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What makes you feel connected to people?

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I'm an INTJ trying to figure out how one of my close friends (an ENFJ) works. So, what makes you feel connected to friends, family members, loved ones, etc.?
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I suppose you are trying to figure it out from a Te standpoint? If so good luck :p. Think about all the information you get about things ...... in your mind...... that voice that speaks to you in your head..... the information giver (Ni) and imagine if you made judgements not based on logic but on feelings..... and not your own..... but everyone elses....... the Ni feeds their knowledge of other peoples emotions..... and they are somewhat like a mirror. The connecting part has to do with having similar feelings with someone else. How the connection works can be attempted at being explained but it's still pretty mysterious. I see feelings as rather subjective and logic as objective personally. To connect means that since you are being subjective ..... another subject identifies with your feelings and therefore validating your inner subjectivity. When you are being objective the only things that connect are other objects or impersonal ideas. That's why there is little feeling of connection.... because you yourself are not connecting as much as the objective stimuli/information ( that's not to say that there is NO connection when talking about impersonal information just a lot less). In order to really understand it.... you would have to become it. Learning it from the outside ..... kind of defeats the purpose in a way..... You could say...... what is it like to be wet? And you could get an idea about it and try and figure out why someone would feel wet and how and the purpose of it...... but actually experiencing it is what gives you the.... empathy? I'm getting way off track lol. But anyway.... Fe is kind of hard for me to explain.... especially since I don't even have it..... but I can give you an idea of what making judgments based on feelings is like.
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