criteria for physical looks, they just aren't the main thing for me. I would never ever feel like "oh I really like you but because of the way you look I just can't." For me it's all about the connection, the mind, the soul.
 

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The darling dozen in physicality

Essentials:
1. 2 or more inches taller than me
2. 'masculine' look overall (no 'boyishness' or 'pretty', please)
3. 'normal' fit body with some muscle (not too thin or overweight but not muscular in the extreme either)

Basics:
4. darker features
5. similar age (mine to five years older)
6. good amount of muscle in legs -- a balanced look between a (strong) upper and lower body

Prefer:
7. good physical ability/coordination/reflexes (moves well/efficiently, not clumsy)
8. vibe slightly cold & heavy (immoveable), a serious facial expression is his default
9. body language shows he's obviously comfortable in his own skin/relaxed ('real' confidence, no bravado)

Ideal:
10. sexy hands
11. reasonably well dressed -- some style (awareness/competence/self standard) present but you can tell he doesn't prioritize clothes/try too hard/seek attention
12. some hint of depth/mystery to be uncovered (like his smile is wry rather than affable or his eyes belie a tenderness from deep within)
 

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I think about these preferences for fun, but don't take them too seriously. I'd say roughly about my height -- 5 ft 8 -- give or take a couple inches. Average weight or a little thinner (but if they're thinner, I prefer at least a little muscle definition. Not much.) Longer than average hair for a guy. I do not like the clean cut look. Race-wise, I do have a small preference for other blacks, but it's mostly unimportant.

I AM very particular about personality. I really like guys who are some mix of dorky, but also polite and personable. A lot of emotional sensitivity is a must, and they have to be emotionally mature with it; almost to a point where they'd be called feminine. Use of proper old fashioned manners are a huge win for me, as is the ability to poke fun at oneself. I love modesty, humility, and wholesomeness. Confidence is fine, but I have a lot of respect for men (and people in general) who take their existence with a grain of salt, if you will. Unfortunately it's super rare for me to meet men like this >.<

I mostly only have fictional representations of this. I kind of had a thing for Joel Barish from Eternal Sunshine (enneagram 9 types or other 6s usually do it for me. Sometimes 2s.) I thought his character was really sweet, especially for a man. The only change I'd make with him, ideally, is I'd need him to be a LITTLE more outgoing and expressive.

Another example would have been Steve Carrell's character in 40 year old virgin (just, about 10-15 years younger. xD I'm 26.) Or Michael Cera's character in Juno. Joel Barish:

 

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The pattern I find is:

95% of the time: they have dark hair
90% of the time: they have brown eyes
85% of the time: they are 5ft11+
80% of the time: they are very introverted/reserved

I've found myself attracted to thin people but in general they're either unfit, slightly overweight and sometimes they are fit but not "slim".

My partner fits my pattern: Dark hair and eyes (he's indian), 6ft, introverted and reserved, fit but not thin. And damn, he has big arms and wide shoulders :blushed:
 
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