I agree with this. Except it's quite common for children to be present and supportive of their parents in a lot of cultures. Especially when they're old, widowed or unwell. In my parents' culture the parents will live with one of their children and help with raising the grandkids.Being present and supporting them in their times of struggle. It takes a certain level of maturity though, and if one’s kids have been raised really, really well, or are something special, then they might be there to support a parent as youth. Too often are young people distracted from the present moment, in my opinion. My mother knew she was loved by us in her last moments on this world, we were constantly there for her, and that’s why she lived as long as she did in the later stages of her illness; the power of love.
Ask me again when my young kids turns into teenagers lolWhat makes parents feel loved? I appreciate responses from anyone but I’m particularly interested in hearing from parents.
Wow, that covers a lot of ground.My kids make me feel loved in different ways. Because they are different.
My ENFJ daughter is really thoughtful about bringing me coffee in the morning. She’s usually up before me getting off of her overnight shift. She does alotta other things related to gifts and acts. I recognize that’s how she communicates love a lot. And that makes me feel loved. She is usually really thoughtful about things like Mothers Day for example and coordinates dinners and gifts etc. She’s always put a lot of thought into these things since she was like 9 and I recognize and appreciate that gesture.
She also makes me feel loved when she comes to me for advice. She just moved out very abruptly because I put my foot down with her and laid down the law. But even so she still knows she can come home lean on my shoulder (literally) and get a hug and ask me what to do about her stupid friends and crushes.
~Weird thing that irritates me that she does to show love~ Social Media Public Displays of Affection. She’s notorious for making posts and dedicating them to people after she recently did something crappy to them. I’ve asked her to stop tagging me in her guilt posts. Lol 😂 she hasn’t stopped. I could really be spared this act. I’d be fine if it came from a more authentic place than trying to rid herself of her own guilt, and it was less frequent. I also wish that she would stop flexing she is 18 and forgetting the manners she was raised with in public spaces. I had to hide her so I don’t see her stories and get irritated with her posting pics flipping the bird. It doesn’t so much offend me at all direct as disappoint me she lacks respect for her elders like grandparents and aunts/uncles. This is not something I relate to as even when I’ve been wild I have a strange line where I show respect to elders who haven’t trespassed.
-My INFP daughter makes me feel loved usually without speaking. It’s in her eyes. She understands me quite a lot without my even speaking on a subject. She likes to make presents a lot for me. Make hand written cards and notes. Sometimes she’ll mimic things I’ve done in the past like write “I love you have a good day” on a piece of paper for me to see. She loves quality time. Which I enjoy. At my job I just had as an Activity Director she’d come in and help me put together all the large events, and be a second hand to game show & craft days, and sometimes call bingo. She’d usually stay and help me clean everything up too.
My INFP also makes me feel loved because of how grateful she is for simple things. She never feels entitled to anything. My eldest ENFJ daughter and my youngest INFP daughter have different dads (they’re 4 years apart). It shows in that my eldest always got whatever she wanted from her paternal side. It’s not that my INFP daughter has been deprived or gone without any needs. But she has never had family that spoil her and it shows.
Whether I take her to go get a new outfit, or shoes, or take her to a museum, or even just a park for ice cream she really values that. It’s just who she is. She says thank you and really means it for the smallest things. She recognizes I’m a single mother and what I give to her in order to have the most of what she can. She sooo much does not want to be demanding that I had to start ordering her to make choices 🤣. Like pick a movie or we’re leaving. Or pick a game or we’re leaving. Or pick a shoe or we’re leaving. Just like my eldest could spare tagging me in public guilt tribute posts. My youngest could spare me by not taking 5 hours to decide between two items 🤣. I had to start telling her to flip a coin or do Inni mini, anything just make a fricken choice lol. Without me deciding.
So in short my eldest makes me feel loved by being thoughtful! And the thought she puts into things. This is not lost on me as I’ve been an event coordinator a few times now. So I can see the thought she puts into organizing things in the details and action/execution. And my youngest makes me feel loved because of how much she appreciates Quality. As she is grateful and just usually happy being apart of the moment.
Side note both my girls make me proud how great they are to each other. My eldest is extremely thoughtful of her sister and takes her to amusement parks etc. And my youngest is often very helpful to her older sis in companionship. I know if something happened to me they will take care of each other. My eldest would look out for her sister environmentally and ensure her needs. And my youngest would be there for her older sis emotionally. They’re extremely loyal to each other. And they compliment each other well.
I guess in this way I’m grateful for understanding love languages to understand how they each communicate their love with me but also the world.
When they were little they made me feel loved when they just called me mommy. Sometimes they still call me mommy, that usually means they want something 🤣 or that they’re hurting and need me.