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Niss63 mentioned in another post that his love language was touch. He was referencing The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which states that there are five ways in which a person experiences love:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

A person can experience love in all five ways, but there is one that is their primary.

So, what is your love language? If you are unsure, you can take the assessment at The 5 Love Languages? | Five Love Languages

Mine is touch, with Words of Affirmation as a close second. Cuddling with a Significant Other is nirvana.:laughing:
 

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You know the crazy thing about this is that my love language is touch and SWMBO struggles so much with touch--it's easy for her to get the "smothered" feeling going. OTOH, hers is Words of Affirmation--an anathema to an ISTJ who feels false and trite for expressing thanks and positive feedback for every little thing done.:crazy:

So we both have to work at it--a lot!:laughing:
 

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1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Quality time is my main one. I rarely ever initiate spending time with someone, so if I do, it means I really like them. Most of the time I prefer to do things by myself or wait to be invited by someone else. I am also a very private person so if I am spending time with them it shows that they are important to me to let them really get to know me.


The least for me would probably be words of affirmation. I don't even like receiving a lot of it because, to me, actions speak louder than words


and I love cuddling too, of course! :crazy:
 

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Niss63 mentioned in another post that his love language was touch. He was referencing The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which states that there are five ways in which a person experiences love:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

A person can experience love in all five ways, but there is one that is their primary.

So, what is your love language? If you are unsure, you can take the assessment at The 5 Love Languages? | Five Love Languages

Mine is touch, with Words of Affirmation as a close second. Cuddling with a Significant Other is nirvana.:laughing:


Your Scores
6 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
0 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service
12 Physical Touch
Interpreting and Using Your Profile Score
The highest score indicates your primary love language (the highest score is 12). It’s not uncommon to have two high scores, although one language does have a slight edge for most people. That just means two languages are important to you.

The lower scores indicate those languages you seldom use to communicate love and which probably don’t affect you very much on an emotional level. Click Next to learn more about your primary love language and how to put it to use.

Who'da thunk it...:laughing:
 

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Acts of service I think would be my love language...but I have a few friends who love "words of affirmation", etc. So I try and figure out how they like to be shown affection, then show affection, even if it's not all that natural to me. Seriously, I've had my ribs crushed more than one time by an ESFP on a sugar high xP
 

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I think we have all of these languages but its just that one or maybe two are more dominant. I use words of affirmation alot with friends and family because I know its the thing they need most at that time.
 

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@ZenBear: I really like the name as well, reminds me of my friend who I call the Chill Lion. :happy:

EDIT: I tested that my love language was Quality Time, followed by Words of Affirmation. Touch is strong with some people, but I did't pick many of those choices because I tried to generalize it; QT and WoA are more my love languages with MOST people.
 

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Hey ISTJ guys and gals-

I really like learning about what motivates an ISTJ vs. what is just my own quirky behavior. Please take the quiz in the link provided by the OP and post your results here. I'm interested in seeing your results.

Thank ya very much.:cool:
 

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Permission to suck

This is exactly why I still don't have an avatar. That, and laziness :unsure:
I read an article by Stephen Cannell the big time Hollywood and TV writer, he's a dyslexic like me. I was looking for some insight into the creative process. He wrote that early in his career he got writers block. He couldn't finish anything, because it wasn't exactly what he wanted. It was perfection or nothing. He finally realized that it was really about the process of writing and not the end product. You can't hit a home run every time at bat. So, he gave himself "permission to suck". When he did that he was able to move forward. Some stuff did suck, but as he gained momentum his writing improved.

I like to think of that when I'm trying not to suck at life:laughing:
 

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I read an article by Stephen Cannell the big time Hollywood and TV writer, he's a dyslexic like me. I was looking for some insight into the creative process. He wrote that early in his career he got writers block. He couldn't finish anything, because it wasn't exactly what he wanted. It was perfection or nothing. He finally realized that it was really about the process of writing and not the end product. You can't hit a home run every time at bat. So, he gave himself "permission to suck". When he did that he was able to move forward. Some stuff did suck, but as he gained momentum his writing improved.

I like to think of that when I'm trying not to suck at life:laughing:
Nice. I like that. Something I definitely need to work on!


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as for my official scores:

Love Language Scores:
4 Words of Affirmation
11 Quality Time
1 Receiving Gifts
8 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch
 

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EDIT: I tested that my love language was Quality Time, followed by Words of Affirmation. Touch is strong with some people, but I did't pick many of those choices because I tried to generalize it; QT and WoA are more my love languages with MOST people.
This is very similar to me. For me, Touch is strong with my parents and my SO (if I had one), but I'm not comfortable with people other than them touching me. My main one is Quality Time, followed by Words of Affection.

My results:

9 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
2 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch
 
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