We're stuck in our heads, so for myself, without even realizing it, I'm often not totally present in a social situation. I'm analyzing my behaviour and others behaviour, thinking about saying the right thing, not wanting to appear incompetent or off putting.In terms of social situations?
I stay objective until action needs to be taken. Part of being objective means that I take no action that affects the outcome. It's sort of like gathering three people for a foot race and being the referee. You wouldn't stand in the lanes because that would affect the times. You would stand off to the side and watch, and spring into action when one player pushes another or someone has crossed the finish line.In terms of social situations?
My eyes will be actively engaged. They will follow the flow of conversation, and my arms will shift positions (from touching my chin to be cross armed to putting an arm on my head -- note: the position of my arms don't indicate what I think about the situation.)How can one tell of its disinterest or if that you want to be approached?
I stay objective until action needs to be taken. Part of being objective means that I take no action that affects the outcome. It's sort of like gathering three people for a foot race and being the referee. You wouldn't stand in the lanes because that would affect the times. You would stand off to the side and watch, and spring into action when one player pushes another or someone has crossed the finish line.
My eyes will be actively engaged. They will follow the flow of conversation, and my arms will shift positions (from touching my chin to be cross armed to putting an arm on my head -- note: the position of my arms don't indicate what I think about the situation.)
If I am disinterested, my eyes focus on a detail on someone or something or they glaze over. In either case I am creating something more interesting in my head.
Okay. I need more information. Is this Five just sitting alone? What do you mean by "not acting"?For the latter question, it was geared more towards not acting or possibly starting/having a convo, and not an actual conversation.
Not socializing but being around people.Okay. I need more information. Is this Five just sitting alone? What do you mean by "not acting"?
If I was in a room with people in it and not socializing, again look at my eyes. If you walk 2-3 feet in front of me, just walk normally without any weird noises, and my eyes notice you then I can be approached. When I am absorbed in my head, I do not notice people walking in front of me. So my eyes noticing you is a sign that I am bored and looking for a distraction.Not socializing but being around people.
Do you think this applies to you or 5s in general?If I was in a room with people in it and not socializing, again look at my eyes. If you walk 2-3 feet in front of me, just walk normally without any weird noises, and my eyes notice you then I can be approached. When I am absorbed in my head, I do not notice people walking in front of me. So my eyes noticing you is a sign that I am bored and looking for a distraction.
Once you approach me continue looking at my eyes. They will either engage you, or focus on a point near your body or on your body if I am interested. If I am disinterested, my eyes will be active and continue moving away from your body/head.
Once a couple of minutes have passed, then my post (#5) applies.
Good question.Do you think this applies to you or 5s in general?
Why / what is your reasoning for this?I would say that it does apply to us 5s, I never really thought about what indicates whether I am attentive or not, but after reading what you typed I realise that that is exactly what I do as well =)
Won't it be exhausting for others to try to keep up with your complex "rules" or whatever they are? I mean, you might find it more comfortable and yes, I kinda do the same, but I don't expect people to keep that in mind when thinking of approaching me.If I was in a room with people in it and not socializing, again look at my eyes. If you walk 2-3 feet in front of me, just walk normally without any weird noises, and my eyes notice you then I can be approached. When I am absorbed in my head, I do not notice people walking in front of me. So my eyes noticing you is a sign that I am bored and looking for a distraction.
Once you approach me continue looking at my eyes. They will either engage you, or focus on a point near your body or on your body if I am interested. If I am disinterested, my eyes will be active and continue moving away from your body/head.
Once a couple of minutes have passed, then my post (#5) applies.
I was presented with a problem of how you could tell when a 5 is open to being approached. I took time and contemplated it. I analysed my behaviors and presented them. It was the first time I had thought about it.Won't it be exhausting for others to try to keep up with your complex "rules" or whatever they are? I mean, you might find it more comfortable and yes, I kinda do the same, but I don't expect people to keep that in mind when thinking of approaching me.
I don't care for how the conversation starts as long as it's a pleasant one.
Waitwaitwait... so if I, as a 5, don't have the same body language, concentrated on the eyes specifically, I'm not introspective enough?I was presented with a problem of how you could tell when a 5 is open to being approached. I took time and contemplated it. I analysed my behaviors and presented them. It was the first time I had thought about it.
Also keep in mind that I was telling the information as a shortcut for the OP (all body languages are essentially a shortcut to the mind), and I expected the information to be used on other Fives. They might not be as aware of the imagine they are presenting, or introspective.
If you reread my post you will clearly see the declaration of "They might not." This means they might not be introspective or they might not be aware of the imagine they are presenting. This means that it does not assert that it is an 'either or' system.Waitwaitwait... so if I, as a 5, don't have the same body language, concentrated on the eyes specifically, I'm not introspective enough?
I know it seems like I'm out to get you, I'm really not, but I just feel like those are wrong statements. In your case, true, in others? Not so much.