I don't see where you got that based on what you posted. If the jocular intent is clear, it shouldn't matter that it's words of affirmation. It shouldn't make the person less likely to take a joke. Placing importance on words doesn't make one more prone to ignore intent.I don't see how what I said paints people who value words of affirmation as tone deaf. From what is provided it is implied people who value words of affirmation might not be able to take a joke.
The importance of words of affirmation is less about the compliments, and more about having a feed on the person's thoughts, and how they read when taken in conjunction with the rest of their actions. Originality of thought and eloquence of delivery carry more weight than the positivity/negativity of what's being said.
And I should know, I'm a massive shit disturber that thrives on playful antagonism.
Also since you watered down the other 4 languages to fucking, chores, token dates and knicknacks I think it's only fair I share the overview provided for all of the love languages:
Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.
Words of Affirmation
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.
Just in case someone unfamiliar with the 5 love languages wants to learn enough to contribute to the thread.
Just dishing some of what I took.