How to fix the problem or how to best move forward.For me, I realized that the most helpful thing for me to hear in a tough situation is advice that validates my feelings. It's a bit tough to explain, but I didn't realize this until I started analyzing my interaction with my close ISTJ friend. All aside, I think the words that really calm me the most from her are "it's okay, this isn't your fault at all so you shouldn't blame yourself for what happened."
That's just my own example, but how about for you guys? With my ISTJ friends in general, they usually give me a TON of information about something that happened, and then there's a pause and I feel/sense them waiting for my response. And regardless of my reply, I'm never quite sure if what I said helped them or validated their thoughts. Same thing with my brother, who is ISTx - I'm pretty sure he is ISTJ, with his J preference developing... but anyway, I just want to understand my ISTJ friends and my brother better and be more helpful?
So yeah! What kind of advice/validation do you guys find helpful? And when you rant to someone about your woes or concerns, what is the type of response you are generally looking for?
I've never been a fan of the consoling advice which is naive and just trying to be positive. I just think the person isn't really thinking of the problem, and I need to rant elsewhere.