Is it a double edge sword? Like is your strength tied to your weakness as well?
... yeah, that's. very fair. To be honest, I've heard enough stories like this through my life that it's kinda killed my interest in dating men at all, even if I'm technically bisexual. It... really sucks to not be appreciated, and while it's not inherently a gendered thing to be...Apparently none. I'm not trying to be funny. I've thought about this a lot lately.
I always thought I had plenty to offer, but most good points are lost on the people (men) I've been with. For starters, most have wanted me to be the same as someone from their past, which I can't do. Or they want me to be like some ideal woman (e.g., a movie star), which I also can't/won't do.
I've never cheated in my life, but I've been accused of cheating. I've never tried to "use" anyone (e.g., for a green card or for money), but I've been accused/suspected of this. I don't drink or do drugs, but I've been accused of being an alcoholic and a drug addict (by long-term SOs who should have known me better than that). I'm very intelligent and a good cook and many other things, but mostly they thought I was stupid or complained because I cut the sandwich "wrong," etc.
I have received a few compliments from a few men I was with (honorable, good in bed, intelligent, a good worker, beautiful) and a couple of comments I don't really identify with (feisty, nurturing).
One relationship was a bit different. The man actually liked me. (Unfortunately he died.) Of course one needs to have certain "strengths" in order to be in a relationship (e.g., patience) but often they are wasted.
So I can respect your opinion that you two offer each other the support you each value and require. That was what I got from that.It's like just constantly having your brain hammered by nonsense to the point where it becomes depressing really.
I'd like to say something as someone who very much identifies as bisexual.The fact that my partner and have I are both queer and also neurodivergent is our big strength as a couple together. We cover for our neurodivergence related shortcomings for each other.
However, being queer together is a strength, but converted into a "weakness" by the shitstain of a country that America is becoming for people like us. Things weren't nearly as bad in 2015 even. I can't respect people who you don't even know want to end things like gay marriage, attack trans rightss or even from what I'm hearing lately that they're targeting interracial marriages here in the south.
You think a person is nice and the next thing you know they're ranting about abortion, vaccines, government conspiracies etc; they could be secretly voting in monsters that want to take away any kind of right to exist in this fuckhole of a country. It's like just constantly having your brain hammered by nonsense to the point where it becomes depressing really. I mean, I can't even go get a haircut in peace anymore here.
This keeps us in mainly online communities rather than have much in the way of a social circle IRL. I don't want to be around some fuckwad with horrendous "opinions" even accidentally.
Im super kinky? Im not likely to cheat. Am open to an open relationship. Am not a very jealous person. Am good at reading people body reacts so am a good at teasing. I guess a negitive is: severly emotionally detached. Also if a person genuinely makes me feel things they will be promptly tossed to the curb. As I find emotions a burden and will reject feeling anything for anyone.Is it a double edge sword? Like is your strength tied to your weakness as well?